MOTHER – THE MOST SACRED RELATION
A most sacred relationship
Which complements all other relations
Withstands all sorts of sufferings
Without even a whisper or a whimper
A fine blended analogy with the Mother Earth
Surface of which is firstly made soft through ploughing
Then seeds are put which sprout
Thence grow to be plants
After sometimes it yields a bumper crop
Which feeds one and all.
From the time of fertilization of the egg inside the womb
Paying unrelenting attention that it entails
For proper and uninterrupted feed
With precautions in abundance
What to be taken and not to be too
Smoking and food & drinks having caffeine are taboo
For gestation inside her being
For a period of nine months
Mother mothers it in every way desirable
Using her head and heart for it all
More use of heart to listen to her growing child needs
Many times forgetting even her own life comforts indeed!
My mother, after my birth
Like all other mothers, took charge of me head-on
What to feed and when not
With limited recourses available
She slept on the side
Where bed-spread was suffused with wetness
Due to me as a kid!
Provided me her warmth of heavenly lap
Cuddled me with her lovely hands
I grew up in her kindest heed
Brimming with everlasting love – so Godly indeed.
Bestowed her rock solid protection on me day and night
Bereft of any complaint at any time
A smile from me was a blissful gift for her
My cries filled her heart with deep pain
Calming of her heart came
When my sobbing came to an end finally
Childish prattle of mine amused her immensely
Whilst I crawled and learned to walk
She felt herself on the ‘seventh-heaven, factually
Once I was down with severest fever, I almost was in coma for days
Medical help could hardly make any difference
I know her sincere prayers came to my rescue.
Then came the time of my schooling
I was a reluctant customer, a truant for going to school
My mom knew how best to handle me in this too!
Cajoled me with eatables as the enticement or bait when required
Reprimanded me sternly whence necessity was felt
As though she knew when a particular dose to be administered
For drawing out the ills & putting the best traits
School and then college went on smoothly under her supervision
Worth mentioning, she was not well-read, so to say
But knew all fine-points of life and how to live it with sincerity!
She exhorted me to face the facts of life squarely
Only weak willed ones flee when confronted with difficulty.
I felt her omnipresence whenever some of my chums offered any allurement
Desisted from any of these fearing, in the bargain, matching punishment
From my mom who could read my face and mind with ease
Telling lies with her never succeeded
Telling truth and get pardoned was only way out.
Thence I got my employment
Far away from my loving mom and lovely home
A home (not house) which did not have much materials
But was brimming with love and care for everyone.
I used to visit my mom only once on weekends
Once on a visit to home – reached late at night
To my utter dismay and consequent pain
She was down with cold and fever
This had taken toll on her health despite medi-care
There were others in home to care for her
In the morn the next day
While the Sun rose from eastern horizon
She intended to take breakfast in the sun – outside on the cot
After light b’fast, she desired to keep her head in my lap!
How fortunate I had been I thanked my God
The one who had provided warmth to me in her heavenly lap
Wanted to keep her head in my lap
Having done thus she felt completely relaxed
As though bidding her final farewell
This peaceful act was not an ordinary one
It was an eternal peace – so solemn!
My honest confession, all positivisms in me are due to my loving mother
All negativisms are earned by me from my own mistakes
Although she is mixed with (Five Gross physical elements) PANCH BHUTS
Yet she resides in my heart for good
And guides me when hugely required.
HOLY BIBLE mentions about mothers: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Holy Quran enunciates: We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.
SRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB says: “A mother does not keep note of the transgressions of her son. O God, I am Your son. Why don’t You destroy my sins?”
IN MAHABHARTA BHISHMA said: The mother is the panacea for all kinds of calamities. The existence of the mother invests one with protection; the reverse deprives one of all protection.
Mother, to say the least, is one of the noblest relationships who understands her offspring because she is graced with soft emotions which could attract even the person with brute mentality thus could have far reaching influence. It is a gospel truth that in the household husband is the head and the mother the heart and when head and heart combine they make huge difference both to the children and the home as a whole. Eternal peace and tranquility in the household happens when emotions of the heart are respected by all in the family. All the important decisions which have far reaching implications on the future of the children should be taken with active participation of mother. By so doing, not only the natural say of the mother will be respected but also there would be peace and harmony in the household.
It should never be forgotten that mother provides the first lesson to her child – what to be done and what to be shunned. This first lesson is the foundation on which the edifice of future education of the child is built. Profuse praise of the child along with necessary punishment commensurate with fault will do a lot of good to the child. There are many mothers who are not adequately educated but they understand their children better because they use their instinct rather than knowledge. Mere rebuking children will not do – a soft approach can deliver much. If nothing works then a pep-talk on need of education by the mother can also do wonders. If this also does not work then the help of the experts in the field could be attained. This should be done after a thorough research. Purpose is to follow all norms which may help child in acquiring knowledge besides character building.
It is important that the mother should keep track of following aspects in mind in order to know and adopt remedial measures /take corrective steps for child’s improvement:-
- Company the child is following while schooling. It should be done with discretion without letting the child know.
- Progress of the child to be recorded. The mother should keep a tab of the child’s progress in all fields : Progress on: health, education, mixing with other children, respect for all, curbing egoistic tendencies (words or sentences usage like: I did it, it is due to me, my contribution made it possible etc), how to face diverse situation with courage, infusing feeling of commitment, spiritual bent of mind, games and sports, positive habit building, learning to obey the orders of elders including teachers etc.
- Best use of internet facilities. Whenever a child is sitting on the computer, mother should monitor as to what the child is browsing. Corrective steps to be initiated if the child is lead astray.
- How best to keep a healthy balance between the household chores and the monitoring child’s progress.
- Sometimes what is learned has to be unlearned. Here care and caution are required.
- Kindle a spirit of understanding and respecting others’ privacy in the child.
- Appropriate appreciation and punishment whenever required should be made for growth of the child.
Finally, from the above it is evident that to look after a child is a whole-time job. If quality time is not given by the mother, the child may be lead astray and lose the moorings for a healthy and upward march in life and a MOTHER knows it all.
An important note: excessive indulgence (mou mamta) by the mother can also spoil the balanced development in the child. Meaning, if a mother sweeps the mistakes of the child under the carpet then sure enough the child will grow up to be a spoilt one. So an objective approach is: admonishing when required and shower love when called for will do a lot of good for all round development of the child.