ON BEING POSITIVE
Childhood is the time considered most appropriate
Whence we can put matters of common sense
in our growing offspring
What they should do and what they should be avoiding
So that they cement their place
As responsible citizens when they grow up
And try to come out of the negative situations
By their grit and determination
Which they have learned in their childhood
Failures would be there, no doubt
But how to come out of situation
Depends on what they learned in their early days
Qualities of patience
With sufficient dose of persistence
And high quantity of perseverance
Will surely make much difference..
ON HABIT FORMATION
It should be our sincere endeavour to put positive thoughts In our young minds so that they display positivism in their thoughts and deeds.. Even criticism should be with an intent to effect positive change in them.. It should not be; criticism for criticism sake – to lower them in the eyes of peer group. There is a case of a language teacher who is intelligent, upright, has impeccable class control, cynosure of students’ eyes, produces 100 results in her subject but one thing which is lacking in her is the display of intolerance whenever she is criticized (even for her improvement) or provoked. This intolerant attitude despite all the positive traits in her makes her unpopular with other staff members. It goes to show that we should cultivate a healthy mix of balanced traits and avoid going to extremes in some cases and adopting middle course in others.
POSITIVE PERSONS ARE OPTIMISTIC AND CONFIDENT IN NATURE
While facing a piquant situation, the people with positive mindset always show optimistic and constructive approach rather than destructive and pessimistic one and they do not drag their feet rather they face the given situation head on. Admitted that doubts may still persist on the way yet solutions are not far to seek.
Moving forward despite hurdles is need of the hour and this could meaningfully be possible when we possess progressive mentality. When faced with negative situation, ways and means should be explored to make it happen rather than accepting it as a play of destiny, It should be with firm belief – only those who believe can succeed.
For weeding out undesirable or negative tendencies which impede our progress, it is essential to always cultivate all those desirable traits which not only assist us in variety of ways but also make the environment around us congenial for a purpose living. .
HABITS ARE FORMED DURING CHILDHOOD / PARENTS CAN MAKE OR BREAK A CHILD
It is observed that habits start forming from the age of three years. It is also a fact that when these habits are set it is difficult to remove them. The kind of environment we live in the family in the childhood remains indelibly in slate of our mind for good. Main objective of ours should be how to remove these unfairness which has taken root in our system. This mental conditioning could be removed by self effort and will power. The mental and emotional attitude that we imbibe by focusing on the bright side of life go a long in removing childhood prejudices and unfair conditioning. Today, I came across a child studying in class 2nd. He is very naughty and fights with every other students in the class. This was telephonically conveyed to the parents of the boy in question. His teachers told that the parents of the boy do not attend any PTM. It goes to show that parents do not take care in streamlining the behavior of the boy and that is why the boy has become wayward. in his attitude.
It is relevant to mention about a student (in her teen); who is otherwise very meticulous in her studies and intelligent but once she got comparatively less marks in a test in mathematics. On close scrutiny it was found that her disturbed state of mind was partly due to overconfidence and partly due to bickering between parents. Such was the intensity of negative feeling created in her mind that she was not able to come out of this negative mindset for a few days. During this period of negativism, she was not able to concentrate on her studies and hence could not solve even the easiest of sums which she used to solve easily. This case history made me to imagine, how a child loses his/her composure and confidence when engulfed in negativity created by his/her own nears and dears.
A person can come out of this mental conditioning partly through training on specifics (3Ps) patience, perseverance and persistence in will power,
Our patience is tested on day to day basis. When somebody provokes us with something in order to lose our balance, there are two ways open for us, either we react in equal measure or we just are not reactive and remain calm despite provocation. When somebody provokes us, it means that person is himself/herself, to some degree, worked-up and is in emotionally disturbed mindset and also want us to feel the heat. The best course of action should be to remain calm and composed without any complaining or showing any annoyance. These are the hard words but a man with traits of patience will sure have these.
A person facing earth-shattering situation will have difficulty in handling that. He/she has to bring together all the willpower and strength of conviction and unflagging faith in his/her own capabilities and -to tide over the daunting situation and come out unscathed. A person who persists in effort despite difficulty with cool-headedness wins in the long run and even God comes to that person’s succor.
In life, we face many types of difficult situations, how best we determine to come out of these unpredictable situations which test our resolve depends solely on us. Not that we meet with success always. There are times when our sincere efforts do not bear fruits. Then what is the option. Leave the ground and engulf in despondency and bear the brunt of its consequences? Or exert still harder and come out successful. Belief in our capabilities comes when our persistent bring about tangible results. It is through sustained practice which bolsters our chances of success that we undertake become perfect in any creative work. Nothing is given to us on the platter should always be remembered.
TRAITS OF A POSITIVE PERSON
A person with positivism always is balanced in his approach towards any task he/she undertakes. He/she is not disturbed by failure and also does not go overboard whenever he tastes success in life. For him life is a real drama and the ought to played on persistently. He / she remains in happiness and believes that obstacles in life have to be fought. Positive thinking has its effectiveness. this trait helps in keeping the person away from fear psychosis and resultant waywardness. Mostly, the barometer or mantra of success depends on the degree of positivism one possess.
Moving ahead despite hurdles is need of the hour and this could meaningfully be possible when we possess progressive mentality. When faced with negative situation, ways and means should be explored to make it happen rather than accepting it as a play of destiny with the thinking that only those who believe can succeed.
RELIGIONS AND POSITIVISM
For a person endowed with positive attitude, religion for him/her is the way of life for knowing / exploring self or for self realization and uniting factor and not dividing communities on the basis of separate religious thoughts and belief. For a positive oriented person, religion is a pathway for establishing connectivity with God. The treasure of wisdom given in various scriptures of religions should contribute the unite the societies rather than divide them.
PERSON WITH POSITIVISM IS IN TEARING HURRY TO REMOVE TEARS FROM OTHERS’ EYES
A person who is endowed with positivism comes to the rescue of his fellow being whenever he finds somebody in need.
A PERSON WITH NEGATIVITY DOES NOT SEE LIGHT AT THE END OF A TUNNEL
Dark clouds do not remain for good but a person with negative outlook just sees darkness everywhere. He does not see brightness at the end of the tunnel rather he feels engulfed in darkness only. Difficulty for such person is not an opportunity to prove a point but on the other hand it is another onslaught of difficult situation. He does not know how to come out of this situation because nobody has taught him.
POSITIVE PERSONS ARE OPTIMISTIC AND CONFIDENT IN NATURE
When facing a piquant situation, the people with positive trait always show optimistic and constructive rather than destructive and do not drag their feet rather than facing the given situation. Admitted that doubts may arise on the way yet solutions could be explored.