Bereft of any conviction

Mind faltering and wavering without set ambitions

And dithering everywhere in circles in real sense of terms

Surely not on the point of contention

That are the symptoms of being self without any confidence.

No concrete success is guaranteed

Till focused attention on the goal  is made

For without any set agenda

We’ve only confusion all around.

Whence we are effusing with self-confidence

We  try our luck

And take calculated risks

Many a paths hereto unknown and not trodden

For us, become ajar open with the grace of God

Confidence presents us a magic key of courage

To open ground-breaking horizons

A touchstone of success

Hitherto not known anytime before

It is not merely the material world

Which is to be ensured for self-subsistence

But also to realize the purpose

Of life on this planet which is actually a  must.

Lack of self-confidence

Means not knowing even our inner-self

Not knowing self means our life remains immobile

Alas! without an iota of forward movement

Putting solid brakes on our path of successful mission.

One thing should never be forgotten

That the self-confidence

Should not be raised

On the base of sand

As sand just slips out our quickly from our hands

And the building erected just totters as fast as it is made.

When self-confidence is  made with feelings

Steeped in greed, hostility and enviousness

Of  others’ fortunes

Will also not be enduring

For long

That concocted confidence which is attained

With a feeling of deception

Is of negatively orientation.

When self-confidence is built

On the highest values held dear

Then this self-confidence

Can stand the test of time

With utmost courage and self-assurance.

People with low-esteem

Just do not have the self-confidence

They while away their precious time and resources

In unusual gossips

Including passing buck

For any responsibility assigned

Self-praise and arrogance are their weak defences

Whilst egocentric tendencies are their legs to stand on

Such people care but nobody else but themselves alone

Such people disrespect others at the slightest ruse

For raising their so called stature

On the foundation of false excuses.

True self-confidence

Is generated when we’ve humbleness

In abundance

Despite sufficiency of everything at our beck and call

Along with firmness

Of inner-resolve

For resolution of our conflicts which inflict us.

Person with self-confidence

Gains gyan (knowledge) through self-efforts

With perseverance and persistence so hard

Thereby making every failure a success story

Thus transforming ourselves from feeble character

To a strongly-willed unwavering personage.

Then the person with self-confidence

Will learn how to remain cool in seething environment

For living a life of love and light

With tolerance and patience writ large in his character

For spreading the message of love to all humanity.

A person with lack of confidence

Makes excuses for anything and everything

To hide his shortcomings

Adopts ways so scrumptious  

That he pays lip-service

To others’ wellbeing, so contrived

On deception and dishonest demeanor.

A person with self-confidence

Improves with sincere efforts

Takes responsibility for anything

With absolutely no excuses given

Such a person stands for truth with rock-solid belief

Whatever may be the consequences.

Self-confident people give damn to their praise

But protect their character above everything else.

People with self-confidence

Do not ask for praise for themselves

But are generous in praise for others.

Self-confident people are self-dependent

And do not rely on others for their inner-fulfillment.

People with confidence are courageous

They do not fright when fight is called for

Thru’ self-efforts and perseverance

And also with the grace of our Creator.


For cultivating confidence, we’ve to make concerted efforts, say good bye to some of our habits and attitudes which have become responsible for curtailing our further movement. For this to become reality, it is goes without saying that we have to know our own self – our positive and negative attributes and make determined efforts to curb our negative tendencies. If these negative tendencies are difficult to be eradicated then we’ve to take somebody else’s assistance (known for refining negative traits – there are many sacred Souls who would be more than willing to render such help) who can transform us.

Having acquired positivism in our mannerism and way of living, we can utilize these good traits in our daily routines, keeping in our mind that our sincere efforts will always be successful but if sometimes these efforts do not bear good fruits then we can at least get adequate experience out of that effort. We should not forget that success and failure are the two important happenings which surely will take place in our life and we’ve to maintain a healthy balance in all eventualities. Our failure should not disappoint so much that it should disorient our mindset and our success should not make us egocentric and self-centric in our attitude.

While we acquire equanimity in our mindset, then half the battle is won. It will generate self-confidence and this self-confidence would be without even shred of ego and conceitedness. Decision taken in this sort of mindset and scenario can do us a maximum benefit in adjusting in any situation we are placed because we are aware of our potential strength.

With self-confidence we can:-

  • Take calculated risks because we know our strengths – self-belief and belief in our God.
  • Sometime we can traverse in unknown territory with good results with good results and if results are not that encouraging, we can at least get experience having traveled thus far. That experience could assist us in future journey.
  • It is also essential that our self-confidence should not make us too much conceited or arrogant or -over-confident just undoing what we have acquired.
  • It should always be remembered that audaciousness or over-confidence could spell doom for us in place of boom in success.
  • Our staying-power could be ensured when we stay-put despite some disappointing results initially.
  • Concentrating on the goal at hand with confidence hardly means we should be bereft of any humility.
  • Our humility should be an instrument of change for us whenever there is a need.
  • Flexibility, as and when required need to be pursued rather than being rock-solid when ice-like softness is called for.
  • While our self-confidence is a must for getting things done in our favour but one important thing should never be disregarded and that is to associate our GOD in all the endeavours we are undertaking otherwise we may fall prey to skepticism and indecisiveness when crunch time comes.  

Author: Harbans

GOD is very compassionate with us in every way, need is to use those blessings which are the results of His bounties and thank Him for everything that He gives us. We should also share these bounties with our fellow-beings. I am the person who loves God and His Creations. I love my Creator and not fear Him. My children are adjusted to life, incommensurate, to their Karma and destiny. I have served as a Sr CGO for about 38 years in a Central Govt. Presently I am serving as an Adm Offer with an Engineering College. I am a spiritual person with liberal ways of thinking. I respect all the religions as I respect mine since I understand that all the religions are the pathways to a SINGLE ENTITY - paths for connecting with Him may be different but the ULTIMATE SOURCE IS ONE. I want to be a student till last day of my life. I am a homeopath also, which I pursue as a social service only. Happy moments, I take as God's Gifts, sad ones I take as His Test for me. I believe that He will surely assist me in this Test of His, come what may. Really. I have more belief in Him than I am on my own. You can comprehend my philosophy in life from my write-ups which I write while interacting with them. I firmly believe that every person has the special characteristic which other fellows cannot have and I respect that person as such. With the grace of Almighty God, a book entitled INNER THOUGHTS which could be purchased online from This book is based on the topics which have been penned down. That is why it is rightly said if intentions are good, everything goes well with you.

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