A valuable personal virtue or trait
Which is helpful in obliterating hate
Cultivated with a lot of personal knowledge
Attained through experiences of days gone by
Which makes us a better person with a lot of maturity
Thus learning the fine art of distinguishing 
Between what is wrong or right that we’re transacting
If at all we care to learn from each of these practices
And with time we learn the fine trait of patience.

After finding solutions to ifs and whats which arise
Thereby learning about patience’s significance
Thence we make use of it as an anti-dote for any annoyance
And keep ourselves cool and composed in all situations
With the people of diverse virtues or lack of these
Some may browbeat us without even an iota of reason 
Thus spoiling our day with caustic reaction
Such people are irrational to the core
They seek chances to reprimand us for nothing  and more
Their limit to criticize us is goes perpetually without any remorse 
They are always on the lookout for an excuse
To downsize us with reason or without any cause
No decency is expected of such edgy lots
Because their statement of belief base is ego
Which woefully rests on hate bereft of any reason
A person with patience

Puts up with everything with grace

Without even a thought of disgrace

That is the true import of patience for heaven’s sake.


Patience means to refrain or endure an adverse situation or circumstance and not to be carries away and be reactive to avoid unpredictable consequences. But moot point is how long we can restrain ourselves – what is the limit to our tolerance or patience? It cannot be limitless or for that matter till such time it starts impacting our own self adversely. There are the people who exhibit forbearance under duress or stressful situation for a longer duration. But what is the option left with us if somebody continues pestering us despite our self-control for a longer duration without rhyme or reason? Cannot we get even with that fellow by reacting appropriately? But this fine-tuned trait should not be practiced limitlessly. When the question of our self esteem comes, then we have to defend ourselves. Not that somebody remains insinuating against us and we remain silent spectators. Therefore, some limit has to be fixed according to our state of our mind and convenience then no further patience so that people may not take our silence as a sign of our weakness.


For anything tangible to happen, time is the important factor. Patience is nothing but a unspoken understanding with our own self that a waiting period for some introspection about the matter at hand is necessary before reacting on a situation or event. This is also with an intention not to be reactive on some provocation which may have adverse implication in the long run.  Now a thought comes to the mind, should we make patience as a practice that we may consider us a pushover and we become easy target for anybody and everybody. This predicament may happen at our homes, in the workplace or in any public forum. 


The litmus test of our self control or patience is put to test when we are subjected to irrational criticism just to lower our self esteem in front of others. This problem gets accentuated when that person is sitting at high pedestal, where our reaction may impact our further advancement in career prospects. In the event of similar thing happening with me, I just keep that alleged criticism at the backburner of my mind, desist as far as possible to keep away from the subject of criticism but keeping my head cool – as though nothing has transpired. I’ve seen its good results. This happened even today, when such situation came my way and I remained cool despite situation.

Patience is an instrument to keep ourselves within the  confines of our own space; never transgressing others’. If even then somebody tries to disregard and cares two hoots about our privacy, then what is the option left for us? I think, we should show that person his/her true place after taking into account the pros and cons. It is good to make patience our virtue but only till such time which may otherwise be harmful to our self esteem, strain our will power to its limits and create guilt and suffering over it? We just have to apply our prudence how much time we need to wait for a certain event to effect us adversely and follow our inner voice! 


It has been observed that impatience  as reaction on the spur of moment, without going into the result of action, may lead to unpredictable consequences. For example, there was a case in UP in which a a couple was hacked to death simply for not paying Rs. 15/-. The killers were thereafter identified and arrested after the incident but two precious lives were lost due to unreasonable impatience. There are so  many examples where a deft handling could have averted a piquant situation. I have seen officials being fired from their jobs simply in silly pretexts because they lost temper when silence could have averted unwarranted situation and resultant consequences.


With a point  to realize the awowed objective, people under the able guidance and leadership of Gandhiji took part in salt satyagraha (remining firm for truth), called Dandi March, as a civil disobedience for purna swaraj (complete independence) based purely on the principles of non-violence and patience despite huge provocation. This was to symbolic breaking of unreasonable Salt Law which in fact had a salutary effect on the independence of India from British empire.


Certainly, there is a limit to our patience. Then question arises, can this limit quantified or how long the individual concerned is allowed to have a free run in testing our nerves or emotions? We have three option:-

(a)    Let the person exhaust his/her vilifications against us without our reaction but bereft of any effect on our self control and our system till such time the person concerned gets tired and stops harassing us. Knowing fully well that that person’s act too has got its limits!

(b)    Or tolerate with patience for sometimes and react at the opportune moment when it hurts the most.

(c)    Or pay back the individual concerned in the same coin instantly so as to avoid further humiliation.



Author: Harbans

GOD is very compassionate with us in every way, need is to use those blessings which are the results of His bounties and thank Him for everything that He gives us. We should also share these bounties with our fellow-beings. I am the person who loves God and His Creations. I love my Creator and not fear Him. My children are adjusted to life, incommensurate, to their Karma and destiny. I have served as a Sr CGO for about 38 years in a Central Govt. Presently I am serving as an Adm Offer with an Engineering College. I am a spiritual person with liberal ways of thinking. I respect all the religions as I respect mine since I understand that all the religions are the pathways to a SINGLE ENTITY - paths for connecting with Him may be different but the ULTIMATE SOURCE IS ONE. I want to be a student till last day of my life. I am a homeopath also, which I pursue as a social service only. Happy moments, I take as God's Gifts, sad ones I take as His Test for me. I believe that He will surely assist me in this Test of His, come what may. Really. I have more belief in Him than I am on my own. You can comprehend my philosophy in life from my write-ups which I write while interacting with them. I firmly believe that every person has the special characteristic which other fellows cannot have and I respect that person as such. With the grace of Almighty God, a book entitled INNER THOUGHTS which could be purchased online from This book is based on the topics which have been penned down. That is why it is rightly said if intentions are good, everything goes well with you.


  1. One of the best traits of an individual to succeed in life is PATIENCE under any situation whatsoever. A person with patience will accept any challenge and face it squarely. Regards

  2. out of the three options …. the third one is not advisable at all but then which one to choose between first two. The first one, though I feel is the best one but not an easy one to follow for us worldly beings.

    1. First of all thanks a lot for appraising the write up and offering your kind comments.

      Yes madam, third one is a bit hard to follow but good things are the ones which test and tax our patience otherwise we would be sitting on the fence – neither hare nor there and patience would be a mere wishful thinking for us. Regardsx

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