IMPORTANCE OF WELLNESS IN OUR LIFE

When we’ve thirst for more knowledge

First by knowing ourselves fully

Thence experience the awareness practically

By exploring new avenues of knowledge

From books, interactions and discussions

Learn from experiences gained by others

Through self-inquiry and queries from other sources

Gained gyan (knowledge) enhances our intellect

For self-growth and development and wellness. 

We’ rehaving wellness of ours

For emotional wellness

We have to have purity of mind (man-ki-pavitrata)

Purity of sight (dhrishti-ki-pavitrata)

Wisdom (Sadh-bhudhi) filled discourses

Our wellness is not divorced from others

When we’ve sound health

Thru in take of proper diet

Followed by proper Yogic

Or other exercises

Thus converting food taken

Into energy

So required badly

For sustaining our body

Which assists us in many ways than one

Proving where there is good health

The reexists good mind

With senses working in tandem

It will never go awry

In any venture we undertake

While body and mind work in sync

We also earn sixth sense – the super-sense/intuition

Which gives us an inkling what would happens next

Ensuring thus the wellness of body and mind

Bestows us holistic wellness.

When we’ve physical & mental wellness

We can have emotional wellness

Which helps us having balance in our feelings

Good and bad situations

Hardly impact us

Helping us to deeply delve inside us

To utilise our inner potentials

And reviving our inner mechanism

To control stress-related ailments.

When environs we live is conducive

Be ttersocial-setting

Better eco-system

Better relations with neighbours

Be stowus social acceptance  

A feeling of adeptness

With everything that exists

So helpful for our natural existence

Gives us environment wellness.

Then purity in our thoughts (vichar) and actions (karma) we perform

Rewards us with Karmic credits

Thus balancing our Karma account

Thus generating purity (Shubita) in Karma

The nwe’ve purity (in thoughts (Shub Bhav)

Give us Karmic wellness so beneficial

For living a life of purity and honesty.

For a spiritual life so wonderful for living.

It is must for a Janani (self-realized) to gain self knowledge

Thus realise the purpose of life

Of God’s connectivity

Ear ninga living earnestly

Sincerity and honesty being the two pillars

A true Yogi performs Yogic exercises

Along with continuous meditation

For leading God directed living

For wellbeing and wellness so very in abundance.

Wellness of ours too depends on

What we give to other

Meeting others needs for ensuring wellbeing (kalian-ki-bhavna) of others

Having empathy and piety raham-ki-bhavna)

Add to our own wellness to much extent.

OUR WELLNESS

Essentially, it is paramount that we change or evolve as we cross from one stage of life to other. Of necessity, dynamism is a must for this as static lifestyle leads to passivism – water standing at one place produces stench but moving one remains fresh and is fit for drinking.  We’ve to constantly be adaptive to change with the changing circumstances and situations. By so doing we transform our thoughts and actions with the change in time which may positively impact our body and mind. Fundamentally, wellness affects whole of our existence besides facilitating the type of life we want to live.  Following a spiritual oriented life bestows us an opportunity to live our life based on the spiritual and natural laws. Thus wellness of ours depends on various factors such mental, ethical, moral, spiritual and psychological aspects of our life. It can thus be said that mental health and physical wellbeing are correlated. Then intellectual wellness helps us to use the acquired knowledge sagaciously with creative zeal and enthusiasm; thus using our head and heart for task fructification. 

Wellness could be gauzed and measured by the quality of life which a person lives; how best we can manage our affairs and solve the problems facing the person concerned.

WELLNESS DEPENDS ON SOUND HEALTH & SOUND MIND

For comprehensive wellness, it is crucial to have a balance in life and that balance is possible when we have perfect health and for maintaining good health, we have to have balanced diet besides observing all the norms for maintaining good health thus our wellness. Then the maxim, ‘sound mind dwells in sound body’ holds good. Yogic exercises could be the answer for maintaining our body and mind. Following a strict regime of disciplined living, non-use of intoxicants besides, intake of proper diet, taking exercises, thirst for knowledge by self-effort, following stimulating activities to enhance intellect along with following a spiritual oriented life can make huge difference in our wellness.

In Holy Bible it has been mentioned:  Cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

EMOTIONAL WELLNESS

Emotional well-being means control of our mind and senses thereby creating a balance both in good and not so good situations. Having achieved a balance means leading a life bereft of any depression, anxiety and resultant stress. By so doing, we’re mentally and physically satiated. Physically strong means that we have sufficient energy to withstand sustained hard work and devotion to our duty thereby getting what we want.

When we are physically fit, we can perform our work more proficiently since we would be working happily and will lead an inspirational life-style. Those who are not having good health cannot work continuously because of exhaustion and fatigue because of lack of energy. They also lack self-confidence, self-esteem besides they lead a negative oriented life.

Lack of emotional well-being impacts our health (our digestive and sleep pattern get disturbed) thereby having depleted energy. Less energy means less focus on the work in hand thereby lesser hope of success.

Holy Quran contain guidance that promotes good health and healing.

IMPORTANCE OF SPIRITUALISM

We can improve our own spiritual values by following a positive orientation in our life. First and foremost for a Janani is to have his/her own self (self-knowledge) and also what is the purpose of our life on this planet and what we value most in life for a purposeful living. Also, understand what our thoughts and actions are besides what is our potential strength and weakness. A true Yogi will perform Yoga exercise for the spiritual wellness; physical wellness, mental wellness besides it will also improve our mental balance along with improving our immune system. It will also help us focus on the job in hand. By following spiritual oriented life, we can have sufficient time and resources to meditate partly for self-realization and partly help to lead a life dictated by God oriented life in positively directed settings. All these activities help us enhance our spiritual wellness which help us in establishment of equanimity. Equanimity in life leads to having peace and satiety.

The Bhagavad-Gita is the eternal message of spiritual wisdom and proclaims that spiritualism is essential for realizing the purpose of life.

SOCIAL WELLBEING

 Social wellness is possible only when we possess shuv-bhavna (Purity in thought), shuv Karma (purity in action) with shuv-ki-bhavna (purity in thought for others),  for others  Social wellbeing is ensure if we have shuv bhavna (Purity in thought), shuv karma (shuv action) along with shuv-ki- bhavna and raham-ki-bhavna,  for others who for others. It has also been said that our wellbeing is linked with the wellbeing of others around us (our family members, our friends, our neighbours, our society etc). If they are having sukh—ka-bhav, then we shall also be having the same sort of feeling. Secondly, we should also keep in mind that if we are not able to give others sukh-bhav (feeling of goodness), then we’ve no right to give other dukh-bhav (Bad feelings).

ENVIRONMENTAL WELLNESS

Cleaner the environment, cleaner is the eco-system we are living. If the air in which we are living is clean, we shall be physically sound and if we are having physical wellness then we can perform the task in hand by focusing on the nitty-gritty for fruitful results.

OCCUPATIONAL WELLBEING

While one gets an employment as per the capabilities and efficacies of the person concerned then that person concerned feels joy thus focusing on the profession he/she is performing in the organisation thus contributing his/her mite expected of that person. But sometimes, when despite his/her best efforts,  if that person does not get due recognition, then problem arises and everything falls apart. Contrarily, if that person’s abilities and contributions are suitably acknowledged then that person gets motivated and would like to put in his best under the given conditions for the organisation.

INTELLECTUAL WELLBEING.

When a Yogi engage himself in creative activities after exploiting our inner potentials and gain Janana (self-knowledge), also makes sufficient efforts to enhance know-how by self-help and focus. We should also bestow help the needy in meeting their requirements.  A person with intellect explores the genesis of a problem and then reaches to conclusion and subsequently solves a problem. Such a person analyses his/her potentials and weak areas, tries to remove the gap of weak areas after experiments and practices, initially through trial and error. Subsequently use these lessons learned while following a path gained through experience. Here personal experiences gained and also adopting the experiences in our life which others have gained with similar problems. Also, here thirst for more knowledge along with exploring more avenues of getting the same from known and unknown sources. This curiosity or hunger for knowing more enhances our all round knowledge for self-realization or self-awareness or self-consciousness.

BEING EVER A STUDENT. There should not be any age bar in acquiring knowledge from any source we can put our hands on. It could be by reading books on variety of subjects including going through the biographies and autobiographies of known personalities famous for their efficacy in variety of fields and try to adopt those characteristics in our real life. But care ought to be exercised that acquiring knowledge thus should not make us egocentric.

CREATIVE ZEAL. We should also explore possibilities of creating new things and exploiting our inner potentials including penning something out of daily experiences etc.

Wellness could help in the following ways:-

  • Wellness of body and mind are correlated – as when the body is healthy, the mind will work in tandem.
  •  If our ecosystem is alright, it’ll impact us positively, therefore, our wellness.
  • When we have zeal and hunger for more Janana (self-knowledge), Gyan (Knowledge), including exploring possibilities of getting know-how from all the resources available around us. All these help us attain intellect. Further, our creative zeal too enhances our intellectual capabilities hence impacts the wellness hugely.
  • If we’ve social wellness, we shall certainly have good relationship with everybody around; in the family, with our neighbour, the society in which we are living. All this enhances our wellness ultimately.
  • When we are properly attuned in the organisation in which we are working – have good relationship with our colleagues, head of organisation etc. this adds to our wellness.
  • Spiritualistic wellness helps us to know our inner potentials and also helps in realizing the purpose of life. Spiritualistic wellness  help us immeasurably in our life.
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THE MARTYRDOM OF REVERED GURU SRI TEGHBAHADURJI (ON 12TH DECEMBER 2018)

THE MARTYRDOM OF REVERED GURU SRI TEGHBAHADURJI
(ON 12TH DECEMBER 2018)

MARTYRDOMDAY of 9th GURU

Whence death for a cause

Takes precedence

Over other causes considered dear

The bravest amongst us humans

Take the plunge

This supreme sacrifice may be for saving

The Mother Land of ours

Or to save the hapless humans amongst us

Who are oppressed unreasonably

By the tyranical powers that be

The most revered ones

 Embrace death for others

Rather than living for themselves

After seeing oppression and highhandedness

Such was the saga of martyrdom

Of 9th Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji

Who sacrificed his today

To save the multitudes

From the slaughterers of humanity.

Came the oppressed Kashmiri Pandits

Leading the group was Pandit Kirpa Ram

Covering a distance so long

They wanted to see the revered Guru Ji at Anandpur Sahib

Very reverentially bowed to him

As they had known Guru Ji’s

For his benevolence

Besides well-known traits of coming to the rescue f oppressed

They entreated him to save them

From the tyranny of the emperor Aurangzeb

Who had given them the two alternative

Either convert or face certain death

Heard their voices so distressed patiently

He was moved by their plight

Though he followed Sikh traditions

But he followed the tradition of Sikh Gurus

To come to the succor of hapless and oppressed

During these conversations, do heart rending

Entered his son – mere 9 years of age (Guru Gobind Singh Ji)

After understanding the dilemma of Pandits

It was also mentioned during the discourse

That only a sacrifice

By a most revered and a holy man could avert these tyrannical decree

There and then came the wisdom filled intervention of Guru’s son

Who could be more holier than you (His father)

Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji

Thus told the hapless Pandits

Tell the tyrant Governor

If he is able to covert the Guru Tegh Bahadur

They will follow suit

The Guru Ji noblest decision known to everyone

All present Sadh Sangat were deeply moved

An ordinary soul cannot take such decision

Of losing his life so that others amongst us could live

The Guru Ji considered all religions

And thought that only good deeds persist.

Thence afterwards

Bade farewell to his wisdom suffusing son

Along with Mata Gujri

And loving Sadh Sangat

A holy Kirtan was recited

Before proceeding to Delhi for his final journey

To save others from the tyrannical decree

Before he was martyred

Bhai Mati Das and Bhai Dayala besides Bhai Sati Das were killed ruthlessly

Guru Ji saw suffered the pangs with serenity

Guru Ji was martyred finally

On the orders from the most ruthless emperor

This martyrdom would be remembered

Till Sun and Moon and stars remain till eternity

Our heart aches

For this Guru Ji of ours

Who showed that we can remain in the annals of history

Till eternity

If we absorb the principles of Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji

One of the Gurus amongst Gurus Sahibans

For whom our head bows with utmost  reverence

The most well-regarded ones

Who did much for humanity at large.

May the humanity at large learn from the supreme sacrifice

Which Guru Tegh Bahadur gave for others

Like Lord Jesus Christ

Who was crucified for us all

So that we live with peaceful co-existence

Distributing smiles and love amongst all without bias .

THE MARTYRDOM OF REVERED GURU SRI TEGH BAHADURJI
(ON 12TH DECEMBER 2018)

Truthfully the one who is born here will have to die one day. Nobody is immortal / eternal when it comes to living world. Everybody has to die one day at the time fixed for this final journey yet some through their deeds acquire the status of martyrdom and thus immortalize themselves. Their name and fame in the annals of history is recorded for posterity for us mortals to draw lessons.

The level of sacrifice becomes all the more all-encompassing since it was for protecting the religious sentiments of all other religions. I shall call it a sacrifice unknown in the annals of history – to die for upholding the belief and sanctity of other religions. This sacrifice for others’ causes makes it amply clear that even the thinking of ‘self sacrifice’ is not a normal thinking. It is unpatrolled and unprecedented. It, I am sanguine, comes from our Akalpurakh. This thought is emancipation of consciousness / awareness to a level which catapults a personage (in this case Guru Tegh Bahadurji) to a level of highest spiritualistic ideals, highest moralistic ideals besides taking the religious homogeneity percepts to new heights – meaning all the religions are different pathways to a SINGLE SOURCE. This noble sacrifice is given by only ones who know the true meaning of a religion. Knowing one’s own faith is not a big deal, knowing about the common thread / common bond between different faiths makes all the difference.


To live and practice one’s own religion is done by everybody and is normal practice but there are a few exceptional who tend to protect other’s faiths which is really unique and one of the best examples of setting new moralistic yardstick for others to emulate. Devotion to one’s own religion is not so great as the protection and to give supreme sacrifice for others’ causes is creation of new standards in understanding the meaning of any religion. Guruji’s ideals is based on the precept: : “I believe in the right of others to practice their faith peacefully”


It is pertinent to mention here about the highhandedness with which Aurangzeb ruled this country from 1658 to 1707 for 49 years. He killed his three brothers and even imprisoned his father and came to power. During this rule he wanted to bring true Islamic governance in whole of his empire. Akbar adopted many un-islamic beliefs in his personal life and also on his empire. He visited Hindu temples and let others to follow their religious beliefs without let or hindrance.

Contrarily Aurangzeb had a strong religious convictions with, of course, a very simple lifestyle which he assiduously practiced and followed. He compiled a book of Islamic Laws. The historians tell us about his intolerance and oppression. He is said to have destroyed the religious places of other faiths; the Hindus and the Sikhs and it is an undisputed historical fact. He followed the policy of forceful conversions and those who disagreed were put to death. He even opposed veneration of Sufis.


Amongst other religions, in all his empire, he stressed implementing his dictum ‘convert or be killed’ strictly. Amongst these Kashmiri Pandits (a highly intelligent and regiously awakened community) were also the victims. The Kashmiri Pandits had a highest reverence for Sikh Gurus from Guru Nanak Dev Ji onwards. Pandit Kirpa Ram along with other community members came to Anandpur on 25 May 1675 to take Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji’s succor with a plea to save them from the tyranny of Aurangzeb who had given them the option; either convert to Islam or face a sure death. A decree which made the entire community helpless and thus they have sought the assistance of the Guru.

Guru Tegh Bahadur followed Sikh traditions and did not follow customs of Hindus but helping the hapless and oppressed being the mission of Sikh Gurus, the Guru was in deep thought with concern writ large on his face. Factually, the intolerance perpetrated by Aurangzeb moved the Guru immensely. During the time, revered Guru was in deep thought, meanwhile, his nine years old son (Guru) Gobind entered. Sensing the concern, he asked his father about the whole matter. After having known the predicament that Aurangzeb had issued a decree that all Hindus should be converted to Islam. It is because, according to him, his religion was the only true religion.

Along with other devout like also made known by the revered Guruji that a sacrifice by a holy man could avert all this. The great son of the greatest Guru replied: who could be holier than you(his father). Having pleased with the pronouncement of his son, subsequently, the Guru unambiguously told Kashmiri Pandits: Go and tell the State Governor that you people were ready to convert Kashmiris provided he was able to convert Tegh Bahadur, The Kashmiri Pandits felt relieved by this pronouncement. The Sadh Sangat present there was really saddened by this but they knew they could do nothing when the decision was finally made.

The message was finally conveyed to the emperor who knew the steadfast beliefs of Guru Tegh Bahadur. These principles being: All religions are pure and only noble deeds count ultimately. The emperor ordered that the Guru ought to be brought to Delhi. Then afterwards the Guru bade his farewell to his wisdom filled son, his wife Mata Nanaki and Sangat after recitation of holy Kirtan on 11 July, 1675.


On reaching Delhi after his visit to other places, he was asked to convert to Islam or face consequences. Guruji, without mincing any words, unequivocally replied that he loved his religion and will not forsake it. It was also told to him that if he refused to convert, his followers would be killed. In this, Bhai Mati Das and Bhai Dayala besides Bhai Sati Das were killed ruthlessly which the Holy Guru saw with utmost serenity because he thought if this was the Will of God then be it. Thence afterwards, Guru was kept in a cage. There too Guruji was absorbed in prayers. Utmost persuasion and persecution could not do any dent on the resolve of Guruji.


Finally, the emperor ordered that our revered Guruji be executed in Chandni Chowk. This order made the sadh sangat saddened/perturbed. On 11th November 1675 Guruji was brought to a selected place and made to sit on a specially made platform. All eyes were on Guruji. Then the orders of the emperor were complied (which I too find difficult to pen down – even now). Thus our revered Guruji attained martyrdom on this day. Such was the barbarity of the ruler. All present there were overwhelmed with this inhuman act. Not only this, even Mother Nature shed tears; a huge thunder storm followed.

Bhai Jaita picked up the severed head of the Guruji who had immortalized himself by his supreme sacrifice for a cause of protecting people of other religion! The head was cremated at Anandpur Sahib where a Gurdwara stands in the fond memory of our Guruji. The body of the Guruji was taken by Bhai Lakhi and his son immediately from the scene to their home most reverently, offered prayers to the memory of departed Guru and subsequently set the house on fire. Factually, an example not found anywhere! Thus, Guruji’s disciples exhibited a supreme courage in saving Guruji’s head and body from being disgraced. Gurdwara Rakab Ganj stands in the memory of the most revered Guruji,


LESSONS FROM THE SUPREME SACRIFICE OF GURU TEGH BAHADURJI

  • The Laws of Nature are unalterable.


• Miracle has no place in religion (Guruji told the emperor when he was told to exhibit any miracle).


• All religions are pure and should be the binding force and not for division of humanity on narrow considerations,


• At the end of all, only noble deeds count,


• Freedom of worship should be allowed without any bias.


• All religions should be treated equally.


• No life is as precious as the principles one stand for, He made supreme sacrifice for upholding those principles only.

  • Enlightenment through removal of ignorance should be our cornerstone in life.
  • .The maxim; love begets love should never be forgotten.

TO KNOW MY OWN SELF

TO KNOW OUR OWN SELF…..

There resides inside all of us ‘self’. The true me, the perceived me, the projected me, the desirable me, the real me, the ideal me, the unknown me, the conceived me, the perceived me, the known me and unknown me; so many version slike this. I have to know the true me. When I think of me, I am really baffled who I am. Sri Ramana Maharishi has described ‘I-am-ness’ or self emanates from our heart and is pure (Suddha) and  Rajasvic (independent activity) and Tamsic (Inertia) can contaminate it. ++++++++

It is essential that we’ve  knowledge about our own conscious self before we want knowing others. When we remain dark about our own self, we cannot advise others to rectify their way of thinking, acting or working since we could be countered by the cold realities of knowing our own self.

In our quest to know our own self, we should improve our habits, pattern of behavior, attitude towards many aspects in our life, our potentials, our weak areas and need to plug these areas. Our effort in this endeavor should be to adjust and be adaptive to the change and not for becoming perfectionist. The improvement in all aspects should be within some parameters set by the society besides these aspects should bestow us satiety and peaceful co-existence.

In Holy Quran it has been said that all good deeds and the ordained ways of worship, such as prayers, giving zakat (charity), and fasting, bring great benefits to the worshipper first, then to his/her family, community, and society at large. All these positive attributes make us empathetic, kind-hearted and we are known by the deeds we perform. If nobody knows about our good deeds then our God and my self know about these.

When we think about ourselves then we tend to focus about the following aspects in relation to our surrounding and the environs in which we are living. It is essential to know our own self first before knowing or judging others. Following are some of essential features in this exercise:-

  • What I am, my position in the society including what I can do to improve my stature which gives me satisfaction?
  •  It has been said that if we drop all ideas about self then we’ve found our self.
  • When you accept yourself as you are without being judgmental about it, then you tend to have found our self.
  • To reach the Truth is essential but following half-truth or ardh-sach could result in losing our own moorings or lose our own self and prove to be hindrance in our path for knowing our own self.
  • Some may say: I am different at different places and at different times, different in different environs/situations then how can I know what we are destined and what we would be. Beliefs and faiths differ as a man differs in habit and attitude. I may say that self can be known but person with different beliefs may say different things at different times.
  • My thoughts on spiritualism and their influences on me. We can have self-realisation through spiritual experiences. Only connectivity with God can help us know and ourselves. The habit of daily prayer can help us. We can realize God. God is our own and he remains with us ever. Self-consciousness and God-consciousness should work in sync. We should work in sync with our natural abilities. Everything should be performed in association with God. By doing so, we shall not deviate from our chosen path.

In Bhagwad Gita it has rightly been said that we should work in harmony with our natural abilities and we should make this work as an offering to God, who pervades this universe and from whom all creatures have arisen. Also, we should work as per our temperaments and interests and not try to imitate others which results in a feeling of guilt and sadness.

  • We should always realize that God is the only TRUTH and every other thing has temporary value.
  • If the force of desire is strong, the potency of Divine Will is the strongest. Purpose of human beings is to seek God’s connectivity.
  • What habits or attitude we should have so as to adjust in the society we are living?
  • My fears of unpredictable incidents and how best I can face if and when these will visit me – even without advance warning.
  • What are our traits which allows us to fit in the environs in which we are living.
  • What decisions we should take or should not take which are agreeable to us and others?
  • Our personality traits which help us adjusting in the community we are living.
  • What others will think about me if I behave in a particular manner?
  • Fear of God in our life to be totally aware that if we commit sinful act, I shall have to suffer the pangs of our karma.
  • We tend to limit ourselves when we transact anything without proper planning for fructification of our effort. .We should open our perspectives and work after giving serious thoughts for their execution. For this knowing self-goal

Bhagwad Gita emphasises the importance of Dharma (righteous way of living in accordance with the code of  conduct as described by Scriptures), Bhakti (Meditation) and Moksha (Liberation from births and deaths) as the three important constituents for living a life of spiritualism. The four paths which lead a person to to spiritualism are Jnana (Spiritual knowledge), Bhakti (Meditation), karma (Action) and Raja Yoga (independent and fearless like a king).  Following these principles we can understand relation of self and Brahma (Absolute Reality) – the relationship of Atama (Soul) and Brahman (God). These are different but non-different too through our thoughts and action thereto. Leading a life according to the Natural Universal Laws makes a person Janani (Self-realized) through learning and experience.

We should remove the ignorance which acts as a poison.  We do not realized our true nature, made in the image of God. His will should be accepted. Eliminate ignorance and you will get everything that you want. If I do not know my own self then I cannot blame others for not knowing myself. Therefore the following poem:-

KNOW THYSELF

WHEN  my own well-wishers and friends so dear

Feel uncomfortable and misunderstand me

Fault lies with me really

Not with my dear ones

Since I gave such negative cues

To them when clarity and sincerity was needed

To remove the misgivings just arisen.

WHEN nobody likes me

And don’t want to have any truck with me

That means there is a small bit or even more wanting in me

The reason for nobody wanting me

Would be quite a revelation for me

Through self-questioning, I’ve to be self-aware

And transform myself to the extent possible

To make myself likeable/lovable consequently

As nobody else will change for me

Change has to originate from within.

WHEN I pray or  perform meditation

Without proper concentration

My mind remains wandering in the wilds

Getting answer to my prayers is asking for the Moon on earth

Thence. Can I blame others?

Certainly not!

It lies squarely on me.

When I  commit mistakes

No problem, all commit mistakes

In one form or other everyone knows

Nobody is infallible in real sense

While transacting something

But fault lies, in essence

When I  heap lies after lies

Just tirelessly

All to justify

Having committed mistakes!

So brazen it becomes really

When my ego stops me from agreeing

To have committed mistake which is mistake most appalling!

WHEN I am ignorant about something important

Fault lies at my doorsteps

Not in others

Since I did not try getting knowledge

About the things to be known

While it was required to be known.

WHEN I get angry on reason so silly

I shall not attract anybody around me

Since nobody wants to have intimacy

With a man with inflexible- mentality.

WHEN I fail miserably

While others succeed easily

It is not the fault of the destiny.

WHEN I am ignorant about something important

Fault lies at my doorsteps

Not in others

Since I did not try getting knowledge

About the things to be known

While it was required to be known.

WHEN I lose my temper just for nothing

I shall not attract anybody around me

Since nobody want company with a stubborn

Fault lies with me for all this self-created situation

Here need is to change my attitude

The quicker I do the better for me

For a peaceful co-existence.

WHEN I go to my scheduled meeting at the time and date fixed

Fully conversant with the intricacies involved

Then I shall meet all contingencies without any pinpricks

Thereby remain affable and unruffled

While meeting the demands of the work at hand.

WHEN I did not get respect from others, as I desired

It is not somebody else fault at all

Since I did not pay respect to others whilst it was vital.

WHEN there is no harmony in our family

I am responsible for this undoubtedly

The mess is created by us only

Since it is all due to misunderstanding between the members

Who have conflicting views on anything which makes a sweet-home

A house is made home when all members

Work for each other and meet each others’ demands.

WHEN you have no ethical and  moral fiber

You cannot advice others to keep theirs

For you have yourself lost yours

By your behavior so indifferent.

WHEN I have not paid my taxes

The tax authorities will book me for the lapse

And  haul me up for this lapse

Fault lies with me solely

Not with others around me.

WHEN I have not done much in life substantially

Fault lies with me and not on somebody

I have to mend my ways.

WHEN I am not able to clear my loans on time

And the creditors are after me

For giving back the loaned amount

Then I have to face music of non-payment of dues

Since it is my liability than otherrs.

WHEN I am not able to adjust with the group

Fault lies with me and not the group

Since I have to be adaptive to change not the group

As nobody would like to change for me surely.

WHEN I am ignorant about something important

Fault lies at my doorsteps

Not in others

Since I did not try getting knowledge

About the things to be known

When it was required to know.

If I get angry on pretexts so silly

I shall not attract anybody around me

Since nobody wants to have intimacy

With a man with no accommodative way of thinking,

If I fail miserably

While others pass with easily

It is not the fault of the destiny

But my own lack of effort to succeed.

If I did not get respect from others

It is not somebody else fault

Since I did not pay respect to others.

If I pray /meditate

Without proper focus

And my mind dithering

Here, there and everywhere

Can I get something in that exercise

Definitely nothing substantial

Thence. Can I blame others?

Certainly not!

If there is no harmony in our household

Certainly my neighbor is not responsible for this

We are ourselves responsible for all this mess

Since it is all due to misunderstanding between the members

Who have conflicting views on anything which makes a sweet home

A house is made home when all members

Work for each other and meet each others’ demands.

If I have not paid my taxes

The tax authorities will book me for the lapse

If  I am hauled up for this lapse

Fault lies with me solely

Not with others around me.

If I have not done much in life substantially

Fault lies with me and not on somebody?

I have to mend my ways.

If I lose my temper just for nothing

Fault lies with me for so doing

Then need is to change my attitude

The quicker I do the better for me.

If I am not able to pay my

And the creditors are after us

For giving back the loaned amount

If I have to face music of not payment of dues

Thence is it else’s liability than mine.

If nobody loves me

That means there is something lacking in me

Through introspection

I’ve to be self-aware

And change myself accordingly

To make myself likeable consequently.

If I am not able to adjust with the group

Fault lies with me and not the group

Since I have to be adaptive to change not the group

As nobody would like to change for me surely