Why Happiness is elusive?
It would be in the fitness of thing to know as to what is ‘happiness’. It is different for different people. Many a people whose choice is a ‘maximizer’ one, that person’s eyes are set at a higher pedestal of wellbeing. He is not satisfied if he does not get what he wants and in order to get that level of satiety, he perforce does everything that is in his power to get the same. If his efforts are fructified, well he is satisfied and feels happy. But this satisfaction is only momentarily. In my view, that person is satisfied in relation to the previous set satisfaction level. As his first want is fulfilled, his satisfaction level just takes upward swing. He sets his eyes at another level; this may be that that person has started comparing his level with others in his neighborhood. Then he sets to get his new set level fulfilled. If he gets that through his internal resources it is alright but sometimes he uses other means, may be those means are illegitimate. It may be, he may be successful in duping others to get the resources for aggrandizing his need once but it cannot be for every time. The whirlpool or cesspool of his wants has not decreased even a bit; the greed has really taken over him. And with this new found status that person becomes heady. He may have indulged in all sort of bad habits like drinking heavily, smoking, gambling and may be the worst of worst taking drugs. This is the downfall of every status. That person is not of any use to his family, to his society and finally he is his own enemy number one. He is neither here nor there. Physically afflicted with many diseases like hypertension, blood-pressure, sugar, and what not associated with unethical lifestyle. He is not able to eat his meals even properly because the different diseases inhibit him from doing so. What is the use of new found status symbol when that person is not able to eat for his body what he has earned using all sorts of means all over his life? Can his life be a happy one and is not this situation created by him only?
What is required by us to live a peaceful life. We require simple of whatever one likes; morning breakfast, lunch and dinner for the night and a few snacks if need be and what we need to drap body, some good dresses and boots for the feet. The others requirements can be taken care of if we place a limit on them – with firm resolve this far and no further attitude. Adopting right attitude without much comparing with those you come across is the answer for a permanent happiness.
Just ask those in their privacy to those who are associated with you and have acquired status, whether with everything at their beck and call are they happy? If they are honest with you, you will get a right answer.
It has also been experienced that you’re sources of wealth and how you got also counts. If you earned that legitimately, that acquired money will yield high dividends to you because that is your hard earned wealth. That sort of money when used on your children education and on their upbringing will bring you highest return. Your children will also imbibe you and your ways of living and surely not adopt some other illegitimate ways to accommodate resources and they will not disappoint you in the long run.
Secondly, happiness is also elusive also because we fritter away our latent energy on unwanted and unwarranted pursuits during our life time. We do not know much about our own self. It should never be forgotten that we are having a vast reservoir of innate power which if tapped properly can bring you high dividends in the form of concentrated work that you perform in your day to day work and finally knowing ‘self’ means knowing much about soul. We remain, in our entire life, looking after our body and its need but have just forgotten that we are basically a spirits. Body will just be mixed into dust but our spirit has remained with us from one births to another along with the deeds (karmas) and misdeeds (nishkarmas) we do.
Knowing self will also make us happy because you will running your life as per ‘God ordained speed’ and not running a ‘rat race’. That spiritual life will make much difference not only for this life but for coming ones too. You can also change your bad karmas into good ones by following the right course.
Control your desires and you will see much difference in you and your lifestyle. Set you’re your satiety level and not on the influences of others because it is you only who is responsible for your deeds and misdeeds.
A desire for moon,
A wish simply wishful only,
A hope not in the realm of fulfilling,
A desire for happiness,
A futuristic hope,
Not certain to be fulfilled,
Meaning searching a small needle,
In a disheveled haystack.
May be located or no?
Remains to be seen,
Mere desire leads thee nowhere.
Desire to seek out thy Creator,
Is fraught with doubts of highest proportion,
For desire has future connotation,
A future, nobody is sure of,
And doubt leads thee neither here nor there.
Hunger for anything,
A fervent longing for something,
Being here and now,
Meaning living in the present moment,
A real one,
Quality receptivity opens its bosom,
Shutting the hostile thoughts of future,
Wishful thinking just evaporates,
Leads thee to an objective,
Thee set for thyself,
Thus longing takes thee,
To a pedestal of highest order,
For it is thy avowed friend,
Not a fair weather friend – a mere desire.