The human nature is so very intricate 

We feel highly elated

When  eulogy for us is etched

When praises on us are showered

From all quarters; expected or so not expected

Reason or no reason hardly matters indeed

What matters adulation

From all quarters is our main expectation

Since we’ve appetite- for getting aplenty admiration

Praises and acclamation

May be sometimes without giving evaluation

To our merit were in possession

Or bereft of any merits or demerits into consideration

Thus throwing to the winds

The actual barometer of our worth.

Criticism which should be the template

Of our worthiness or otherwise

More the scathing criticism

More the hope of finding our net-worth

Initially when a person’s worth gets reckoned

Or before the person is recognized

That person has to face a variety of criticisms 

Which are construed as valuable tools in true sense of terms

Like more the gold is put in the red-hot furnace and then hammered

The purer it becomes in caret purity term  

Then this pure gold

Need nobody’s reference at all

For its sale-ability in the marketplace

Since it is based on truth

Which could be tested and attested

At any place and time

Similarly, more the rough diamond is chiseled and polished

The more it shines

And more cost it commands

Similar is the case with criticism

More the criticism

More the refinement

In our character and deportment.

Withstanding all the life’s thuds and thunders

Since our life is not cake walk altogether

It is all the more arduous

With challenges and counter-challenges hindrances to overcome

For a triumph and win praises

We have to overcome our adversaries

By strengthening our frame of mind

And steel our determination

To face the arrows of criticism

From any cynics and carping critics

We’ve to withstand these criticisms

With intelligent witticism

Combined with logical suggestions

With cool-headed mentality as our weapon

To mute the mouth of criticism which has arisen.

Healthy criticism should have our approbation

If we are blameworthy, it should have our acceptance without hesitation

With candid assessment  we should make necessary course correction

Leaving nothing which may evoke further criticism.

 Criticism objective should not be character assassination

A  figment of doer’s imagination

Then a biting criticism without any substance

Unbecoming of the dignity and stature of the person concerned

Like we hear the politicians

Hurling abuses and criticism at each other without rese*rvation.

We should accept our criticism gracefully

The same should be replied whenever needed suitably

Countering all the contentious points reasonably

With right spirit and openhanded

Feeling no grouse or whining against the criticizer

Or reach to the level as that of  criticizer

The one who is in total control of his mind

Knowledgeable and creative

Does not become, in essence, reactive

He wins the battle which is forced on him

And will have to fight it out himself

Rather than turning his back for more criticism

Or should not turn this battle a bristling war

Engulfing others too in the fight for supremacy.

Care ought also be exercised

That nobody is unnecessarily made the butt of criticism

One who resorts to unhealthy criticism

Should be made to realize his folly

So that he/she not criticize others unreasonably

But try living with harmony

With all the members of the society

With the bountiful graces of our Lord Almighty

God be praised for His mercies always

So criticism or praises should not make us tarry

From our chosen path of living with the humanity

With humbleness, tenderness and gentleness

As the three pillars of our to serve our society

Withstanding with utmost humility

All the criticisms and barbs with dignity

While improving in all the sphere of our activities.


In essence, it has been observed that whenever somebody appreciates us, we tend to become happy without putting our mind whether this appreciation has been substantiated by facts on ground or not. In actual practice, appreciation based on facts and figures assumes significance for us since it bestows us inspiration to do even better by working hard for improving ourselves through our since sincere efforts and also to excel and our tempo our excellence.

When somebody appreciates our good deeds performed by us with absolute sincerity, we should offer that person profound thanks since on that plank of appreciation, we can get inspiration to excel. It has been elucidated in Holy Quran: If you give thanks, I will give you more.

Wrong appreciation is counter-productive since it makes us lethargic and pompous i.e. we tend to over-estimate our efficacy than what we really are. When this happens, we consider ourselves more than equals thereby not making efforts to improve ourselves to earn place for ourselves in the organization in which we are working or the society in which we are living.

Importantly, it is also a fact, in normal course, we should not criticize others since if we criticize you, you are in for criticism in return. Unreasonably judging others, without self-introspection leads to unpredictable  results. In Bible it has rightly been said: If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother.

Example: There were two colleagues of mine, one was very sincere worker and the other one was shrewd and knew where his bread could be buttered. He always made it a point to be near the boss and tell all the secrets which his colleagues were doing or not doing. In other words, he was a blue eyed boy of the boss. They trusted him immensely over others who were sincere in their job performance, were regular and punctual and always performed their assigned jobs on time. But when the question of appraisal and promotion came, the preferred one got raise and appreciation and the sincere colleagues did not get anything tangible. When the particular boss got transferred to other location, the person wanted to adopt the same stratagem/tact’s, as he was in the habit of but this boss was the man of principle. He appraised his past record and got him and issued him a stern warning to perform his assigned job sincerely otherwise face the music. That is the consequence of sincere work and the deceitful behavior of ours.

I have observed during my stint in service period and through discourses/interactions with others that we always learn through healthy criticism. It should always be kept in mind that nobody has ever improved with appreciation not backed up by professional efficacy and finesse. Healthy criticism affords us opportunities to tighten our loose ends or the areas where improvement is called for and then we can face the world at large with self-assurance. Therefore, criticism could work as blessing in disguise if we take course correction as and when required.

Conclusively, it could be said that we should never overact since what actually are cannot be hidden. It would be revealed. Rather we should try to improve ourselves by being a student at all times. Our merit cannot remain hidden. It will come into lime light. Then appreciation will definitely follow with the grace of God.















When there is almost nothing with us

By way of worldly possessions

Except a strong yearning

In the deep recesses of our heart

So peaceful and quiet

When a feeling of inner voice

Comes out just involuntarily

Of thanks to our Creator

So very loving, without a shred of doubt

That is the moment of glory of our Lord so dear.

In the early morning

While walking

A cold breeze blowing

On the other side of the road today

I heard a voice

So very pleasing and touching heart strings

Diwali Greetings of ‘PEACE & PROSPERITY’

To the passers-by with great longing

A earthen wick by the side burning

It was surprising

A family of five

Had also gotten up at five

So early in the morning

I ventured to inquire from the couple, so full of joy on this day

What is so special today

That made you to get up so early

In the morning

He simply said

With utmost respect

Diwali Greetings of ‘peace and prosperity’.

Today Shri Ram, Maa Sita with brother Lakshmana

Had come back to Ayodhya

To their own subjects and relatives so close

After 14 years of exile

After finishing the evils

In the form of Demon King Ravana.

Without realising himself

That he and his wife

With three small kids in the toe

Were living in exile themselves

On the pavement with elements so diverse

And with open cover of the heavens above

On their heads

Forced, may be  by the quirk of fate

Best known to the family only

Yet all were making merry

Because that was the day of Diwali

A day when  Shri Ram had come back

From his 14 years exile.

A lesson for us who with everything 

Graced by the God Almighty

With all the comforts of our own homes to live

With all the security and everything provided for 

Due to His blessings indeed

Even then we live in hidden fears

On variety of  subjects/matters

Which are eating us from within

And robbing us of the peace of mind

Thereby earning for us in the process

The depression and stress related ailments

And robbing us of happy and joyful moments

Instead of ‘peace and prosperity’

If we try to live a life of satiety

we shall surely 

Be living a life Song of God directed existence

What we brought when we were born her on this earth

And will not be taking anything when we leave this earth

What we have is given here……..

I think the person

With five members of his family

On the pavement

With joy abounding

Is living a better than some of us

Who are living a life of fear psychosis

Of fears which cannot expressed in simple words

But are gnawing us every moment

A life lived without fear of unknown

Robs us of ‘peace and prosperity’

Which we wish others on the auspicious day

My prayer to our Almighty God

Bestow us with peace of mind

So that we can bring a smile

On our fellow-being

Like the character of my poem

Living on the pavement

Wishing others ‘PEACE & PROSPERITY’

I take him as a richest man around

Since he has got everything to give with a smile

Without much expectations.





Diwali is one of the most sacred festivals for us

It was the day when Lord Rama

Came to Ayodhya accompanied with Sita & Lakshamana

Along with Hanumana and others

Whole of Ayodhya

Was drenched in festivities on this day

With lighting of Ghee Diwas

This day is remembered by devouts Ram Bakhatas.

Lord Rama is an epitome of truth obviously

A standard set to remain steadfastly

Within the set Maryadha and Parampara – norms of behavior

Under any situation whatsoever

Also, when promises are made

These are to be redeemed

Whatever may be the end-result

By him examples were set

In self obedience and  self restraint

For us to follow without hang-ups.

After completing 14 years’ exile, a period so long

Lord Rama with brother Lakshmnana

Along with Maa Sita

On the directions of their father King Dashratha

Ruling his kingdom Ayodhaya

To fulfill a promise given to his queen named Kakei

These  promises to be obeyed fulfilled were

Rule for his son named Bharta

To rule the Kingdom Ayodhaya

And 14 years’ exile for Rama

Discarding all the princely clothes

Including all the jewelery items so precious

And manage to survive on the jungle fruits and herbs

And bereft of lavishness and comforts of a palace

Withstanding all the difficulties in the wilds

When younger brother Bharta came to know about exile

For his elder brother Rama

And rule for Bharta

He was saddened immensely

He along with some of his well-wishers

Visited Rama in the jungles

To persuade him to return back to rule Ayudhya

Despite all entreaties Ram did not agree

As he wanted to obey the orders of his father.

Rama during the exile traveled

The length and breadth of the land

He visited Prayaga the present day Allahabad

During this period

He got the news of demise of his father king Dashratha

He performed his father’s Sharadha

Under the butt briksh (tree) with his consort Sita

And brother Lakshmana.

Thence he visited Chatrakoot

Where Bharat met the three

Termed as Bharat Milap

To exhort him to return back to Ayodhya

But Ram did not agree to his entreaties

As he had made a solemn promise

To his father for 14 years exile

Subsequently he traveled to Panchavati

Meaning garden of five banyan trees

Presently located in Maharashtra

Later he remained with Dandakarnya

In present day Chhattisgarh

Here Shrupnaka the sister of demon king Ravana

Tried to entice Lakshmana

And wanted to marry her

And even attacked Sita and Rama

Lakshmana cut her nose in a fit of anger

For her impudence

Then the three venerable

Visited Lepakshi

The present day Andhra Pradesh

Here abduction of Sita took place

As King Ravana felt disgraced

After knowing the episode of his Shrupnaka’s nose being cut

Thence Rama and Lakshmana

Started searching for Sita Maa

They also met Jatayu

Who was severely injured

When he wanted to stop the Rath Yatra

Of Demon King Ravana

This place is known as Lepakshi

It is the place where where Jatayu breathed his last

And his last rites were performed by Lord Rama and Lakshmana.

Wondering about in huge distress in search of Sita

The two brothers reached Kishkinda

Located in Hampi

In present day Karnataka

The kingdom ruled by two brothers

Named Bali and Sugreeva

But due to some doubt arisen

The two turned into sworn enemies

Bali even took away his brother’s wife

Lord Rama promised Sugriva

To get his wife from sinner brother

Bali was killed

And the wife of Sugriva restored

Including anointing the Prince Angad as the king

In the care and protection of Sugriva

Rama and Lakshmana met Hanumana here too

Who accompanied monkey warriors

In the forests Rama also met a pious old lady known as Sabari

A devout Bhakta of Lord Rama

Who waited for several years to meet Rama

Lord Rama graced her with Moksha

The place now is called as Sabarimala.

Latter on Hamanji was sent to Lanka

To be certain of their suspicion of abduction of Sita Maa

Rama’s ring was given to him as a symbol

For her to recognize.

He visited Sita Maa

Kept in Ashok Vatika

And also met Ravana

He also advised him to restore Sita Maa

With honour to Lord Rama

And ask for his forgiveness

And Lord Rama, being benevolent will forgive Ravana

But Ravana as he was filled with pride

Though possessing huge knowledge of Veda and Puranas

He wanted to teach Hanumana a lesson

Meghnatha was suggested that the monkeys love their tail so much

Therefore, it ought to be burnt

To teach him a lesson

To fulfill their intention

Hanuman’s tail was set on fire

Hanumanji in a fit of rage burnt the Golden Lanka

In order to teach lesson to Ravana

Thence Hanumana met Rama

Along with all his battle ready monkey army

All of them later reached Rameshwaram

Where Rama prayed to Lord Shiva.


A huge bridge named RAM SETU was constructed

With stones on which JAI SHRI RAM was written

Ram Setu or Aadam Bridge connect Pamban Island in Rameshwaran

With Mannar Island in Lanka

Covering a distance of about 50 Km

It is believed to be made to be made by humans

A fiercest battle took place between the two armies after reaching Lanka

Where Ravana, his brother Kumbkara along with son Meghnatha

With all his army met their end

Sita Maa with immense reverence was taken from Ashok Vatika.

In order to test fidelity of  Sita Maa

Sita Maa was made to pass through fire test

Termed as Agni Priksha (purity by fire)

She passed in this test

Since her chastity was beyond doubt.

In the meanwhile14 years’ exile got over

All started for Ayodhya

Welcomed Rama, Lakshamana along with Sita Maa

By lighting up the entire Ayodhya

Which we term as DIWALI.

A festival celebrated by the devout

They tastefully illuminate their homes

Which look so dazzling

In the darkest Amavasya night

Amidst the crackers bursting

That too, having cleaned our homes and surroundings

And also providing us opportunity for introspection

And finding out our negative aspects

Like greed, anger, lust, and jealousy

Then do everything possible for cleansing our mind and body

Off obsolete detestable thoughts

Which have made residency in our mindset

Preceding Diwali days

Provide us ample time for cleaning everything’s

So that Diwali bestows our opportunity to live aesthetically

And fill the people with unending love and huge satiety

With the bountiful graces of the Goddess Devi Lakshmi

Who fulfills the needs of all 

Without even an iota o bias.

People light the wicks in rows tastefully

Burst crackers to celebrate joyfully

Yet, we ought to realize the importance of pollution free atmosphere

To rid the world off gases most poisonous

And celebrate every day with the feeling of Diwali – so joyous.

My sincerest prayer to Lord Rama

Let your life and righteous KARMA

Remain individually inspiring us

While keeping the words we have given

But everything has to start from ourselves.

So that we also live the life of obedience and discipline



Literally, the word DEEPAVALI OR DEEPVALI means (deep – light and vali a row and together it means a row of lights) – a light which enlightens spirits and broadens our strength of mind.


Apart from blessed thoughts which emanate from the inner recesses of our heart, the enthusiasts besides lighting their homes and hearths also make sure that their houses are spruced up for inviting the blessings of Maa Lakshmi, the  Lordess of wealth and wellbeing. For this purpose, we can say with fair amount of certainty that Swachchta (cleanliness) has its own reward. Not only our houses, we clean up our surroundings too and for this purpose, Swachch Bharat Abhiyan has done much. Need is to keep not merely ourselves but also clean up our environment. For this, use of crackers which produce huge amounts of pollutants should not be used. It would be in the fitness of things to confine ourselves to lighting our houses to the best way possible. Deepavali is more of the festival of light than of the sounds generated by exploding of crackers.


It is not merely Swachchta of our homes and surrounds, the DIWALI LIGHTS, by the grace of LORD RAMA should bring the purity of our body, mind, and soul so that we live a spiritually oriented life for a better living. Lord Rama’s philosophy of compassion for all; RAMA RAJYA (based on the righteous rule) should be the exhortation for all of us. One man’s celebration should not be the lamentation for others.


The king of Ayodhya Dhashratha had extracted a solemn pledge to his wife Kakeyi that she could ask for redemption of two boons or promises, at a time of her likings. She had saved the life of king Dasaratha while on a hunting trip in the jungle. She was given promise that she could realize those boons whenever she wanted. While there was news that the king wanted Ramji to be crowned as the of Ayodhya, Manthra the maidservant of KaIkeyi poisoned the ears of the queen Kaikeyi and exhorted her to ask for the realization of two promises given to her by the king.


First making Bharata (Kaikeyi’s son) the king of Ayodhya and second, 14 years’ exile for Rama (the son of Kaushilya). As there was the dictum in the family since ages together: – Raghukul Reet Sada Chali Aayi Puran Jaaye Par Bachan Na Jaye (There is a tradition in Raghukul that they will prefer death to break a promise), so Ayodhya king had to concede the demands of Kaikeyi though with heavy heart/ grudgingly.

After hearing about the turn of events (Crowning of Bharata and 14 years exile for Rama). Rama did not say even a single word. On the other hand, in order to comply with the directive of his father, he put on his the simplest dress to depart for exile, thus obeying the directive of his father without demur or reservation. Sitaji (consort of Ramji and Lakshmana the son of Sumitra) too wanted to accompany Rama. This is a fine example of obedience to the orders of elders in the family. Our youth should imbibe this exceptional trait of Lord Rama and thus follow a righteous path in our life.


After the expiry of Lord Ram’s 14 long years of exile, winning over the ‘Sone Ki Lanka – GOLDEN LANKA’  and killing of demon king Ravana with it all his evil Karmic deeds; Lord Rama, accompanied by his brother Lakshmana and Sita and all his followers including Hanumanji (a reservoir of strength, knowledge and intelligence,  courageous but without even a touch of pride, an epitome of Bhakti and Shakti –  despite all these qualities he considered himself to be the humble servant of Lord Rama).

When Lord Rama reached Ayodhya, he was accorded a rousing reception/welcome by the happy populace there. They welcomed all by lighting their homes and streets of Ayodhya with earthen wicks. The righteous emperor Bharata, the virtuous one coroneted his elder brother Rama to the throne of Ayodhya.


It falls two days prior to Diwali. Dhan means wealth and teras mean the thirteenth day as per Hindu Calendar. On this day, devout purchase gold, silver ornaments/coins or any other precious metal or utensils as per the propensity of the person concerned. Maa Lakshmi – the Goddess of Wealth and wellbeing is worshiped on this day. Also Kuber, the treasurer of gold and silver is also worshipped. On this day, houses and business established are spruced up for the ongoing Diwali. It is also accompanied with Yama pooja (worship – the God of death) for ensuring sound health and wellbeing with his blessings.


The love between the brothers. As Bharata came to know about the 14 years’ exile to Rama and crowning for himself, he felt very disappointed. He flatly refused to be crowned as a king of Ayodhya in the absence of elder brother Rama and Lakshmana. No arguments of any sort could placate him. He thought this act of being the ruler as adharam (irreligiosity). He even went to the jungles in order to persuade Rama and Lakshmana to come back to Ayodhya but Rama did not agree to this because of the promise was given to his father. This is also termed as Bharata Milap (meeting of Rama and Bharata).

Finally, he extracted a promise from Ramji that on his return back after 14 years’ exile, he will take the reigns as a ruler. Such was the love between the brothers – an unparallel one. Rama’s love for Bharta was also an example that ought to be followed by brothers now for ensuring goodwill in our families. Wealth or any other consideration should not be an impediment to good relations in our families.

BEING KNOWLEDGEABLE DOES NOT MEAN HAVING WISDOM. Ravana the Demon King was most Learned Demon King. Ravana, the son of Vishwashrava (A Brahman Rishi) and his mother Kaikasi (from a demon family) was a scholarly person who had the knowledge of Vedas and other scriptures at his fingertips but he is taken in the negative light because he did not make use of this knowledge for the benefit of demon clan. But Ravana was intoxicated with his prowess and knowledge. So much so he was swayed by ego that he stooped to abducting Sita Mata the consort of Lord Rama – an evil act. It goes to prove that if we do not use the knowledge with sagacity, we sure will fall prey to unethical karma leading to our sure downfall.

KUBER PUJA. Kuber is the step-brother of Ravana and is considered as the treasurer of wealth. It is believed amongst the devout that worship of Lord Kubera, especially on the auspicious day of Diwali, brings affluence and progress in business. Just as we can have fresh water from the fresh water reservoir, we can have Lord Kubera’s blessings if we pray sincerely and work hard for that. Meaning, he bequeaths wealth if we sincerely do our karma as per the natural laws. His graces those who resort to right karma and possess right attitude in life. Kubera Pooja is done on Diwali Day so that there is the sufficiency of everything for meeting the needs of our family.

LORDESS LAKSHMI & LORD GANESHA POOJA. Diwali is considered complete without first inviting Lord Ganesha because He is an embodiment of good beginning and removes obstacles besides being the Lord of Wisdom. Lordess Lakshmi represents wealth and well being. On the auspicious day of Diwali, both of the deities share a single altar thus ensuring blessings of the both. The former is taken as Lordess of wealth and the latter as the bestower of prosperity.

GAMBLING ON THE DAY O DIWALI. A legend has it that on Diwali Day Goddess Parvati played dice with Lord Shiva and He ordained that anyone who gambled on this day, prosperity will smile on that person. This tradition continues even today. But some unscrupulous/unethical people just gamble away their homes and hearts on this day and have to fend for themselves. This is bad. Tradition is OK, but the excess of everything is bad  – should never be forgotten.

It should never be forgotten that when tradition marries with modernity, may it be the celebration of festivals or any other day, we consider this as a pious and worth celebrating, it gives us feeling of wellness amongst our fellow beings. But one thing we ought not to forget that celebration should never be individualistic in nature. When all are happy then celebration gives more satisfaction. May it be the celebration of Diwali, Christmas Day, EID or any other religious day – when all accompany us, celebration becomes more meaningful and eventful in the true sense of terms.*****

Message: Care to be taken that the crackers used (if at all) should be of low intensity and should produce less no or less noise or air pollution. The Apex Court has rightly imposed the ban on cracker sales in Delhi-NCR



sublime life



The life we want to live on this earth

Depends on the several factors

Having clear aim in life

Will to challenge the challenges

With iron will and going ahead

With complete determination

With sincerity to handle difficult tasks

Improvising on every step that we take

With confidence to fructify our efforts

With complete belief on the Creator of ours.

Ups and downs of our existence

Are the important features

Sadness and happiness

Are the two aspects of our life

When we are slighted or disrespect is showered

Due to an event so unexpected

An emotional change happens

In our being so sudden

That we are transported

From happiness

To sadness

According to the event

That has so happened

We sometimes reminisce

Our sad events

More than it is needed

Even in happy moments

We don’t enjoy the happy moments at all

Since we’ve been engulfed

By the sadness which though has passed

But we don’t want to leave this bad moment at all

And want to make it part of our life

Feeling sad even in happy moments

Has deeply impacted our lives adversely

Robbing peace of mind severely

A realization should dawn to us with experience

That if dark night is there presently

Then dawn of the day is not far off to view.

Although we have no realization

That happiness and sadness are the passing illusions

If former comes

The latter cannot be far off

We all play our part

The way we’re taught to play

In the echo-system we’re living

The way we think and perform our Karmic deeds

Positive Karma turns the poverty of our thoughts

Into richness of our thoughts

And positive Karmic actions

Add up to our Karmic credit

Our positive thoughts and karmic deeds

Determine the opulence of our self-realization

Or self-consciousness or self awareness

While observing the drama of life being played by us

Improvising himself/herself at every step taken

In close association with our Creator

And turn our existence a veritable Heaven on this planet.

The lives of saints and mystics

Had achieved a balanced way in their lives

They maintained composure

Both in happy and sad moments

They learned more lessons

From sad moments

Than the happy ones which bedeviled their paths

Which they practice with joy

To establish their connectivity

With the supernatural being ultimately

For their Moksha – liberation

From births and deaths

And be near Almighty God

For good

With peace all around

Without any fear of real life’s ups and downs.

These self-realized beings

 Also discern the eternal essence of our soul

While the experiences of our existence are transient 

Our soul being eternal acts merely as a spectator

And a serene traveler with us

Observing the drama Maya or illusion of our life

In the reel of our real secret of our existence

While enjoying the role in the scheme of things

Which in our physical world are happening

Thus the manner we want to live this life

Depends on our thoughts and action that we do in this life

Happiness and sadness are the two sides of the same coin

If former is there the latter cannot be far to be experienced

Poise and balance is hugely hence is of immensely required.



Question: Don’t we feel a panic feeling whenever we think about our old parents? Is not it necessary to take care of parents in their old-age? What is your idea about births and deaths?

 QuestionDon’t we feel a panic feeling whenever we think about our old parents? Is not it necessary to take care of parents in their old-age? What is your idea about births and deaths?

old parents

Affirmative, all of us should be concerned about our well-wishers and when the question is about the wellness of our parents, we have to be  extra-cautious and  all the more concerned. Naturally, we panic for their well-being as and when our thoughts go to them. It is as a result of our emotional bond which we possess since we are part of them and also we are due to them. But the word ‘panic seems to me a little hollow sort of   a feeling of an offspring for their parents.

Our parents look after us from the time we are conceived and then born, The mother withstands so much pain not merely on the birth of a child but also looks after while closing her eyes to all personal comforts. The parents bring us up by meeting our requirements. These needs may be with regards to providing care and protection during childhood period, transferring of value system/traditional modes of behaviour, meet our food and clothing requirements, our schooling/educational needs, meeting all our legitimate needs within their control. For the fructification of our needs, they not only spend the energies but also their earnings collected over a period of time.

Essentially, while our parents have nothing (neither health and money nor other resources), they need our care and protection in their old-age. We, as their progenies, have to provide them care and protection. in their old-age.  Given that they have grown old and infirm with not much finances left but everything they had has been spent on us only. Now it is our time as grown up offspring to pay back.

There are parents whose progenies are constrained to leave their homes and hearths because of their employment to eke out a living for their families. If the employment is within the country where parents are living, then the offspring are required to take their old parents along so that their needs could be met as and when these arise. The old parents not only require constant attention but also want love of their children. This is especially so when one of the spouse has died. The things could get compounded or spiral out of control when the employment is in the foreign lands and where due to VISA restrictions, the parents cannot be taken along or if allowed could stay only for a limited period of time as per rules and regulations of the countries concerned.

In this sort of a scenario, the following could be of help – not holistically but to a limited degree to ameliorate the predicament of the progeny outside the country:-

the relatonship

  • Contact should be established with the parents on regular basis without any break, preferably. on Skype or any other modes of internet connectivity.


  • A close relative or a trustworthy friend could be requested to visit the parents on daily basis to look after their daily needs.


  • The parents should have financial security in their old-age. A fixed deposit of corpus of fund should be opened for them which may facilitate and help them in medical emergencies and other contingencies t=which may arise from time to time.


  • A female maid should be employed for the parents to take care of their needs. This should be done after thorough checking her antecedents through police.


  • The parents could plan their visit for a limited period of time as permitted by the countries concerned as per the rules and regulations of that country in which the offspring is staying for employment purposes.


  • The employed children could pay a visit as and when leave is granted by the organization. Every employee is entitled/authorized to get some holidays in a year. This could be planned in such a manner that periodical meeting with the parents is made possible. But this could be done taking into account the schooling etc of their own children too.
  • If one of the spouses could be spared for meeting the parents, it should be done on a periodical basis.


  • The festivals are the occasions which call for meeting of all the relatives and well-wishers. Therefore, important festivals should be celebrated with the parents so that they also participate in the celebrations with their children and grand-children. What a treat it would be for the old-parents.


  • For the offspring’s’ who is serving in foreign countries; in the event of a single spouse; male or female, the problems such as sadness or depression related to loneliness or solitude may set in. In such situations, if it is possible to take the single parent to the place of employment in the foreign land then it should be done, the quicker it is done the better.Given that the lucrative jobs cannot be acquired with ease, it is also a fact that our parents cannot be acquired again, if they are left to fend for themselves. Or otherwise, if need be, the offspring should leave the employment and seek an appropriate employment in his native country. This is the most convenient step which should be pursued   especially for our parents due to which we are here on this beautiful earth. Care for old and ailing parents overrides everything else should never be forgotten.  


  • It is unfortunate travesty of fact that some of the offspring, leave their old parents or single surviving parent to the care of old-age homes even though it may be by payment of monthly expense? Riding rough shot to our own parents is worst to say the least.


  • They should set aside some holidays to cater for unforeseen contingencies, severe illness of the parents or any other emergent situation if and when created.


  • Instructions should be conveyed to keep a health-check of the parents, periodical basis so that the medical aspects of the parents are not ignored. Ensure that medical report is communication to the children concerned to be updated about the parents health state.


  • The parents should be able to speak to their grand-sons or grand-daughters preferably on daily basis. This helps in bestowing a modicum of positivism in the parents.   


  • Finally, it is a fact that no one amonst us have seen God, therefore, God for us are our parents. Therefore, they should not be ignored. Those who do not love their parents cannot love God at all. Also, God will never forgive such offspring who ignore their parents.

While having or thinking about this ‘panic’, we should take into account the philosophy of life.

The one who is born on the earth

has to leave this beautiful earth

after his/her time of leaving comes

In fact not the proficient doctor

Or a expert Guru

Can change the course of births and deaths

It may be our closest friends

Ours most sworn enemies

Or even our parents

Due to blessings of those two

We’re here on this planet

We all have our own lives to live

And also different dates to die

Except for accidental deaths

We all have our different destinies

Hence different ‘time-lines’

To live on this earth

And depart from this earth so beautiful

That person may be me, you or everyone around us

The dye is cast already

To live and die

Then why

Care how, why and when!

This death may visit us

While still in the womb of our mother

Or after we are born

Or in any stage of journey of our life

A young offspring could lose his life

Before the parents, so old

This is all destined

And for it all

We’ve got no control at all

If still you’re having ‘panic’ attack

For your parents, the dearest ones

Just do not have this pain of panic———————–

Because this panic will become

A hurdle for further movement

For the smooth journey ahead

Impacting the future of loving parents too.

Therefore, be near them always, because it is our responsibility to render a helping hand when they require us the most. We should not ignore them at their old-age since they had not ignored us while they looked after us when we needed the same the most.

As far as I am concerned, I reckon that both births and deaths should be given the same credence since after our deaths only, we shall be getting new births. It is just like shedding our old clothes to put on the new ones. But grieving over the deaths of parents is a natural phenomenon since we cannot do anything about it because  it is so ordained. But looking after our parents while they live is our duty. It should never be forgotten. We have not seen God due to whom everything has been created but we know due to whom we are here on this earth, therefore, it is our bounden duty to respect them and care them while they need it the most. 






Karva means earthen pot (mainly a spherical earthen pot and paint the same with different colours so as to beautify it) and Chauth means fourth day – a festival which falls on the fourth day of  fortnight or Krisha Paksh of the fourth day of Kartik (Full Moon – Poornima) according to Hindu Calendar. In some parts in India, wheat is kept in the Karva (pot) because it is wheat sowing season (Rabi crop cycle).


On this festival is observed in Northern Part of India. It is believed that the grown up menfolk used to go for military campaigns leaving their families at home. Their wives pray for their husbands for their return safely.

Stories abound about observance of fast. There was a queen names Veervati. While she was married was at her parents’ house. She observed fast. Due to strict observance of fast, she felt it very hard to be without water. Her seven brothers felt for the life of their sister and created an artificial moon. She took water due to which her husband died. She offered prayers to Lord Shiva and Parvati. With their grace, her husband’s life was restored. They appeared to her and advised her to observe fast very strictly.

Then there is also a legend connected with Arjuna and Draupti of Epic Mahabharta. While Arjuna had gone to the forests for his strict penance, Draupti observed strict fast due to which Arjuna’s task was achieved without much difficulty. 

There was a woman named Karva. This woman was devoted to her husband. During bath, her husband was caught by crocodile. Karva bound the crocodile with a cotton yarn prayed the lord of death Yama to spare her husband and send the Yama to hell for his misdeed. She was so much so devoted to her husband that the Lord of Death had to agreed to her entreaties.

The story of Satyavan Savitri is well known. While she was married to a poor leper by his king father. When Lord Yama came to get Satyavan’s soul, Savitri requested him to spare his husband life. He refused doing so. She kept strict fast. While he was taking the soul of her husband, she followed him. Finally, Lord Yama asked her for a boon. She asked for nothing but the life of her husband.

The wheat is kept in the earthen pot which coincide with the prayer for good wheat crops.


The married women observe strict fast from the early morning hours, without taking anything including water. They take fenis (Made of wheat floor) along with some eatable water in the early morning (before sun rise) and subsequently observe fast for the complete day. The sargi is prepared by the mother-in-law. They pray for the safety of their husbands. They wait for till seeing the moon. They see their husband first before seeing the moon through a sieve. Then the husbands help their wives to take some water. The wives pray to the Moon God for the safety of their husbands and pray for their lives and also that they may shine like the Moon. My wife has been observing this festival for the last 40 years and I know how much love and affection we two along with my love ones are having while following all these rituals from morning till late evening. Beya or gift is also given to mother-in-law by the wife and both of them (husband and wife) pray for her long life. 



This festival symbolizes the consolidation of relationship between husband and wife and also with others in the family. Not only in the family, the married women consolidate their bond of friendship with other women in the neighbourhood by making the sahelis of friends with whom they exchange their beautification materials such as bangles, bindis, sandoor pot, ribbons etc. This shows the bond of friendship of feminine with with not only their husbands but also other members in the household including the neighborhood.

Now-a-days, even the fiances are observing fasts for their would-be-husbands for the safety and progress.


The women in the evening hours collect in the courtyard and sing the praises of the deity for the safety and prosperity of their husbands. They also exchange gifts mainly the beautification materials or make-up materials(shringar)  and other home- made sweets. All the women observing this fast put on their best dresses specially made for this festivals.


The married women sit in a circular form, exchange their thalis in which contain puja materials and make-up materials along with a earthen lighted wick etc are kept in that thali to be exchanged with the women in the group. The married women also exchange their views on the taboos which are strictly observed during this festival as this festival relates to the strict observance of fast lest something bad may happen to their husbands. They  relate old-times stories concerning the importance of this festival in the form of songs.The stories highlighting this festival and also the stories of the unfortunate wives who could not observe the fast strictly.  In other words, this festival signifies the importance of love of husbands and wives – a festival for fostering bond of love between spouses. The women folks pray for their safety and prosperity of their husbands. The songs in the praise of Lord Shiva-Parvati and Ganesh are sung with traditional fervor and devotion.














There are men with attitude so strange

There are ones who aspire to realize

Their inner potentials with ease and peace

By observing self-discipline with utmost patience

Work is their worship and penance

By regulating every bit of acts that comes their way

For smooth tiding over a situation

If any hurdle befall perchance

They seek ways and means for a solution

They never befriend procrastination

But aspire for application of heart and mind

By loyally sticking to self-improvement

With course correction if and when there is requirement

Nurturing no ill-will against anyone

Rendering helping hand to everyone!

Only thing which is dear to such person

Is the honesty of purpose

They aspire for no greatness at all

Greatness comes to them anyhow

By their Karmic deeds – indeed so amiable

Making alterations according to changed situation

Observing the dharma of righteous conduct  

They need not showcase these deeds

Rather their deeds speak louder

They always stand silently behind every show

But their fragrance spreads

To every nook and corner

From where they stand

They are not praise seekers

Rather they are joy givers

Take sound advice from every quarter

For adding to knowledge

And to remove ignorance from within

Not for  self-glorification

But for self- realization

And to take out every shred of darkness dormant

Lure of any sort can’t distract him

From the purpose so intended

For body, mind and soul purification

Purpose of their life is to seek connectivity

With God Almighty

Since our Soul has link with Him

Being the Super Soul  Himself.

We ought to emulate the example of mountains s

So steadfast and strong

Always heavenwards looking

not at all bowing 

Withstanding blizzards, heavy storms and everything

That fall without any warning

Asking in  return at all nothing 

In return nothing but only giving

As much which it can give

It is in fact nothing in everything.

This fellow does not aspire for personal fame

Since this fellow knows fully well

The importance of being great

Without losing sight of humility

Through clear thoughts through words and deed indeed.




Why would someone pursue greatness without fame?

In essence, the word greatness implies prominence; how best this is attained is not taken into account –  which gives out some negative feel connected with ego-centric tendencies. The main purpose is to attain magnanimity or goodness after having fulfilled the purpose of life. Here, it is worthwhile to mention that this magnanimity is attained when we obtain everything by dint of our sincere/honest hard work along with dedication and devotion to the job at hand – sticking to the work ethics along with observance of moral values, etc. On the other hand, there are the ones who aspire to get greatness by adopting any means (dishonest/insincere). This so called ‘greatness’ is counterproductive ultimately.

A person who has greatness, will always come to the succor of the hapless persons. He does not dissociate from the goodness in any situation – good or bad. In Bible it has been said: He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.


Essentially, there are certain requirements inbuilt in our body mechanism without which we cannot normally function. This internal organ satisfaction has to be satiated by us. Therefore, for obtaining a stage of ‘nothingness’, we have to discipline ourselves, to rise above the basic needs of our body mechanism. The basic needs cannot be ordinarily suppressed.  But efforts could be made to reduce this ‘thirst’ by self-developed mechanism by ourselves to act as a shield to ward off any need in the absence of which we can live without much difficulty. This could be done through self-regulation so as to obtain satiety within ourselves.  If we create a situation through self-suppression of our needs of our body, then, it may have adverse effect on our body and mind because it is beyond the body mechanism.  This nothingness could be obtained through rigorous practice and patience. 

Bhagwad Gita), try sharing your something with others but without much publicity or fanfare – our left hand should not know what our right hand is doing should be our motto. If you publicize, then whole of this exercise will be an exercise with fructification at all. You have not to have any attachment with the fruits of our action.


While our mind is under the control of our senses, we tend to be swayed by it, we become mental loafer. Those whose mind is not in control, they remain comparing themselves with others around them  and allurement of more power, more worldly possessions etc. remain pestering for ‘more’ and for this ‘more’ they may adopt any means even corrupt practices.

This question has been an enigma for humans. We have the tendency to be swayed by our emotions. We get perturbed whenever we are face to face with some undesirable incident or while seeing somebody’s plight or while we are witness to some accident.

The position that a person gets by the sweat of one’s brows makes a person self-confident and corollary for all this is positive orientation in life. This also helps in attaining self-confidence to transact any job that that person takes in hand. Besides, self-realization/self-awareness/self-consciousness not only bestows the qualities of self-assertiveness but also affords opportunities to know our potentials and weak areas. This also gives the person concerned the traits of maintaining humility without being getting swayed by self-attained , self-awareness and the benefits thereof. 

We can make concerted efforts to remove our weakness and attain prominence along with spiritualistic oriented life. After having attained some semblance of holistic growth, we shall have humbleness without being egocentric tendencies. That is the greatness we should pursue.

The effort of a person to get fame or celebrity character is the effort which we make to attain or to get reputation for ourselves. The condition of acquired greatness is so much that it goes to the head of the person concerned and further that person flaunts his greatness. This reputation could bring about negative traits or egocentric tendencies in us. This could also bring about disrepute/notoriety to the persons concerned which is contrary to pursing self-righteousness.

The recent incident in one of reputed hotels in Delhi, a few days back, is an indication what this conceitedness can result. This ill-mannered and ill-tempered   person, in an inebriated condition, drew out the loaded pistol and threatened to shoot the other person with whom he was having arguments besides hurling the choicest abuses and that too in full glare of by-standers.  This sordid and disreputable incident hogged the limelight in the social media too. This is the indication of the fact how a person, brought up in unsuitable environment, could prove to be – just devastating to say the least.   

A person who acquires greatness without being influenced by the false pride is in fact a great man. This sort of  a person does not lose his moorings or composure and believes in the Song of Bhagwad Gita: What we have acquired presently has been obtained here on this earth. We had not brought anything while we had taken birth and will not take anything while we die. When we get something, or lose something, it hardly matters. It should not disappoint us.

Thus, it is beneficial to acquire greatness without aspiring for fame which is short-lived. We may lose the power as it comes since it has been said that the wheels of fortune does not stay indefinitely.

Sometimes the wheel of fortune may go up and at other times, it may be at the lowest ebb. Therefore, an acquired greatness, by any means,  could be a burden on us if we show-off and showcase our greatness.  The moral lesson from the last words of Alexander the Great are eye opener for us all.

Bury my body, do not build any monument, keep my hands outside so that the world knows the person who won the world had nothing in his hands when dying. He was the greatest of all  the warriors that this world has ever seen. He realized his folly of being ‘greatest warrior of all times’ but it was too late since he could not enjoy all that he acquired through his battle-skill by adopting all the stratagems at his command.  This proves that greatness which bestows us the traits of humbleness despite availability of everything  at our beck  and call. One who aspires for reputation or fame without quality of head and heart; compassion/empathy is real greatness.

It should always be remembered that our Creator is only One who is great and perfect. In Guru Granth Sahib it has been rightly mentioned: One Universal Creator God. The Name Is Truth. Creative Being Personified. No Fear. No Hatred. Image Of The Undying, Beyond Birth, Self-Existent. By Guru’s Grace. One who considers himself great (without understanding the real meaning of greatness).