MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED (MOTHER’S DAY TODAY – MY WARM SALUTE TO ALL THE MOTHERS)

 

MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED

(MOTHER’S DAY TODAY  MY WARM SALUTE TO ALL THE MOTHERS)

A most revered of all the relationship

Which complements all other relations

Withstands all sorts of sufferings

Without even a slightest of the whisper.

While taking an early morn stroll

I became a witness to the love of mother of other sorts

So peculiar but wonderful at that

A sparrow collecting the grains

With its beak to be fed to its young ones

A bitch feeding its pups

A squirrel collecting its early morning feed

For its young one, so dear

So that it does not remain without feed

whilst they all had their feed or not?

I really can fathom not!

That is the strangest and most wonderful

Instances of motherliness.

A finely blended analogy with the Mother Earth

On whose surface life of living beings

Are nested all the elements of Nature

Air, water and sun’s energy without any bias to all

Provides succor to all birds and animals aplenty

From its bosom springs the life-giving crops

Which feed us and bestow us energy

Which sustains our life on this planet.

From the time of fertilization of an egg inside the womb

Paying unrelenting attention that it entails

For proper and uninterrupted feed inside the womb

With the observance of precautions in abundance

What to be taken and not to

Smoking and food & drinks having caffeine are taboo

For gestation inside her being

For a period of nine months

Mother mothers it in every way most desirable

Using her head and heart for it all

More use of heart to listen to her growing child needs

Many times forgetting even her own life’s needs indeed!

My mother, the most venerated one

Who has already left for her heavenly abode

I reminisce the days whilst she tended me

Showering all the care that she could extend

Like all other mothers took charge of me head-on

What to feed and when not

With limited recourses at the disposal

She slept on the side

Where bed-spread was moist

But protected me from getting wet

So as to bestow interrupted care and protection as a kid!

Provided me her warmth of the heavenly lap

Cuddled me with her lovely hands

I grew up in her kindest heed

I used to call her ‘BOBO JI’ with love

Brimming with the everlasting love – so Godly indeed.

Gave her rock-solid protection on my day and night

Bereft of any complaint at any point in time.

A smile from me was a blissful gift for her

My cries used to fill her heart with the deepest agony

Calming of her heartaches came

When my sobbing came to an end finally

Childish prattle of mine amused her immensely

Whilst I crawled and learned to walk

Or talk first incoherently

She felt herself on the ‘seventh-heaven, factually.

Once I was down with the severest fever

I almost was in the coma for days

Medical help could hardly make any difference

Everyone in the family knew

Her sincere prayers came to my rescue.

Then came the time of my schooling

I was a reluctant customer, a shirker – for going to school

My mom knew how best to handle me in this too!

Cajoled me with eatables as the enticement or bait when required

Reprimanded me sternly whence its necessity was felt

As though she knew when a particular dose to be administered

For drawing out the ills & putting the best traits

School and then college went on smoothly under her supervision

Worth mentioning, she was not well-read, so to say

But knew all fine-points of life and how to live it with sincerity!

She exhorted me to face the facts of life squarely

Only weak-willed ones flee when confronted with difficulty.

I felt her omnipresence whenever some of my chums offered any allurement

Desisted from any of these fearing, in the bargain, matching punishment

From my mom who could read my face and mind with ease

Telling lies with her never succeeded

Telling truth and get pardoned was only way out.

Thence I got my employment

Far away from my loving mother and lovely home

A home (not house) which did not have mmany material comforts

But was brimming with love and care for everyone.

 

I used to visit my mom only once on weekends

Once on a visit to home – reached late at night

To my utter dismay and consequent pain

She was down with cold and fever

This had taken the toll on her health despite medicare

There were others in the home to care for her

In the morn the next day

While the Sun rose from the eastern horizon

She intended to take breakfast in the sun – outside on the cot

After light b’fast, she desired to keep her head in my lap!

How fortunate I had been I thanked my God

The one who had provided warmth to me in her heavenly lap

Wanted to keep her head in my lap

Having done thus she felt completely relaxed

As though bidding her final farewell

This peaceful act was not an ordinary one

It was an eternal peace – so solemn

A final adieu from her to us all!

 

My honest confession, all the traits  in me are due to my loving mother

All negativisms are earned by me from my own mistakes

Although she is mixed with (Five Gross physical elements) PANCH BHUTAS

Yet she resides in my heart for good

And guides me when hugely required.

 

HARBANS KHAJURIA

VENERATED MOTHER

The Mother, truthfully, is one of the noblest relationships who understands her offspring because she is graced with soft emotions which could attract even the person with brute mentality thus could have far-reaching influence.

It is a gospel truth that in the household husband is the head and the mother the heart and when head and heart combine they make the huge difference both to the children and the home as a whole. Eternal peace and tranquility in the household happen when emotions of the heart are respected by all in the family. All the important decisions which have far-reaching implications for the future of the children should be taken with an active participation of mother and father. By so doing, not only the natural say of the mother will be respected but also there would be peace and harmony in the household. The training in value system imparted by the mother remains with us throughout our life.

HOLY BIBLE mentions about mothers: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

It should never be forgotten that mother provides the first lesson to her child – what to be done and what to be shunned. This first lesson is the foundation on which the edifice of future education of the child is built. Profuse praise of the child along with necessary punishment commensurate with fault will do a lot of good to the child.

There are many mothers who are not adequately educated but they understand their children better because they use their instinct rather than knowledge. Mere rebuking children will not do – a soft approach can deliver much. If nothing works then a pep-talk on the need of education by the mother can also do wonders. If this also does not work then the help of the experts in the field could be attained. This should be done after a thorough research. The purpose is to follow all norms which may help the child in acquiring knowledge besides character building.

SRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB says: A mother does not keep note of the transgressions of her son. O God, I am Your son. Why don’t You destroy my sins?

The mother should keep track of following aspects in mind in order to know and adopt remedial measures /take corrective steps for child’s improvement:-

  • The company the child is following while schooling. It should be done with discretion without letting the child know.
  • The progress of the child to be recorded. The mother should keep a tab of the child’s progress in all fields : Progress on: health, education, mixing with other children, respect for all, curbing egoistic tendencies (words or sentences usage like I did it, it is due to me, my contribution made it possible etc), how to face diverse situation with courage, infusing feeling of commitment, spiritual bent of mind, games and sports, positive habit building, learning to obey the orders of elders including teachers etc.

Holy Quran enunciates: We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.

  • Best use of internet facilities. Whenever a child is sitting on the computer, the mother should monitor as to what the child is browsing. Corrective steps to be initiated if the child is lead astray.
  • How best to keep a healthy balance between the household chores and the monitoring child’s progress.
  • Sometimes what is learned has to be unlearned. Here care and caution are required.
  • Kindle a spirit of understanding and respecting others’ privacy in the child.
  • Appropriate appreciation and punishment whenever required should be made for growth of the child.

Finally, from the above, it is evident that to look after a child is a whole-time job. If quality time is not given by the mother, the child may be lead astray and lose the moorings for a healthy and upward march in life and a MOTHER knows it all.

An important note: excessive indulgence (mou Mamta) by the mother can also spoil the balanced development in the child. Meaning, if a mother sweeps the mistakes of the child under the carpet then, sure enough, the child will grow up to be a spoilt one. So an objective approach is: admonishing when required and shower love, when called for, will do a lot of good for the all-round development of the child.

IN MAHABHARTA BHISHMA said: The mother is the panacea for all kinds of calamities. The existence of the mother invests one with protection; the reverse deprives one of all protection.

  • The mother’s love is all-encompassing.
  • The mother teaches us the first lesson in the value system.
  • The mother ‘s graces save us from all the ill-omens.
  • The mother is the embodiment of suffering.
  • The mother mothers us when we are not able to do anything on our own.
  • The mother gives us what other relations cannot.
  • We are part and parcel of our mother.
  • Those who forsake their mother at her old age are not forgiven by Creator.
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5 thoughts on “MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED (MOTHER’S DAY TODAY – MY WARM SALUTE TO ALL THE MOTHERS)

  1. The mother’s relationship with us is really extraordinary. She gives us birth and takes care of us in every way possible; withstanding hardships even. When I say, what we are today, is totally due to her blessings.

    Please go through the write-up and comment. I love your comments since these comments motivate me to write more..

    May our Mother’s graces remain gracing us.

    With warm regards,

    HARBANS

  2. OH Dear…You’re making me well up with this article, my spiritual friend across the oceans.
    Good morning and thanks for this great article about Motherhood and your mother in particular. I was moved by your raccconto of your remembrance of childhood when she made sure that, in spite of having meager resources, you were always properly fed and dry in your dwelling, Of course we always inherit their best part as we were made in their saintly entrails by God. The “coup de grace” was when you described how she chose to lay her tired head on your lap to finally rest. Be aware that it was an adieu but not her last one. She’s waiting in Heaven for you! When they asked us to clear the room in the funeral home to close my dear mother Glady’s casket, I sneaked inside to give her another kiss on her forehead and say: “Hasta luego, Mama!”
    Sorry, but I can’t keep writing.. If you care to know how much she loved us and fought for our well-being, please read the following blog that I wrote in her honor (I am enclosing the link) A big hug. Arrivederci!

    https://drmolaplume.com/2017/05/20/born-into-disobedience/

    1. Dr. Sahib: GOOD MORNING.

      Your commentary on my write-up, especially the poem in which I have penned down, especially the last day with my MOTHER is really moving. Whenever I remember that moment, I get emotionally surcharged.

      With regard to your mother, I shall go through and know about the details of most emotional moments with your MOTHER.

      Thanks for emotional suffusing commentary by which I was obviously moved.

      With regards,

      HARBANS

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