Bereft of any conviction
Mind faltering and wavering without set ambitions
And dithering everywhere in circles in real sense of terms
Surely not on the point of contention
That are the symptoms of being self without any confidence.
No concrete success is guaranteed
Till focused attention on the goal is made
For without any set agenda
We’ve only confusion all around.
Whence we are effusing with self-confidence
We try our luck
And take calculated risks
Many a paths hereto unknown and not trodden
For us, become ajar open with the grace of God
Confidence presents us a magic key of courage
To open ground-breaking horizons
A touchstone of success
Hitherto not known anytime before
It is not merely the material world
Which is to be ensured for self-subsistence
But also to realize the purpose
Of life on this planet which is actually a must.
Lack of self-confidence
Means not knowing even our inner-self
Not knowing self means our life remains immobile
Alas! without an iota of forward movement
Putting solid brakes on our path of successful mission.
One thing should never be forgotten
That the self-confidence
Should not be raised
On the base of sand
As sand just slips out our quickly from our hands
And the building erected just totters as fast as it is made.
When self-confidence is made with feelings
Steeped in greed, hostility and enviousness
Of others’ fortunes
Will also not be enduring
That concocted confidence which is attained
With a feeling of deception
Is of negatively orientation.
When self-confidence is built
On the highest values held dear
Then this self-confidence
Can stand the test of time
With utmost courage and self-assurance.
People with low-esteem
Just do not have the self-confidence
They while away their precious time and resources
In unusual gossips
Including passing buck
For any responsibility assigned
Self-praise and arrogance are their weak defences
Whilst egocentric tendencies are their legs to stand on
Such people care but nobody else but themselves alone
Such people disrespect others at the slightest ruse
For raising their so called stature
On the foundation of false excuses.
Is generated when we’ve humbleness
Despite sufficiency of everything at our beck and call
Along with firmness
For resolution of our conflicts which inflict us.
Person with self-confidence
Gains gyan (knowledge) through self-efforts
With perseverance and persistence so hard
Thereby making every failure a success story
Thus transforming ourselves from feeble character
To a strongly-willed unwavering personage.
Then the person with self-confidence
Will learn how to remain cool in seething environment
For living a life of love and light
With tolerance and patience writ large in his character
For spreading the message of love to all humanity.
A person with lack of confidence
Makes excuses for anything and everything
To hide his shortcomings
Adopts ways so scrumptious
That he pays lip-service
To others’ wellbeing, so contrived
On deception and dishonest demeanor.
A person with self-confidence
Improves with sincere efforts
Takes responsibility for anything
With absolutely no excuses given
Such a person stands for truth with rock-solid belief
Whatever may be the consequences.
Self-confident people give damn to their praise
But protect their character above everything else.
People with self-confidence
Do not ask for praise for themselves
But are generous in praise for others.
Self-confident people are self-dependent
And do not rely on others for their inner-fulfillment.
People with confidence are courageous
They do not fright when fight is called for
Thru’ self-efforts and perseverance
And also with the grace of our Creator.
For cultivating confidence, we’ve to make concerted efforts, say good bye to some of our habits and attitudes which have become responsible for curtailing our further movement. For this to become reality, it is goes without saying that we have to know our own self – our positive and negative attributes and make determined efforts to curb our negative tendencies. If these negative tendencies are difficult to be eradicated then we’ve to take somebody else’s assistance (known for refining negative traits – there are many sacred Souls who would be more than willing to render such help) who can transform us.
Having acquired positivism in our mannerism and way of living, we can utilize these good traits in our daily routines, keeping in our mind that our sincere efforts will always be successful but if sometimes these efforts do not bear good fruits then we can at least get adequate experience out of that effort. We should not forget that success and failure are the two important happenings which surely will take place in our life and we’ve to maintain a healthy balance in all eventualities. Our failure should not disappoint so much that it should disorient our mindset and our success should not make us egocentric and self-centric in our attitude.
While we acquire equanimity in our mindset, then half the battle is won. It will generate self-confidence and this self-confidence would be without even shred of ego and conceitedness. Decision taken in this sort of mindset and scenario can do us a maximum benefit in adjusting in any situation we are placed because we are aware of our potential strength.
With self-confidence we can:-
- Take calculated risks because we know our strengths – self-belief and belief in our God.
- Sometime we can traverse in unknown territory with good results with good results and if results are not that encouraging, we can at least get experience having traveled thus far. That experience could assist us in future journey.
- It is also essential that our self-confidence should not make us too much conceited or arrogant or -over-confident just undoing what we have acquired.
- It should always be remembered that audaciousness or over-confidence could spell doom for us in place of boom in success.
- Our staying-power could be ensured when we stay-put despite some disappointing results initially.
- Concentrating on the goal at hand with confidence hardly means we should be bereft of any humility.
- Our humility should be an instrument of change for us whenever there is a need.
- Flexibility, as and when required need to be pursued rather than being rock-solid when ice-like softness is called for.
- While our self-confidence is a must for getting things done in our favour but one important thing should never be disregarded and that is to associate our GOD in all the endeavours we are undertaking otherwise we may fall prey to skepticism and indecisiveness when crunch time comes.