EXPERIENCES OF YEAR JUST GONE BY (2018) AND RESOLUTIONS FOR NEW YEAR (2019)
The year that passed was very promising in many ways than one. It started on a positive note, as anticipated, ended on a positive note too– giving credence to the statement; expect good and get good -with some hiccups here and there notwithstanding. The fact remain, it is not always that we shall get positive results but need is to have optimism to turn negative results into positive ones simply with self-effort with sincerity along with belief on our God. It is our common experience that when time is favourable, we consider ourselves on the seventh-heaven but when we experience some down-slide; we just plunge abysmally into the abbess of our own making.
ADOPTING TOLERANCE AND PATIENCE ALONG WITH CALMNESS FROM PAST EXPERIENCES
Building tolerance is a must. It is not acquired with ease. Practice is required to cultivate it. Tolerance is the result of practice in patience and for this our past experiences come to our succor. Most of our achievements in our life occur when we have both patience and tolerance (in physical and mental plane). Self-control could be ensured by exercising patience and tolerance.
But time factor affords us the wherewithal to introspect and come out with plausible answer to practice patience. Patience gives us opportunity to choose objectively what we actually want or what we do not want. Progress would be slow but after practicing a number of times results would be to our liking.
HAPPY NEW YEAR – 2019
An year is Happy & Prosperous
Whence our aspirations are rewarded with success
By dint of our work with sincerity of purpose
Coupled with self-involvement and bountiful God’s graces
Thereby bestowing us prosperity and happiness
Engendering a feeling of satiety and huge self-confidence
This joy has the stamp of permanency of bliss
For this is based truly on spiritually oriented existence.
In life, by sharing others’ happiness and sorrows
We can reduce our own sorrows
Since division of sorrows between us
Can lessen the sting of our sorrows.
Never forget yesterday Karmic deeds
Will impact the life of today
Whatever I did the year just passed
Has effect on present year without doubt.
The year past will not come yet again
It has become a part of history now
The memories of year passed-by remain
As a silent reminder
The activities I’ve done
Or may not have done
Due to reason beyond my control.
Then I shall get lesson
From the Mother Nature
It gives us everything
Without any expectation in return
Only thing necessary for us
Is to respecting Nature
By keeping its balance
To make it serve us better
As when is imbalanced
It’ll cause irreparable damage.
Thanks giving gives us much
Acting thankless means
To others’ goodness.
The association with my friends we had developed
The fellow-feelings and good-will i cultivated
From the experiences of my well-wishers and friends
My life positively changed
And altered the philosophy of life
I’ve learned to maintain a balance in my existence
In happy or in not so happy times
There are times when I felt immense pain
Looking at the others’ condition
While there were also the time
I did something for others
And also times when I had to remain a silent spectator
Resulting in huge disappointment in the process.
I learned how to establish good relationship
Some with known and some with unknown
And how to bridge the gap in the bad relationship
For the persons whose relationship had gone sour
And filling it with sweetness.
Including how best to infuse confidence
Who have lost their own
Due to unreasonable reasons.
Question is what an year gone by has given thee
Or taken from thee
Depends on how much it has enriched thee
With civility and humility
Despite all the ups and downs.
Was the year gone by given thou experiences
Some pleasant and others not so pleasant
Some we would like keep as priceless trophies
Others we would like to forget being so terrifying
But all these give us some experiences
Impacting our life to maximum extent.
Then there were parting, so unfortunate
The friends to hold dear.
When we are down and out
Engulfed in anxiety with judgment most clouded
Causing physical and mental affect
Then practicing patience delivers us
From all these mental blocks.
Then friends whom we hold dear
Puncture our trust
Others break law
Such thoughtless will surely get punishment
By the law enforcement
When caught in the net laid down
If not, then by the Omnipotent and Omniscient.
My sincerest prayer for our Creator
For the New Year 2019
Is that we ought to become conscious
Of each others’ conditions
And do not trade threats
Which come in the way of happy and blissful living
As the creations of our common Creator
Wishing that we live in the spirit of amity
Under the care of our Almighty
Wishing you all Happiness and Prosperity
In the year 2019
WITH BOUNTIFUL GRACES OF OUR GOD.
LESSONS FROM PREVIOUS YEARS & MAKING THE YEAR 2019 PRODUCTIVE AND CREATIVE
The following are some of the lessons which I got partly through my interactions with others and partly through knowledge garnered from others during 2018.
SMALL THINGS TAKEN TOGETHER CAN MAKE HUGE DIFFERENCE
There are some things which we’ve to take seriously in life and there are also the ones which could be ignored. But there are events and actions which we think insignificant can also impact our life sometimes. Ignoring these could do irreparable damage to our life. Even a screw in the machine could make the working of that machine dysfunctional. Similar is the case with our life.
Whatever we are and whatever we have got is due to the blessings of our God. By doing so, we are opening a window of opportunity for new vistas in life which are owing to the grace of God. Our physical, mental and relationship with others too are subject to all-around wellbeing. These too are possible due to His blessings. Every moment given us to breathe and live in appropriate atmosphere is also due to HIS BOUNTIES. Therefore, we have to thank Him for everything.
FORGIVING AND FORGETTING
Our relationship with others is important for us since we cannot transact all our functions in isolation. Therefore, whenever we experience any difference, it should not be allowed to deteriorate any further in the spirit of forgiving and forgetting. In this way, many of relations could be saved.
GIVING GIVES US SATISFACTION
If we meet somebody’s need, it gives us satiety thereby making us happy. We cannot compensate this happiness with anything else under the sun.
SMILE AND THE WORLD WILL SMILE AT YOU
This should never be forgotten; if you smile, everybody will smile with you and if you weep, you weep alone. Therefore we should divide smiles in order to get happiness in the process.
LEARN TO SAY SORRY
We, as humans, tend to do commit some mistake unintentionally, thereby creating a misunderstanding between us and others. This results in animosity between even the fast friends. If we take recourse to say four-letters word SORRY, matters could be amiably be settled.
WHEN NOTHING WORKS ACCEPTANCE IS THE BEST COURSE
There are occasions when all our sincere and best efforts are not enough to acquire the intended results, in that case, the only option left with us is acceptance. Otherwise, we may fall into the web of our own creation leading to more unacceptable contradictions.
PROCRASTINATION IS BAD HABIT
There are the people who are in the habit of putting off things thereby reaching a stage where retrieval is not possible. Therefore, the best course is to solve the contentious issue then and there.
SEEK GOD WHEN ALONE
When in solitude, we can seek our God with sincerity to compensate our loneliness.
WHEN NOTHING WORKS, SILENCE WORKS BETTER
It should never be forgotten that nobody has ever won an argument or talking without mincing any words. Many of our differences in the families and friends could be solved when we tend to be silent when our point of view in words is not understood despite repeated try.
IGNORANCE SHOULD BE REMOVED
We should always be the student throughout our life. We can learn anything from anybody and anywhere. It should always be remembered that ignorance is synonymous with darkness and may pull us down anytime anywhere.
LIVING ON THE EDGE
We all want to have our intended job transacted immediately but in this sort of a hurry, we just forget our own security or anticipate impending danger(s) that may come anytime. Hence our approach should be to scrutinize all angles or parameters and take corrective steps or course correction. While traveling in a bus, I observed that people were hurriedly climbing and alighting the bus without caring for their security. I saw a person hastily climbing down from the bus while it slowed a bit before the bus stop was run over by a vehicle which was coming from the same direction at a speed. He had to be taken to the hospital.
CREATING EMERGENCIES FOR OURSELVES AND THEIR ADVERSE IMPLICATIONS
In our lives, many times, we remain to postpone things. May it be getting our body checked for any disease on experiencing `some clues or symptom. Or not sticking to the time schedule for catching a flight or rail journey and hurrying for these without thinking that there may be several hindrances on the way – traffic jams due to one reason or another. Similar is the case with not stick to the time schedule on fructification of any project in hand. The proper time-planning should have made difference. Think of a predicament when one is not able to reach one’s destination because he/she had not made concerted efforts taking into account the element of time which moves on thereby creating emergencies for ourselves and unnecessary stress and strain.
FOR CLEANLINESS TO BE EFFECTIVE, WE’VE TO REMOVE THE POLLUTION (PRADOOSHAN) FROM OUR MIND
Arguably, it could be rightly said that the polluted mind is dangerous not only for the person concerned but also for the people around him. We always keep our body, mind, and soul untainted/unstained. A small black spot can sully our character. It should never be forgotten that what we earn with our sincere effort will just be lost if we lose our character. It is earned with a lot of difficulties but lost just in a second. I know one of my best friends who has earned name and fame for himself including a happy family. Once he could not keep control over the unreasonable temptation thus losing his everything in the bargain.
NATURE (PRAKRITI) IS A GREAT TEACHER IF WE CARE TO LEARN FROM IT
Nature is anything or everything that is not man-made/ inartificial. Essentially, if we understand nature and its working then we shall understand more than from any formal or informal teachings. Here everything is natural – may be created by the intervention of Super Natural Power. Natural environment includes all living and non-living elements and their utilization in the day to day lives. The three elements of nature Sun (which gives energy), Air (which we breathe without which we cannot survive) and Water (used variously by humans besides drinking).
Besides, the entire ecology works as a natural system which includes all the flora and fauna, rocks, soil and what is contained in it. It also includes environment and all the natural phenomenon and material/physical phenomenon. Natural environment includes all living and non-living elements and their utilization in the day to day lives.
Then there are universal natural resources which do not have clear demarcation such as air, water, energy, climate, light, electric charge, giving out of radiation, magnetic field etc.
The meaning of Prakriti (Nature) refers to everything that is included in nature which gives shape and form as pure energy. When we spoil the Nature or Prakriti, it is termed as vikriti. When we spoil the natural balances by our acts of omissions and commissions then it does not pardon and retaliates in its own way.
Prakriti is associated with female power and Purusha represents masculinity is associated with Lord Shiva. When both work in tandem there is a balance which is essential for all.
We can learn much from each of the elements of nature:-
THE SUN (ADITYA)
The Sun is a vast source of energy. We are exploiting its energy variously in the day to day lives without which our survival is not possible. It teaches us a huge lesson. Despite giving life force, it does not browbeat the other natural elements such as cloud which has got its own function. When the cloud comes in the way of sun, it does not force its way but provides a thin ray of light to the black-cloud making the cloud presentable.
There is a wonderful lessons from this for us humans. Rather than showcasing our ego at every given opportunity, we should be accommodative and supportive of others’ efforts. We worship the Sun through Surya Namushakar (Paying respect) to thank it for the services it renders to the living and non-living beings with OM ADITYA AYE NAMON.
THE MOON (SHASHI – CHAND)
While we compare somebody’s beauty, especially female’s, we compare her with charm and beauty of the moon. Its various forms, full moon, half moon, semi-circular forms are really tempting to say the least. Poets and thinkers have written treasures of literature on the beauty and its cool nature despite all the disturbance that happened in the areas around it. Who does not enjoy the moonlit night? It too exerts influences on the oceanic tides and further tidal force of the Moon is more than that of the Sun.
This should also serve as a lesson to us humans that remaining cool like the Moon hardly means that it cannot have its influence when needed. We should just be like the Moon – remain cool but when the crunch comes just display your power without being too much showy.
THE OCEAN (SAMUNDAR)
The oceans are the huge source of livelihood for the humans and sea life in its bosom. There is more than 71% of water on the surface of the earth in the forms of lakes, rivers, ponds and other water bodies but oceans contain a huge chunk in it. It influences the climates, causes rain, provides us sea-foods, helps in navigation etc. The sea water when dried becomes the source of salt for us.
It too remains cool when not disturbed but could be vengeful if its natural balance is disturbed. In recent times, due to the phenomenon of rising in temperature, due to human omissions and commissions, the sea level is rising due to the melting of snow in Antarctica. Alas, if this continues, a day is not far when it could have disastrous consequences.
THE MOUNTAIN (PARBAT)
The snow-clad mountains present a beauty of its own. All the big and small rivers are formed due to the water from melting of snow from these snow clad mountains and become the source of water to the habitations on their banks including the animals and plants.
Lessons from the mountains. The mountains withstand blizzards and another natural phenomenon including the burden of huge snow which falls on these but remain erect despite all these. We as humans too should remain undeterred by the challenges in our lives.
The forests provide natural sanctuaries to the animals and birds. The forest cover keeps a balance in nature. The humans due to its greed are cutting forests partly for habitation and partly for meeting various needs thus spoiling the healthy balance in nature. The forests give everything to all the living beings but only want that its forest cover should be protected and new plants should be planted if and when some are cut for use. Otherwise, all will have to feel its heat if the forests are cut in large numbers.
In fact all the constituents of nature follow its own laws and anybody flouting is punished by it.
THOSE WHO ASPIRE TO BECOME PERFECTIONIST END UP BECOMING STRESSFUL
I have met people who aspire to be perfectionists in their work. There may be some who are perfect but I did not have the chance of meeting such people and therefore, I am nursing with the notion that only our God is perfect. We all try and reach our goal through our since hard work and perseverance. Sometimes, we are unsuccessful but try again and reach the milestone we set to achieve.
I had the privilege of meeting an old friend of mine who wanted to be perfect in whatever he wanted to do – over-ambitious indeed. He had everything that he wanted through his hard work; established his business, money, the position he wanted and everything that a most successful person would like to acquire. But during this effort to reach the pinnacle of success, he had got stress-related diseases.
LESSONS LEARNED FROM THE ABOVE:-
- Perfection is good enough, no doubt in that, but it should not be at the cost of our health.
- If health is lost for the fructification of our ambition then we shall not be able to enjoy the fruits of that success.
- Learning from the mistakes and making these mistakes as stepping stone for success, of course without carrying the baggage of mistakes along, makes huge difference.
WHEN OUR INTENTION (MANSHA) IS SINCERE EVERYTHING FALLS IN PLACE
It has been experienced that when our intention is pure and simple, God will certainly come to our succor and our efforts will bear bountiful fruits. It should never be forgotten that honesty, sincerity, belief on self and indomitable belief on our God/Bhagwan Ji/Creator/Lord/Allah or Super Soul will pull us out in whatever we intend to do.
SINCERE INTROSPECTION MAKES HUGE DIFFERENCE
We must have observed that whatever we want to tell others, we must sincerely analyze the contentious issues threadbare, taking into account the pros and cons and subsequently reach to a conclusive end result. This way, we shall not face any impediments on the way, no heart burns, no ill-will, no disharmony and finally regrets whatsoever.
In the year 2019, I shall try to sincerely follow the following besides the things which come on my way:-
- Adopt patience and tolerance through experimentation and practice.
- Remaining calm in emergency contingencies.
- Leading a spiritually oriented life.
- Unlearning some bad habits and not care to cultivate any bad habit afresh.
- I shall experience and face life squarely rather than quitting.
- Self-belief and belief in God to be paramount.
- Evolving through practice.
- Becoming more self-aware and self-conscious.
- Become a witness to a change.
- Always remember that nobody has seen tomorrow.
- Try for self-actuation and self-realization.
- Giving more credence to truth, love, and enlightenment.
Following a positive oriented and spiritual life will always make huge difference in our life. I shall endeavour to follow this type of lifestyle, of course, with God’s grace.