We all are selfish to a degree – to a certain degree. Parents do a marvelous job of looking after their children – meet their sundry needs with the resources they have. At times, they’ll go all out, sometimes keeping their house as a mortgage for meeting their children’s requirements. In this process, they sacrifice their today for better tomorrow of their wards! Why they do so is a moot question? There is a huge paradox in this. Every parent want their children to be successful in their lives and to make it happen, they will do everything conceivable to fructify the same. They expect that if they meet their demands today then in their oldage their grown up and well adjusted children will also provide them helping hand while it is hugely required. Accept it or not but it is a truth; without mincing words, all expect such things from their offspring! Call it selfishness or too much of expectations; it all depends on perception. Happiness is generated when we realize the reality of our time and minimize our expectations – may it be from our close relatives or friends. In order to dispel this impression (of not being selfish) some suffer in silence.

Doing good and forgetting it should be our norm and ought to be followed meticulously. A few days back there happened an incident at an institute in which I am presently serving. This incident proved that there are the people who want something in return while they perform good deed. There occurred an incident; two groups of students were fighting outside the precincts of the institute and that too after working hours. Being a busy road, one of the motorists stopped and intervened to stop the scuffle. In the melee that followed, the person who had intervened to stop the fight got injured. The fight, in the meanwhile, was stopped by the intervention other people. But the person who intervened in the first instance wanted an FIR to be filed against the students, media should be called for tarnishing the image of the institution as a whole. I felt at that time, it was a well thought out design against the institute. Notwithstanding the fact that the management and the school administration suspended the indisciplined students pending detailed investigation. But the person who intervened called his friends and created a chaotic situation. Subsequently, I intervened and informed the person concerned if that person has done some good deed, he/she does not ask anything in return – there should not be any selfish motive. It is a kind gesture and should be appreciated as such. The lesson being; when you do good to others, we do not ask for return backs or publicity.


Yesterday there was a TV debate in one of the channels in which a case of a Pathological Lab. which was fudging their test reports of the gullible patients was being debated and that too with the authority of a qualified doctor. The lady doctor too was there on the programme who had worked in this Lab. for a short span. She told that her friend told her name was being misused by the Lab. On investigations, it was found that they were misusing her name for years together –  even after she left her employment there by scanning her signature and affixing on the forms meant for the test reports! How many of the hapless patients must have been duped for their physical state of health through this Lab and what limits the some people could stoop in order to earn some easy money! A selfish deed indeed.


Knowledge is essential component for the growth and development for our life. If this gyan is used positively, this knowhow could be employed for enlightenment and help in self awareness but contrarily if this is utilized negatively for revenge or taking cudgels or lowering the image of others in front of others then it works negatively impairing the well earned image of person concerned. It happens in our offices and sometimes in our homes also. The adage: ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’ should always be kept in mind while castigating others.


One of the best positives of a person is to help the needy when that person requires assistance in any form conceivable. In Holy Quran, it has been mentioned: Establish Prayer and dispense the Purifying Alms (Zakat) and bow in worship with those who bow. One of the best prayers is to help the needy without any expectation of any reward. It ought to be on the basis of ‘left hand not knowing what right hand is doing’. That is a true method of giving.

But we see strikingly different attitude we see now a days. We must have witnessed a sort of competition going on amongst devotees in showcasing their one-upmanship in offerings to the deity in mandirs or any other sacred places. Even the priests give preferential treatment to those who offer more? This is also another kind of ‘return back’ .


Any businessman would expect some profit from his business but to expect more than what is due is also not ethical. For example, when we hoard some essential commodities with an intention to earn more profit than what is our legitimately due then we commit sin which cannot be forgiven. For example, hoarding of dal by some unscrupulous businessmen has created artificial scarcity thus hiking the prices of this commodity as high as 300%.

It is relevant to recount a poem penned by Shakespeare. A Pound of Flesh. The description of Shylock and Antonio is a case in point. While Shylock was in need of money, he requested Antonio to lend him the same but with a rider that he will have to give him a ‘pound of flesh’ from his body and a bond was signed. Antonio did not want money back but only ‘pound of flesh’.

This is a travesty of our time that some people want this type of return back at the cost of gullible. People do not feel any qualm in fleecing others. Selfish ego is responsible for all our ills facing our society. No moral or ethical considerations stop them from furthering their ill-conceived designs.

Conclusively we can say that selfishness, ego, greed, anger,  more expectations than required besides feeling of invincibility even after knowing fully well human fragility etc are responsible for ills bedeviling.  








Author: Harbans

GOD is very compassionate with us in every way, need is to use those blessings which are the results of His bounties and thank Him for everything that He gives us. We should also share these bounties with our fellow-beings. I am the person who loves God and His Creations. I love my Creator and not fear Him. My children are adjusted to life, incommensurate, to their Karma and destiny. I have served as a Sr CGO for about 38 years in a Central Govt. Presently I am serving as an Adm Offer with an Engineering College. I am a spiritual person with liberal ways of thinking. I respect all the religions as I respect mine since I understand that all the religions are the pathways to a SINGLE ENTITY - paths for connecting with Him may be different but the ULTIMATE SOURCE IS ONE. I want to be a student till last day of my life. I am a homeopath also, which I pursue as a social service only. Happy moments, I take as God's Gifts, sad ones I take as His Test for me. I believe that He will surely assist me in this Test of His, come what may. Really. I have more belief in Him than I am on my own. You can comprehend my philosophy in life from my write-ups which I write while interacting with them. I firmly believe that every person has the special characteristic which other fellows cannot have and I respect that person as such. With the grace of Almighty God, a book entitled INNER THOUGHTS which could be purchased online from http://flipkart.com. This book is based on the topics which have been penned down. That is why it is rightly said if intentions are good, everything goes well with you.