MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED
(MOTHER’S DAY TODAY MY WARM SALUTE TO ALL THE MOTHERS)
A most revered of all the relationship
Which complements all other relations
Withstands all sorts of sufferings
Without even a slightest of the whisper.
While taking an early morn stroll
I became a witness to the love of mother of other sorts
So peculiar but wonderful at that
A sparrow collecting the grains
With its beak to be fed to its young ones
A bitch feeding its pups
A squirrel collecting its early morning feed
For its young one, so dear
So that it does not remain without feed
whilst they all had their feed or not?
I really can fathom not!
That is the strangest and most wonderful
Instances of motherliness.
A finely blended analogy with the Mother Earth
On whose surface life of living beings
Are nested all the elements of Nature
Air, water and sun’s energy without any bias to all
Provides succor to all birds and animals aplenty
From its bosom springs the life-giving crops
Which feed us and bestow us energy
Which sustains our life on this planet.
From the time of fertilization of an egg inside the womb
Paying unrelenting attention that it entails
For proper and uninterrupted feed inside the womb
With the observance of precautions in abundance
What to be taken and not to
Smoking and food & drinks having caffeine are taboo
For gestation inside her being
For a period of nine months
Mother mothers it in every way most desirable
Using her head and heart for it all
More use of heart to listen to her growing child needs
Many times forgetting even her own life’s needs indeed!
My mother, the most venerated one
Who has already left for her heavenly abode
I reminisce the days whilst she tended me
Showering all the care that she could extend
Like all other mothers took charge of me head-on
What to feed and when not
With limited recourses at the disposal
She slept on the side
Where bed-spread was moist
But protected me from getting wet
So as to bestow interrupted care and protection as a kid!
Provided me her warmth of the heavenly lap
Cuddled me with her lovely hands
I grew up in her kindest heed
I used to call her ‘BOBO JI’ with love
Brimming with the everlasting love – so Godly indeed.
Gave her rock-solid protection on my day and night
Bereft of any complaint at any point in time.
A smile from me was a blissful gift for her
My cries used to fill her heart with the deepest agony
Calming of her heartaches came
When my sobbing came to an end finally
Childish prattle of mine amused her immensely
Whilst I crawled and learned to walk
Or talk first incoherently
She felt herself on the ‘seventh-heaven, factually.
Once I was down with the severest fever
I almost was in the coma for days
Medical help could hardly make any difference
Everyone in the family knew
Her sincere prayers came to my rescue.
Then came the time of my schooling
I was a reluctant customer, a shirker – for going to school
My mom knew how best to handle me in this too!
Cajoled me with eatables as the enticement or bait when required
Reprimanded me sternly whence its necessity was felt
As though she knew when a particular dose to be administered
For drawing out the ills & putting the best traits
School and then college went on smoothly under her supervision
Worth mentioning, she was not well-read, so to say
But knew all fine-points of life and how to live it with sincerity!
She exhorted me to face the facts of life squarely
Only weak-willed ones flee when confronted with difficulty.
I felt her omnipresence whenever some of my chums offered any allurement
Desisted from any of these fearing, in the bargain, matching punishment
From my mom who could read my face and mind with ease
Telling lies with her never succeeded
Telling truth and get pardoned was only way out.
Thence I got my employment
Far away from my loving mother and lovely home
A home (not house) which did not have mmany material comforts
But was brimming with love and care for everyone.
I used to visit my mom only once on weekends
Once on a visit to home – reached late at night
To my utter dismay and consequent pain
She was down with cold and fever
This had taken the toll on her health despite medicare
There were others in the home to care for her
In the morn the next day
While the Sun rose from the eastern horizon
She intended to take breakfast in the sun – outside on the cot
After light b’fast, she desired to keep her head in my lap!
How fortunate I had been I thanked my God
The one who had provided warmth to me in her heavenly lap
Wanted to keep her head in my lap
Having done thus she felt completely relaxed
As though bidding her final farewell
This peaceful act was not an ordinary one
It was an eternal peace – so solemn
A final adieu from her to us all!
My honest confession, all the traits in me are due to my loving mother
All negativisms are earned by me from my own mistakes
Although she is mixed with (Five Gross physical elements) PANCH BHUTAS
Yet she resides in my heart for good
And guides me when hugely required.
The Mother, truthfully, is one of the noblest relationships who understands her offspring because she is graced with soft emotions which could attract even the person with brute mentality thus could have far-reaching influence.
It is a gospel truth that in the household husband is the head and the mother the heart and when head and heart combine they make the huge difference both to the children and the home as a whole. Eternal peace and tranquility in the household happen when emotions of the heart are respected by all in the family. All the important decisions which have far-reaching implications for the future of the children should be taken with an active participation of mother and father. By so doing, not only the natural say of the mother will be respected but also there would be peace and harmony in the household. The training in value system imparted by the mother remains with us throughout our life.
HOLY BIBLE mentions about mothers: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
It should never be forgotten that mother provides the first lesson to her child – what to be done and what to be shunned. This first lesson is the foundation on which the edifice of future education of the child is built. Profuse praise of the child along with necessary punishment commensurate with fault will do a lot of good to the child.
There are many mothers who are not adequately educated but they understand their children better because they use their instinct rather than knowledge. Mere rebuking children will not do – a soft approach can deliver much. If nothing works then a pep-talk on the need of education by the mother can also do wonders. If this also does not work then the help of the experts in the field could be attained. This should be done after a thorough research. The purpose is to follow all norms which may help the child in acquiring knowledge besides character building.
SRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB says: A mother does not keep note of the transgressions of her son. O God, I am Your son. Why don’t You destroy my sins?
The mother should keep track of following aspects in mind in order to know and adopt remedial measures /take corrective steps for child’s improvement:-
- The company the child is following while schooling. It should be done with discretion without letting the child know.
- The progress of the child to be recorded. The mother should keep a tab of the child’s progress in all fields : Progress on: health, education, mixing with other children, respect for all, curbing egoistic tendencies (words or sentences usage like I did it, it is due to me, my contribution made it possible etc), how to face diverse situation with courage, infusing feeling of commitment, spiritual bent of mind, games and sports, positive habit building, learning to obey the orders of elders including teachers etc.
Holy Quran enunciates: We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.
- Best use of internet facilities. Whenever a child is sitting on the computer, the mother should monitor as to what the child is browsing. Corrective steps to be initiated if the child is lead astray.
- How best to keep a healthy balance between the household chores and the monitoring child’s progress.
- Sometimes what is learned has to be unlearned. Here care and caution are required.
- Kindle a spirit of understanding and respecting others’ privacy in the child.
- Appropriate appreciation and punishment whenever required should be made for growth of the child.
Finally, from the above, it is evident that to look after a child is a whole-time job. If quality time is not given by the mother, the child may be lead astray and lose the moorings for a healthy and upward march in life and a MOTHER knows it all.
An important note: excessive indulgence (mou Mamta) by the mother can also spoil the balanced development in the child. Meaning, if a mother sweeps the mistakes of the child under the carpet then, sure enough, the child will grow up to be a spoilt one. So an objective approach is: admonishing when required and shower love, when called for, will do a lot of good for the all-round development of the child.
IN MAHABHARTA BHISHMA said: The mother is the panacea for all kinds of calamities. The existence of the mother invests one with protection; the reverse deprives one of all protection.
- The mother’s love is all-encompassing.
- The mother teaches us the first lesson in the value system.
- The mother ‘s graces save us from all the ill-omens.
- The mother is the embodiment of suffering.
- The mother mothers us when we are not able to do anything on our own.
- The mother gives us what other relations cannot.
- We are part and parcel of our mother.
- Those who forsake their mother at her old age are not forgiven by Creator.