OUR PRAISE & CRITICISM
The human nature is so very intricate
We feel highly elated
When eulogy for us is etched
When praises on us are showered
From all quarters; expected or so not expected
Reason or no reason hardly matters indeed
What matters adulation
From all quarters is our main expectation
Since we’ve appetite- for getting aplenty admiration
Praises and acclamation
May be sometimes without giving evaluation
To our merit were in possession
Or bereft of any merits or demerits into consideration
Thus throwing to the winds
The actual barometer of our worth.
Criticism which should be the template
Of our worthiness or otherwise
More the scathing criticism
More the hope of finding our net-worth
Initially when a person’s worth gets reckoned
Or before the person is recognized
That person has to face a variety of criticisms
Which are construed as valuable tools in true sense of terms
Like more the gold is put in the red-hot furnace and then hammered
The purer it becomes in caret purity term
Then this pure gold
Need nobody’s reference at all
For its sale-ability in the marketplace
Since it is based on truth
Which could be tested and attested
At any place and time
Similarly, more the rough diamond is chiseled and polished
The more it shines
And more cost it commands
Similar is the case with criticism
More the criticism
More the refinement
In our character and deportment.
Withstanding all the life’s thuds and thunders
Since our life is not cake walk altogether
It is all the more arduous
With challenges and counter-challenges hindrances to overcome
For a triumph and win praises
We have to overcome our adversaries
By strengthening our frame of mind
And steel our determination
To face the arrows of criticism
From any cynics and carping critics
We’ve to withstand these criticisms
With intelligent witticism
Combined with logical suggestions
With cool-headed mentality as our weapon
To mute the mouth of criticism which has arisen.
Healthy criticism should have our approbation
If we are blameworthy, it should have our acceptance without hesitation
With candid assessment we should make necessary course correction
Leaving nothing which may evoke further criticism.
Criticism objective should not be character assassination
A figment of doer’s imagination
Then a biting criticism without any substance
Unbecoming of the dignity and stature of the person concerned
Like we hear the politicians
Hurling abuses and criticism at each other without rese*rvation.
We should accept our criticism gracefully
The same should be replied whenever needed suitably
Countering all the contentious points reasonably
With right spirit and openhanded
Feeling no grouse or whining against the criticizer
Or reach to the level as that of criticizer
The one who is in total control of his mind
Knowledgeable and creative
Does not become, in essence, reactive
He wins the battle which is forced on him
And will have to fight it out himself
Rather than turning his back for more criticism
Or should not turn this battle a bristling war
Engulfing others too in the fight for supremacy.
Care ought also be exercised
That nobody is unnecessarily made the butt of criticism
One who resorts to unhealthy criticism
Should be made to realize his folly
So that he/she not criticize others unreasonably
But try living with harmony
With all the members of the society
With the bountiful graces of our Lord Almighty
God be praised for His mercies always
So criticism or praises should not make us tarry
From our chosen path of living with the humanity
With humbleness, tenderness and gentleness
As the three pillars of our to serve our society
Withstanding with utmost humility
All the criticisms and barbs with dignity
While improving in all the sphere of our activities.
OUR PRAISE AND CRITICISM
In essence, it has been observed that whenever somebody appreciates us, we tend to become happy without putting our mind whether this appreciation has been substantiated by facts on ground or not. In actual practice, appreciation based on facts and figures assumes significance for us since it bestows us inspiration to do even better by working hard for improving ourselves through our since sincere efforts and also to excel and our tempo our excellence.
When somebody appreciates our good deeds performed by us with absolute sincerity, we should offer that person profound thanks since on that plank of appreciation, we can get inspiration to excel. It has been elucidated in Holy Quran: If you give thanks, I will give you more.
Wrong appreciation is counter-productive since it makes us lethargic and pompous i.e. we tend to over-estimate our efficacy than what we really are. When this happens, we consider ourselves more than equals thereby not making efforts to improve ourselves to earn place for ourselves in the organization in which we are working or the society in which we are living.
Importantly, it is also a fact, in normal course, we should not criticize others since if we criticize you, you are in for criticism in return. Unreasonably judging others, without self-introspection leads to unpredictable results. In Bible it has rightly been said: If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother.
Example: There were two colleagues of mine, one was very sincere worker and the other one was shrewd and knew where his bread could be buttered. He always made it a point to be near the boss and tell all the secrets which his colleagues were doing or not doing. In other words, he was a blue eyed boy of the boss. They trusted him immensely over others who were sincere in their job performance, were regular and punctual and always performed their assigned jobs on time. But when the question of appraisal and promotion came, the preferred one got raise and appreciation and the sincere colleagues did not get anything tangible. When the particular boss got transferred to other location, the person wanted to adopt the same stratagem/tact’s, as he was in the habit of but this boss was the man of principle. He appraised his past record and got him and issued him a stern warning to perform his assigned job sincerely otherwise face the music. That is the consequence of sincere work and the deceitful behavior of ours.
I have observed during my stint in service period and through discourses/interactions with others that we always learn through healthy criticism. It should always be kept in mind that nobody has ever improved with appreciation not backed up by professional efficacy and finesse. Healthy criticism affords us opportunities to tighten our loose ends or the areas where improvement is called for and then we can face the world at large with self-assurance. Therefore, criticism could work as blessing in disguise if we take course correction as and when required.
Conclusively, it could be said that we should never overact since what actually are cannot be hidden. It would be revealed. Rather we should try to improve ourselves by being a student at all times. Our merit cannot remain hidden. It will come into lime light. Then appreciation will definitely follow with the grace of God.