Life doubtlessly is intricate one
We’re responsible for it a simple one
With our cool-headed response
To any not so pleasant occurrence
This sometimes places us in the seventh heaven
When we’re placed suitably
The other times we’re placed lowly
Without an iota of its expectancy.
But harsh truths are to be faced squarely
Without any grudge against anyone
Subsequently, when we feel let down
Then, It would be peril of our own
There will not be any way out then
With all the truths and half-truths
Looming large and staring large in our faces
We have no alternative
But to live with all the highs and lows
Which the circumstances place us in
As these harsh realities are to be experienced and lived
Rather than feared and run away from them
With unflagging belief in ourselves
Along with the belief on our Creator.
ON HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE.
First of all, what is the truth, it is the statement of fact which could be tested at any place or at any time; it is exactitude, certainty, without even an iota of doubt etc. The result of which cannot be disputed. Whereas harsh truths or hard realities of our lives have to be faced and sometimes lived with acceptance since there is no alternative for us.
When we talk about TRUTH, we always associate it with reality, which cannot be disputed. God is TRUTH. Truth cannot be disputed by any stretch of the imagination. But when we associate with harsh truths then this realism prompts us to have the reserve of the patient to not to feel slighted or disappointed and go on in life without let or hindrance. It is, therefore, in the fitness of things to infer that those who are respected in the society should set an example for others to follow in any situation or condition that we face in life.
In Bhagwad Gita, it has been emphasized: Because, whatever noble persons do, others follow. Whatever standard they set up, the world follows.
The following are some of the HARSH TRUTHS which we have to face in our lives and we cannot disregard these. Sometimes we have to ignore them and other times we have lived with them. If we do, then, it will not be possible for us to live with peace and ease.
CORRUPT PRACTICES IN GETTING LOAN FROM THE BANKS
The recent bank frauds in India in which the Bank officials and doled out loans in crores deceitfully to fraudsters without concrete securities. The loan takers just left the country with their booty – a thumbs down for the enforcement agencies and other law enforcement agencies indeed. The analogy could be cited for ‘a fence eating the crop’ – those who are in charge of protecting the banks swindle and embezzle the liquidity available in the banks. If our own stable is not cleared off such fraud playing bank officials the hapless taxpayers have to live with this crop of corrupt people. Why other countries accept such people with questionable credentials in their midst is also a moot point? This a reality we Indians have to live with until such time we change our laws and consider such willful defaulters/fraudsters as financial terrorists. Those who are assigned the duties to safeguard and protect the taxpayer’s funds in the Banks should transact their duties should work within the ambit of rules and should not be the willing helper in spreading corruption. We have to weed out corrupts and make the financial institution’s corruption free. Corruption is a hard truth and we all have to face it squarely. Harsh punishment to the defaulters is only answer for this HARSH TRUTH.
THREE NEGATIVE TRAITS WHICH REMAIN HAUNTING US
There are three negative traits which remain visiting us despite our best efforts to avoid them. These negative traits are anger, greed, and lust. We ought to make sincere efforts so as to eradicate these from our system. We want to not to reactive to any untoward happening which causes anger, we compare ourselves in every respect with others which produces greed for more and lust means to hanker after; fame, wealth, sex outside the institution of marriage without true love attached to it. We have to be guarded against all these in our lives if we want to live a balanced life. If one of these remains to haunt us, then we have to face the realities of life when it will affect our lives.
EVERYBODY IS SELFISH TO A LIMIT.
When it comes to our self-respect, we all are, to a limit, selfish. Reasons may be any; call it our compulsion, out of necessity due to the situation or any other reason for that matter. For instance, we give sermons to others for giving quality time to our offspring for infusing in them value systems and etiquettes but when our own children misbehave with others we just defend them!
It has been seen that our religious preachers give out lectures on how and why we should keep cool despite provocation. But, maybe, the same preachers may not be adopting tolerance when it is hugely required. I experienced this when a discourse was going on and a boy inadvertently disturbed his speech. This was sufficient provocation for hitting the boy who unintentionally intruded in front of the congregation. Such people are there who preach something to others but do not follow the same themselves. We have to live with this harsh truth.
EVERYBODY IS JUDGMENTAL TO A DEGREE.
Many of us become hypercritical when somebody intrudes in our privacy but we ourselves butt in somebody else’s space then what?
LIFE SEEMS UNFAIR SOMETIMES
Evidently, every one of us, sometimes, feels let down by the unethical behavior of our own people without rhyme or reason. It is all the more painful when our own blood relatives are involved. This could be termed as emotional blackmail but we have to bear with all these and go on in life.
ACCEPTANCE IS THE BEST REMEDY
There are times when we have to accept some realities. We make sincere efforts to get through some examinations but despite our best efforts, we are not able to succeed. The best way then is to accept the reality and be with it with an idea that that profession is not for us. Try something else instead. Similar is the case with our relationship. If we have made our best efforts to mend fences with our friends but that friend does not come round to our viewpoints despite our best efforts then the best thing is the acceptance with, in fact, belief in God.
Holy Bible clearly mentions: Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the Lord your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.”
WE MAY NOT BE LIKED BY SOME PARTICULARLY, HARDLY MEANS WE ARE NOT LIKEABLE
There are occasions when we may not be liked by others due to one reason or other. Or worse still, we have the trait of telling spade and spade and others may not like it. In this sort of a scenario, we have to accept the reality.
WHEN OUR MERIT DOES NOT FIND TRACTION
There is a huge travesty of fact when despite our best qualification for a job, we are ignored and somebody else with less merit and qualification is put above us. This is disappointing but we have to accept the harsh reality and transact our part of the job with demur.
WHEN OLD PARENTS ARE LEFT AT THE MERCY OF ELEMENTS BY THEIR OWN
There are people who throw their old parents to fend for themselves when they have spent every penny on the children upbringing, education and for the home to shelter them. But when the children grow up, instead of looking their old parents, they throw them to the mercies of elements. This is the height of insolence and this act will surely earn KARMA DEBT for them.
HARSH TRUTH ABOUT DEATH
While we are conducting ourselves in our day to day lives, we should never forget that death is a harsh truth and would surely visit us one day; time and place, nobody knows for sure. Those who lead a spiritually oriented lifestyle just do not take death as a reality since such people lead a God-oriented life; with association or partnership with Him.
Holy Quran proclaims: Who created death and life that He may try you- which of you is best in deeds; and He is the Mighty, the Forgiving
FACE MUSIC IF WE COMMIT KARMIC MISDEMEANORS
It should always be kept in mind that Newton’s third law of motion always stands in good stead; ACTION AND REACTION EQUAL AND OPPOSITE. It is a harsh truth that if we transact any immoral turpitude (even if others are not knowing), we earn Karmic Debt and the results of this debt have to be borne by the person concerned – this birth or the birth(s) just following this one.
IF WE OVERSPEND OUR EARNINGS WE HAVE TO FACE THE MUSIC
The fact stands that if we spend more than what we earn and become debt-ridden then we will have to face the consequences of harsh truth of this extravagance. While spending, we have to take care that our expenditure should match our earnings. Care ought to be exercised that we should keep some amount for rainy days too – to meet unforeseen expenditure on emergencies which may creep in without any inkling.
CONTROLLING OR REINING IN OUR MIND
It has been observed that those who are mental loafers are not able to focus on anything – it may be studied, it may be meditations/prayers or any other job which requires concentration. Therefore, those whose mind goes awry on silly pretexts will have to make amends and control their mind otherwise they will have to face the HARSH TRUTH of its unpredictable consequences.
Then, in life, we have to face the HARSH TRUTHS which may visit is without any warning to us; at our home front, at our workplaces, at our formal or informal institutions etc. These harsh truths should never be ignored otherwise will cause an irreparable damage not only physically but also psychologically.