GOOD & NOT SO GOOD TIMES
A truth stares large at our face
A realism which could be experienced
Anytime and anywhere
That time is a great healer
It is neither our friend nor our enemy
Time gives us good returns when our Karma is the best
It is worst when Karma is the worst
Tough time passes awfully slowly
There are breaks and pauses at every step we take
Indeed very it passes very sluggishly
Every fraction of the tough moment is spent
Seems like hours pilled together
Bringing in its wake
Countless and unpredictable miseries
Adversely affecting the lives
Of the persons so affected.
Contrarily, the good time passes
As quickly as it comes
It does not cling-on with us for long
As we may wish to prolong
Because of our wishes in reality
Remain wishy-washy cravings.
That which is destined to us humans
With the grace of the Omnipotent and Omniscient
Remains with us till eternity
We can just enjoy those bounties graciously
And be thankful to Him
For giving us good times
Or not so good times
Which may depress us.
But our sincerest prayers
To You O Lord
Do grant us wisdom
And with it confidence aplenty
To face that ‘not so good time’ with equanimity
In association with Thee
O Lord in the Heaven.
When feeling depressed
Provide us Thy eternal succor
So that every ill-omen
Affecting our psyche
In the thin air, it evaporates
With Thy presence near us all.
The God is the creator of everybody and everything
He helps in the fruition of everything
Thee is the destroyer of everything
For creating everything afresh
Hence listen to our sincere prayer
Erase every speck of despair and delusion
Which remains in our constitution
And enlighten us with Thy Light
For eternal balance in our life
To be at peace and in ease
In good and in bad situations alike.
GOOD AND NOT SO GOOD MOMENTS
It should always be remembered that life is a mix of good and bad tidings. No person in this world is without problem in life. Some may have the physical problem, some may have psychological problems, others may be down with financial stringency etc. Guru Nanak Dev Ji’s wisdom suffusing words should always be remembered: NANAK DUKHIYA SAB SANSAR. Those who say that they do not have problems are, in fact, speaking the half-truth – having bound mindset. Let’s free ourselves from mental clutches.
In hard times, Bible stresses to be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.
IF PROBLEMS ARE THERE, THE SOLUTIONS TOO ARE NEARBY
Now coming to our all-pervasive sorrow, listless conditions, broken promises, dissatisfaction in plenty, remaining stressed all the times etc. I am sanguine; if the problems are there the solutions may also be there in the problems itself. The tough times though passes with difficulty, yet this time could be changed with tenacious belief in our God and ourselves. Tough times always teaches us something, we should always keep a healthy balance in all situations.
In Bhagwad Gita, it has been emphasized that in the material world, one who is unaffected by whatever good or evil he may obtain, neither praising it nor despising it, is firmly fixed in perfect knowledge
HABIT FORMATION – BOTH POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE ONES
Importantly, there are the people who make it a chronic habit to feel sad on any impulse or issue under the sun. In essence, a habit is formed by our free will, when we repeat a particular thought process or action thereto, a number of times. It may be being abusive (as a habit), any bad habit like smoking, drinking, initially started as a prank or a practical joke, becomes a habit if this prank continues for a number of times. While this habit becomes an acute and then chronic habit, it does not leave us so easily there afterward. This is true of the habit of remaining sad without rhyme or reason. Those who see darkness in any shred of opportunity, without even reflecting that the opportunity could lift our spirit and change our life meet frustration and disappointment in life.
BEING REACTIVE CAN CREATE UNPREDICTABLE SITUATIONS
On my way to the office, I happen to witness a nasty incident in which a car washer got bashing simply because he used abusive language while giving way to a fellow passerby to cross that narrow passage. When the passerby requested him for giving a little way so that he could pass, instead he retorted; ‘can’t you wait for a while, you son of a bitch’. The passerby reacted with a slap on the face of the car washer.
In the meanwhile, the car owner too joined the fracas. Fisticuffs were exchanged which resulted in an innocuous no-situation at all turning into a ferocious fight between the two parties. None of the two parties were listening each other. I also tried to intervene so as to quell the situation but to no avail. Finally, police intervention was sought. The police party called the two parties to the police station and the case was finally settled amicably; with a lot of unnecessary bad blood.
The inconsequential remark of the car washer resulted into violent reaction by the passerby, resulting in hot arguments between the car owner and the person concerned creating not wellness or pleasant situation between the two but an unpleasant one resulting wastage of time, energy, money besides creation of malice, resentment, and stressful situation. This proves that we are responsible for creating unnecessary stressful situations. A half-hearted approach to solving any problem could result in inappropriate and unpredictable consequences.
CREATION OF WELLNESS CAN SOLVE ANY PROBLEM
A professional who follows his/her profession with insightfulness, the right attitude, creating congenial situations even at hopeless situations, bringing to bear all the experiences as though that was the only case for that person to handle, focusing undivided attention to the task etc. can make the huge difference even in trying situations. All good traits put together could create the cool atmosphere even in tragic situations.
I came across this sort of positive situation in an Operation Theatre. On experiencing blurredness in the vision a few days back, I took my wife to the Ravi Eye Foundation, Janak Puri, New Delhi. The doctor (Dr. Ravi Thandani) recommended the operation. After all the test formalities were completed, he created positive atmospheric inside the OT and conducted an operation proving his proficiency and adroitness in his profession. He combined his professional ethics with humane touch which is a hallmark of any profession and especially so of a doctor.
COMPASSION MULTIPLIES OUR HAPPINESS
A person who cares for others creates situations and conditions with which he/she changes the lives of others with his thoughts and Karmic deeds.
Yesterday, three persons from came to our office from a Gurdwara, for seeking contributions. This fund collected is used for the welfare of downtrodden especially in the rural area. One of our colleagues S. Arminder Singh, contributed Rs. 1,00000/- from his savings – all his savings! This way, he would have multiplied his happiness and divided smiles. Such people are rare humans, humane, compassionate along with all the wonderful traits mixed together. Those who are empathetic towards needy are really loved by our Bhagwan Ji.
Following should be kept in mind to decrease sadness and increase our wellness:-
Increase your Self Esteem
Cultivate good habits, like helping needy – materially or imparting education or in any way you can. The wellness you will create will help you enhance your self-esteem if you make this as a habit – but it should not be as a sign of showcase but selfless service for a cause.
Unlearning the old rut of sadness
In order to unlearn the bad habit it is a must to start how and under what conditions or situations you imbibed the trait of negative thinking about yourself. Then unlearn that part through trial and error method. You will be unsuccessful initially but just continue to act in a positive way.
Dissatisfaction as a habit
During my interactions and dealing with others, I have seen people having everything; material possessions, sound health, happy family, good career prospectus including everything that a person needs for a living yet they are not satisfied with life. They compare their everything with others and as a consequence is just like you; stressful, disappointed, sad etc.
Limit your needs. We should try to limit our needs lest our needs put us in distress in the long run.
Lead a simple life. The simple life is a purposeful life. The simpler the lifestyle, lesser are our needs and hence lesser are our financial related problems.
Our ego is our enemy. Those who have egocentric tendencies cannot see anything beyond their sphere of activities. They are the prisoners of their own inconsistencies hence add-up their own problems.
Spiritualism makes difference. A balance results when we perform the task at hand adopting patience, perseverance, and equanimity as the basis to face life, its problems, and challenges. Spiritual oriented lifestyle makes the huge difference
In Holy Quran, it has been very clearly mentioned to seek Allah’s help with patient perseverance and prayer. It is indeed hard except for those who are humble.
Never compare yourself with others. Compare yourself with those who are afflicted with physical and mental diseases and cannot have any incentive for growth and development in their lives.
Conclusively, it could conveniently not be forgotten that life is a mix of happiness and sadness. If happiness is there, sadness too will be there somewhere. We love the fragrance of a rose flower which refreshes us but rose plants too have thorns; should never be forgotten with a lesson that tough times provide us the opportunity to face life’s challenges with patience and perseverance.