TRUST & BETRAYAL
The trust is not earned with ease indeed
We’ve to pass thru different tests
Some very delicate and some very unwieldy
To earn the tag of trust-worthiness
Based on our sincerity and honesty of purpose
For coming out of our shell, based on disbelief
Which has made residency in us
Due to our own omissions and commissions
By our own thoughts and actions
Also, we can’t say that we don’t have any distrusting characteristic at all
It exists in our system in one form or other
Need is to win the war against distrust from our system
So that the last shred of our cynical trait gets wiped out
Thereby ensuring the purity of body, mind and soul
We can then pave the way for smooth sailing in our work ethics
And make sure that our assigned goal is attained with God’s speed
Thus generating a spirit of cooperation on the basis of give and take.
But one thing should never to be kept in mind
That trust once earned has to be assiduously nurtured and maintained
Because there is very thin line between trust and mistrust
Trust once lost remains elusive for a longer time to come.
Trust is not a product which could be purchased from market place
Or earned through lofty ideals and ideas
That one can possess in our being
Nor it could be cultivated with mere wishful thinking.
In married life, for life to run smoothly
For a lifelong peaceful journey
Inculcation of love and wellness is of huge necessity
Which are generated thru mutual trust as a cementing factor
Because, it takes two to tango.
Similar is the case with business enterprise
While fixing-up business deals between two parties
Have to have the stamp of shared trust of all concerned
For the ongoing business to succeed
If trust is breached by an unscrupulous party
The question of business success is doubtful, surely.
In the workplace, most certainly
Maintenance of each others’ trust is of utmost necessity
Have to preserve trust sanctity
Above every other considerations
But if somebody breaches the confidence
That person is the black sheep for us all to see.
Thus trust is the indelible stamp of .goodwill between people
Which binds them together for fructification
Of our general function
Because where there is trust in abundance
We have the God’s presence for our guidance.
Literally, the word betrayal means to be unfaithful in fulfilling the promise thereby losing trust, to be disloyal to somebody or to a family or to an organization where one is working or being disloyal to a country in which the treacherous person is living. Betrayal has negative connotations.
The trigger for writing about the topic of betrayal came in my mind, when a few days back, a few important papers were lost from one of the organizations and those papers were found in the hands of somebody else, known to be a rival of the said organization, who took cudgels against the organization concerned. There was a heart burns in the organization’, adversely impacting the reputation thereby smeared the image of the organization which it had created for itself over a period of time. An thorough investigation was conducted and it was found that it was the handiwork of an insider. The person who handled the important documents and had passed the papers to the rival organisation.
This breach of trust is unpardonable by any yardstick and all those working in such organization(s) are seen as suspect till proved otherwise. The person concerned was not informed that the needle of suspicion went to him. He was kept under surveillance because the organizational head wanted to catch the suspect red-handed. A trap was laid and the treacherous person was caught and fired besides being handed over to the police for this breach of service norms thus justice was delivered for betrayal.
BACKSTABBING BY OUR KITH AND KIN
When one of the spouses while professing to be holier than thou, cheats, it presents a very sordid state of affairs. This too is a betrayal or betraying the trust between the husband and wife. It is also immoral in the real sense of terms. This betrayal could produce moral and psychological conflicts and break the bond of a holy relationship that a husband and wife’s relationship entails. The betrayer, in this case, could spell a doom for the entire family wherein the future of the children in the family could also be in jeopardy. This betrayal has moral turpitude or orientation and is construed as downright deceitful in nature.
GENUINE AND PERCEIVED BETRAYAL
There are people who betray their own country of birth (mother land) by passing information to the country inimical to the interests of the country concerned. This is a genuine betrayal and cannot be pardoned under any circumstances. If found out, maximum punishment under the land of the land would entail but if not caught then he/she would get the punishment for this Ku-karma.
When we consider others betrayer on the basis of mere suspicion, this is termed as perceived betrayal since a person cannot have this stigma till proved. When we suspect somebody, it hardly means that person concerned is actually involved in such moral breaking acts of betrayal till allegation is proven without any shred of doubt.
BETRAYAL IN POLITICS
We must have observed elected members of a particular party changing their loyalties when they find it is in their interest. This may be on the lure of pecuniary benefits or promise of a ministerial posts. They have no feeling of guilt, shame or remorse in changing their loyalties when it suits them. While we the voters choose them but such politicians breach our trust amounting to betrayal.
DOUBLE CROSSING OTHERS
There are some people who cannot be believed. They say something but act opposite. Such dual personalities cannot be believed or trusted since what they say is tangentially in contrast with what their actions tell us. These persons are with fragmented disorders. They should be identified and cured.
Following should be kept in mind:-
- Trust brings about our growth. It could be cultivated with a great effort but when it is lost, it is difficult to retrieve it because opposite of trust is betrayal.
- Betrayal brings about our downfall. We may benefit for sometimes but ultimately our final journey would be littered with thorns. ‘Surely Allah does not love the treacherous’. Ultimately they will have to face the music of their betrayal.
- We should not waste our precious time and energy in thinking those who betray us but on the other hand try our level best to refine. If that fellow does not agree then forgive that person.
In Bible it has been mentioned: Do not waste your suffering, use your betrayal to share with the sufferings of Christ.
Lord Krishana advices Dhanushdhari Arjuna in the battlefield of Kurukshtra to have the important traits of: Radiance, forgiveness, fortitude, purity, lack of enmity, lack of arrogance, these are found in one who has obtained divine qualities, O Bhaarata.