FAKING IT OUT…

FAKE IT OUT

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Faking it out means you’ll lose the love of our own loved ones

The ones who supported you always.

Faking it out means you’ll lose the support of your well-wishers

Who always supported your dream fulfillment.

Faking it out means losing the warmth in the relationship

Just gets dissolved when found out.

Faking it out means losing peace of mind

When we lose our own self-esteem.

Fake it out means you’ll lose humor and laughter

When found out by others.

Fake it out means you’ll consciously lose self-esteem hugely needed in life.

Fake it out means you’ll have the negative attitude

Which will take us away from the ultimate truth.

Faking it means you are giving it up

On what you ’ve earned very earnestly.

Faking it out means you’re performing somebody else’s role

Which is taking you away from your own self.

Faking it out means you’re not doing a good deed

Which when found finally, it’ll pain you more even.

Faking it out means you’ll lose warmth in the connection

When somebody trusting you finds it out.

Faking it out means you’ve lost touch

Of the lessons, the life has taught

You in the span of life you’ve lived.

Faking it out means you’ve lost the quality of life

Which you should have without it.

Faking it out means our own will not be proud of you

When they come to know the truth anyhow.

Faking it out means people around you will not take you seriously

Since nobody trusts a turncoat when the truth dawns ultimately.

Faking it out means losing respect

When found it by those who hold you in high esteem.

Faking it out means you’ll lose warmth in the smile

Since the fake life is bereft of any true smile.

Faking it out means you’ll not be enjoying the Mother Nature

As you’ve started living just unnaturally.

Faking it out means you are not spotless

In your personal conduct.

Faking it out means you’ve lost the right to act with the human touch

Since you’ve lost the honesty and sincerity stamp.

Faking it out means you’ve lost the right to be truthful

Since you’ve lost the right to be so with your own sweet-wish.

 

 FAKE AND GENUINE

Fake means not genuine or that which is phony or sham and a thing which is forged or counterfeit will not stand testimony of time. Now can we consciously and truly accept ourselves as a replica, I shall not accept a phony personality although i may have to suffer for being genuine or authentic or true or unadulterated. Herein lies the truth and truth is one thing which goes with us while we depart from this world of ours.

While we may have momentary pleasure by faking our personality, but when it dawns on us that we are living a life which is not real but a borrowed one then the disappointment would be huge; an irretrievable situation.

Fake personalities are for a short duration. Following will substantiate their true character:-

     1, Fake personality lost only for a while. When we are faking our personality, it           means we are not only playing phony with others but also with your own selves.

  1. Fake personality is not genuine and could be found out very easily when putting to test based on truth. We can hardly hide our truth, it could be found out very easily and when it is found it, it will disappoint the pretender more than others.
  2. There may be somebody who knows our actual self. To fake, our actual personality is risky and could be found out any time or there may be somebody somewhere who actually knows our true self. Then what?
  3. Consciously we are deceiving our own selves by faking ourselves. Can we ourselves consciously acknowledge and agree to be ‘wolf in the lamb’s clothing’- no, a truly conscious person will not do anything like this. Or do you agree to do this for a momentary and artificial life?
  4. Faking is risking. When it is found out that we are faking our own selves then it will bring us immense disappointment and we shall be forced to live a sham life.
  5. Truth always pays. It should never be forgotten that a one day’s genuine life or a life lived based on truth is better than one year’s life with fake outlook.

The truth contained in scriptures like Bhagwad Gita, Holy Bible, Holy Quran, et al are the 100% based on truth and if we live the life according to the scriptural truth then we need not fake ourselves because our feet would  firmly be on the ground and will not be tottered by any calamity that may befall on us since we would be knowing the very purpose of our existence without much attachment to the fruits of our actions. 

GENUINE PERSONALITY – SOME EXAMPLES

We should always remember that the true or genuine personalities has shown us the path and have become an example for us all. In fact, they have immortalized themselves by following a true path for the emancipation of humanity. Faking personality for them was anathema – the truth was their way of life.  

Bapu Gandhi Ji, who always lived truthfully never, faked his personality. His life was an open book which could be read by anyone anywhere – that was genuine and that is why he is considered as one of the best personalities of not only in our country but also the world over. He showed to the world at large that by following a simple life based on truth, we can contribute in whatever way we can. Wherever he went he left an indelible impression that was the magnetism of his genuine personality.

Nelson Mandela’s life was based on truth and he fought for truth for his people. He never faked anything. During the wars of resistance, he dreamed of making his contribution to the freedom of his people. He did and succeeded.

Abraham Lincoln (nicknamed Honest Abe) was one of the most powerful and greatest Presidents. He rose from a modest and humble beginning. His determination and sincere efforts made him the President of America who excelled both in politics and as a lawyer and he truthfully helped in abolishing the slavery and helped giving equal rights to all without any prejudice. As his nickname, so was his shining personality. He never faked anything but had made it a point to fight for equality for all.

 

 

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15th AUGUST –   INDEPENDENCE DAY CELEBRATIONS (HEARTIEST FELICITATIONS) 

HARD EARNED FREEDOM

HAPPY

Our forefathers got us freedom

After a lot of struggle

Against the foreign rule

The rulers who ruled

With an iron hand

Handing out deaths

For the filmiest of reasons

The rulers destroyed the traditional industries

To popularize their brand of products

Even education was devised in a manner

Which produced only chair-borne jobs

The sordid massacre of Jalliawala-Bagh

Wherein thousands were gunned down

Amongst other incidences

Which left a trail of executions 

And jails to many of the freedom fighters

Even in Cellular jail (Kala Pani) in Andaman and Nicobar

They withstood everything without any remorse

Finally got freedom from foreign repression

With a sacred pledge to create the good impression

Amongst diverse groups of people

To live in harmony

On the principles of unity in diversity

And maintain this hard-earned sovereignty

By removing the specter of poverty

Hunger, ill-will, difference based of regionalism

And narrow parochialism

And ultimately enjoy the fruits of freedom.  

15th AUGUST –   INDEPENDENCE DAY (HEARTIEST FELICITATIONS) 

Keeping in view the sacrifices made by our forefathers for the independence of our country, I pray to Almighty God that India may have inclusive growth and development, despite impediments. My wish-list for this ‘Independence Day’ and the coming ones is a mix of social harmony, current scenario, economic upliftment, incorruptible politics, probity in public discourse, remaining within the ambit of or obeying the law & order besides facing the realities of our times including the specter of terrorism, extremism, violence etc.

SWACHCH BHARAT MISSION OR ABHIYAN

Swachch Bharat Abhiyan launched by Prime Minister of India Shri Narinder Modi Ji at  Rajghat on 2nd October 2014 has paid rich dividends and it has become a campaign to make the length and breadth of India neat and clean. Neat and clean India is healthy India and healthy India is free from diseases. I wish that this mission succeeds by the participation of all.

SAFETY FROM FLOOD FURY

Heavy monsoon rains have resulted in deaths and destruction including destruction of standing crops and live stocks. All the rivers are overflowing their limits thus inundating the areas in their vicinity. The states severely affected in the North are Bihar, U.P., Uttaranchal; North-Eastern states, Maharashtra (Mumbai particularly). In the South, Kerala has been severely affected. Immediate steps should be taken to safeguard the lives and properties everywhere. I want all the states adversely affected by current floods should be protected on war-footings. Till such time we keep our internal situation stabilized and protected from natural calamities or external aggression, we cannot call ourselves full free since inclusive progress is not possible without internal and external defenses.

LYNCHING ON HE FALSE RUMOUR

 Lately, we have seen the sordid episodes of lynching by unruly groups due to false news through social media/(internet/word app etc). It is a blot on our social ethics and civilized behavior and should be curbed by the law enforcement agencies because it any-social behavior puts our country disrepute in the eyes of the comity of nations. We should exercise our rights but it should not be by transgressing or trampling on others’ rights. The rights of Dalits and weaker sections of the society.

SPECTER OF TERRORISM

 The world is facing the ugly face of terrorism emanating from some parts of the world. The terrorists are striking at will anywhere it wants causing mayhem and killing including violation of human rights. Now is the time when human rights of all the people without discrimination have to be protected. The scourge of terrorism and violence have to be tackled with the iron hand. This is an international problem and should be tackled under the aegis of UNO otherwise the humanity as a whole will suffer without unreasonably.

ATTACHMENT WITH THE COUNTRY

 There may be some differences due to diverse cultural traditions, diverse religions, diverse caste and creed, colour, language etc but we should always have an enduring love for our LAND – BHARAT. When different voices are heard, we get saddened. A RIGHT MESSAGE should go that despite differences, we are ONE. Nothing can divide us.

DEMONETIZATION AND ITS AFTER-EFFECTS

 Though demonetization of currency notes of R. 1000/- and Rs. 500/- have increased the tally of Income Tax Payees, it has also helped the Government in bringing to fore the hidden money kept in safe havens besides helping the Government to stop counterfeit or fake notes. With the availability of cash in the banking stream, they can meet their requirements of loaning cash to the general public along with meeting the adverse conditions created by NPA of the Banks.

HUMAN RESOURCE DEVELOPMENT

 Education of the masses is one of the important factors for the overall health of the country. Care ought to be exercised that students are taught the skills along with the general education so that they ‘earn while they learn’. Skilled and semi-skilled training should be imparted according to the capacity and capability of the student. We are rich in Human Resource. We have to exploit this rich resource for our own benefit. This is also important for avoid brain drain which is presently happening. Our IITs and IIMs are churning out technocrats and management professionals of the highest caliber. Their talents should never go waste. Let our Government come forward in absorbing these talents for garnering benefits for our country.

A COUNTRY WHICH RESPECTS THE RIGHTS OF WOMEN AND GIRL CHILD

 It is high time we respect our women folks. The Divine Trinity has his female counterpart; Saraswati (learning) – Lord Barmha, Lakshmi (wealth) – Lord Vishnu and Parvati (power) – Lord Shiva. All the rituals, especially auspicious ones, are incomplete without women being part of it all. Disrespecting women was construed as the disrespecting the God. All the relationships – mother, wife, daughter, sister, etc are essential for us all. In olden times these relations were considered very reverential. Without these, what is the status of the father in relation to mother, wife in relation to husband, daughter in relation to son, sister in relation to brother etc.

A woman was supposed to be the manifestation of Goddess/Shakti and the male was supposed to be incomplete without the female (Shakti) with him. Lord Shiva is incomplete with His Shakti (Maan Parvati) that is why it is called SHIVSHAKTI.

Even in Ramayana times, women used to choose their suitors – Maan Sita chose Lord Rama after he broke the Dhanush of Lord Shiva in a sacred ceremony called soBmbar. Even in Mahabharata Dropati chose Arjuna in a sobmbar.

In other words, those who want to subjugate women and refuse to give their proper place, they are hypocrites. A simple question: CAN THIS PROCREATION and raising of new GENERATION possible without women? Men and women are the equal partners and ought to be taken as such.

THREAT LOOMING LARGE FROM FOREIGN SOILS

 There are the countries which are threatening either their neighbors or are threatening using even nuclear weapons knowing full well that nobody can win by using these weapons of mass destruction. India should do whatever it can so that peace prevails everywhere. Insensitive heightened rhetoric will not help only sagacious foreign policy moves can solve the festering problems.

HEALTH CARE OF THE GENERAL MASSES

 The Government should take care of the health and wellbeing of the people in general. The hospitals should have adequate stock of medicines besides doctors and other para-medical staff to provide medicare to our citizenry. The private hospitals too should be within the reach of the general public for seeking medical care. Medical insurance should also cater to the needs of the general public.

PEOPLE’S REPRESENTATIVES SHOULD BE ACCOUNTABLE

 We choose our representatives so that they pass various legislation and do everything for the upliftment of the society as a whole. This Monsoon Session was more productive than earlier ones.

CHANGE IN THE MINDSET ON THE BASIS OF CASTE, CREED, AND COLOUR

 Previously the varnas or caste system was on the basis of professions that the people followed. Now everybody is free to profess his/her profession, therefore, there should not be any need to give more credence to narrow parochialism. Recent happenings in some parts of India are the blots on the society as a whole wherein the Dalits are beaten up mercilessly either by cow protection vigilantes or cold-shouldered even by the law enforcement agencies when approached by them for action. These incidences also echoed in the Parliament and all expressed their anguished on the sordid incidents. On the name of cow protection, some irresponsible and heartless instead of taking recourse to lawful action law unto themselves and hand out punishment in the full glare of the public. People, in general, are incensed by these incidents and the Centre and States should come forward and bestow protection to the Dalits and weaker sections of the society.
 
I WANT MY INDIA TO BE SENSITIVE TO THE NEEDS OF FELLOWMEN

 The insensitivity and callousness that we show towards road accident victims is really pathetic. Our heart should feel pain when anybody is pained.

HONORING THE NATIONAL HEROES

 It should be our endeavor to respect the dependents of those who laid down their lives for the freedom of our country. Not only freedom fighters but those who lay down their lives to protect the hard earned freedom. We remember our heroes only when some unsavory incident of terrorist happens but soon thereafter we woefully forget their valor and supreme sacrifices.

TRADITIONAL MODES OF BEHAVIOR/VALUES

 It is a sad commentary that we are forgetting the traditional modes of behavior. The values which our forefathers attached to family and our cultural modes of behavior is being forgotten and in its place, narrow regional considerations are being given credence knowing fully well that these are neither beneficial to anybody in the society. I would like my countrymen to imbibe traditional values for which my Bharat is acclaimed since ages with the dictum, respect others if you want to get respect. It is never a one-sided affair.

SELF RESPECT

 It is a fact that respect is earned by our day to day behavior and demeanor. We have to earn our respect. It is not given to us on the platter for nothing. If I want that others should respect me, it is essential that I respect others. One who knows how to maintain self-respect knows the need of respecting others on the basis of quid pro quo. It is synonymous with: Charity begins at home. Even a small child will respond with respect if I treat that child well.

ECONOMICALLY STRONG COUNTRY

 Nowadays, economical d the development of any nation is very essential. For becoming economically strong, it is important that all the sectors of the economy; may it be industrial or agricultural should contribute their mite for the economic health of the economy. This can only happen when we have inclusive growth and development. Nothing happens in isolation.

RESPECT OF BHARAT MATA IN THE COMITY OF NATIONS

 We are connected with other countries of the world. Anything that happens in one part of the world has its reverberations/repercussions in other parts of the world. It may be economical deceleration, political upheaval, extremists/terrorists strikes/activities, all these have their effects on all the countries.

IF WE WANT TO PROGRESS, IT IS A MUST THAT WE ARE INTERNALLY STRONG

 For this to happen, it is a must that we are economically stable, politically strong, militarily strong, whose opinion is taken with a pinch of salt diplomatically, help the weaker countries with finance and sometimes militarily as done in case of African nations by India many a time.

BLACK MONEY MENACE

 It has been seen that in order to avoid paying taxes and to escape from queries of sources of black money, people are stashing their ill-gotten monies in the foreign banks in the process, bleeding the country. The money which ought to have been used in job creation, infrastructural creation/improvement, etc are being used by others! The government, in the light of directions of the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India, has constituted SIT to unearth black money. This is a welcome step. Let’s see if it could show tangible results and bring back the black money which could be used in our country.

CORRUPTION FREE SOCIETY

 One of the impediments that are eating into the very vitals of our society is the hydra-headed corruption. We are aware of the scamps and corrupt practices that were used in allotting coal blocks, use of middleman in defence purchases, and currently, even the Judiciary has come under attack with some people tarnishing its image. God forbid, this is the wing of our society which should/is respected the most if it falls prey to corruption then on whom our society will bank on! Wish that our country becomes corruption free one. This is a crying need of the hour as corruption is taking the wheels of progress backward.

UNQUESTIONABLE INTEGRITY

 I would like all people with unquestionable integrity for upholding the unity and solidarity of India. This is the most essential asset for an individual. If it is in suspect then the very existence of ours is in doubt and a life with doubt is fraught with impediments.
  
RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER’s FAITHS AND BELIEFS

 India has diverse cultural modes. Its different religions, castes, creeds, belief systems, languages etc. If we respect each others’ modes of behavior, then there would be cohesion and brotherhood amongst our countrymen. When we are united, then no power can subjugate us. For this to happen in the real sense of terms, it is important that we respect each other rights.

SPIRITUALLY FORWARD NATION

 One of my fondest wishes is that India may become progressive but with spiritualistic outlook, where people are awakened morally, culturally, aesthetically, progressive and more compassionate. Also keeping all along in that progress – leaving none.

RESEARCH AND DEVELOPMENT (R&D)

Due to one reason or the other, this has been experienced that our R&D is just in the doldrums. For example, the different projects which are being pursued by DRDO are not fructifying on time or lacking the necessary resources (manpower or other resources). For example, the project for producing indigenous fighter aircraft project is just not complete till date. Wish that our R&D matches with best in the world so that we do not be dependent on others for our defence needs or any other crucial needs.

INDUSTRIAL DEVELOPMENT TAKES PLACE

 Due to one reason of the other, the industrial development of our country remains almost stagnant or is below par. This is due to lack of resources. A country whose markets are being exploited by foreigners remains industrial backward is really bad. People buy and use Chinese made goods at cheaper rates without any guarantee of their use. Can India not manufacture the same goods for their own people and exploit the gigantic market – benefiting the industry and the people both. The profit earned by the owners of the industry could then be pumped for more production and increasing their capacities.

AGRICULTURAL DEVELOPMENT IS ENSURED

 Due to beggaries of monsoon, the agricultural production remains uncertain. The fear of scanty rain results in an increase in prices of food item/vegetables etc creating food inflation. This is especially so in rainy season. The prices of vegetables are skyrocketing. The people do feel a pinch.
  
• If water management is properly done, then, the deficit created by the scarcity of rain could be bridged.
• The Government’s project/ plan of connecting major river could do wonders in this regard.

MISCELLANEOUS DEVELOPMENT FOR ALL ROUND DEVELOPMENT

  • Pollution to be tackled on the war footings.
    Infrastructure Development ought to be a continuous process.
    • Imports / Export Policies oriented for improvement of imports and exports. More exports mean more foreign currency for the country. The more foreign currency could reduce the budget deficit which has become a number one headache for the country.
    • Foreign Exchange Reserve to be replenished.
    • Fiscal Policies revised as per the need of the hour so that the current rate/value of rupee does not fall as is being happened presently.
    • IT Sector to be given the boost. India is potentially a soft power giant. But we have to exploit this resource to the hilt as is being done by other countries. Our IT experts are proving their mettle in other countries. We are thus losing our human resources and also the benefits which our country ought to have garnered.
  • It should never be forgotten that other countries too are improving in the IT sector. It is a must that this Sector should be given more incentive so that it improves further and earns much needed Foreign Exchange for the country.
  • The above are some of our wish-list which every right-thinking Indian would like to have for the overall development of the Bharat of our dream.

It is my fond wish that our next Independent Day should be more progressive in its outlook, self-reliant, spiritually awakened and its youth positively oriented for steering the ahead from the choppy waters of deceleration. Also, there should be peace and tranquility between different communities. Discrimination on the basis of narrow regionalism or caste, creed or language should cease and our dharma should be developed for all – all-inclusive.

 

ON BEING REAL

ON BEING REAL

In essence, we make pacts or planning for future, paradoxically, on the edifice of our past events without realizing that we shall not be visiting again the days gone-by. Factually, what happened or did not happen cannot be changed now. Past events should not haunt us. It is unreal. Only today, the present moment that we are living now is real.

Similarly, the future, on which we rely profusely, too is illusory or not real. It may come or not, we cannot say for sure. Therefore, only that which is sure is present, ONLY TODAY which we are living is real and cherish. We should thank God that He has given the opportunity of living this day. This moment is mine and every other time; pas which is gone and future is tentative – laced in uncertainty.  

While we make planning for future, for coming days, the execution of that planning virtually rests on the day we are living, now presently. Hence TODAY makes a huge difference in everything we transact or do not intend to transact.

With this intention in mind, I have penned down a poem; ONLY FOR TODAY giving the significance of today which we shall not encounter in any other day. It is presently now at this moment only.

ONLY FOR TODAY

Knowledge

Only for today I shall cherish and live happily the present moment

Only for today I shall not live in the dead past or think of future which is uncertain

Only for today I shall remain happy despite pinprick felt

Only for today I shall help somebody stand on his/her feet

Only for today I will forget and forgive others’ misdemeanors

Only for today I shall thank God for giving me everything that I require

Only for today I shall remain humble

Only for today I shall exploit my inner strength

Only for today I shall not think negative

Only for today I shall pray God to give me strength to change what I could not

Only for today I shall remain incharge of what I want to do or do not want

Only for today I shall avail every opportunity that comes my way

Only for today I shall love amazing opportunities to reform myself

Only for today I shall work in association with my God

Only for today I shall thank God for everything that He has graced.

Only for today I shall show loving care for everybody I come across

Only for today I shall follow the wisdom given in scriptures

Only for today I shall have the confidence of facing anything

Only for today I shall not fear anything or anybody

Only for today I shall be courageous to withstand any hurdles which comes my way

Only for today I shall not have even a touch of egocentric tendency

Only for today I shall live spirally

Only for today I shall be happier than I was in past

Only for today I shall consider myself as worthy of love

Only for today I shall holistically improve myself

Only for today I shall spread smiles

Only for today I shall have immense belief on me and my Creator

Only for today I shall create pleasant environment wherever I set foot

Only for today I shall have cooperation and coordination with all and sundry

Only for today I shall not be swayed by others’ irrational and unreasonable criticism

Only for today I shall come to the succor of others

Only for today I shall pray for peaceful co-existence

It is because past is dead and future is uncertain

Today is my own I shall not barter it for anything.

 

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FRIENDSHIP

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FRIENDSHIP

 

When nothing significant works for us

Every door for coming out

We find closed fatefully

No course of action

Seems open for us naturally

A fellow comes to our succor

Opens with own helping hands

The closed doors ajar

And provides the possibility of openings for us

This alliance so supportive

To pull out of any state

That ‘time’ presents itself  

For each other so caring

When the need arises.

Once amity is established

Then the friendship is further cemented

By the basketful of trust

Which gives the friendship

The stamp of permanency

This friendship could be between those who meet us daily

Or, possibly

From beyond the borders, we have not traversed ever

Between. those whom we have not met any time personally

This thread of closeness is felt by us instinctively

Because the indelible stamp of the God is affixed on this friendship.

 

OUR RELATIONSHIP GOES BEYOND BLOOD RELATIONS

 

RELATIONSHIP

 relationship

What we learn from our parents

We become ultimately

If quality time is given to our offspring

They will mirror that attitude outside their homes

Ignore them when paying attention is needed

They’ll themselves be spoiled

And will embroil in pointless turmoil

Negatively impacting the harmony at home.

Whence the spouses have differences aplenty

These ought to be sorted out amicably.

When the grown-ups progenies

Do not care their old-aged parents

And leave them at the mercies of elements

They are not the candidates

For the blessings of our Creator

And ultimately, they’ll meet

The same fate

When they themselves grow old

As Karma always haunts us finally

We reap what we sow ultimately

Establishing deep rapport between all concerned is a must

For a relationship for the win-win situation.

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THE MEANING OF RELATIONSHIP

Essentially, first of all, it is important to know what a relationship means. A relationship means having an association, affinity, liaison, a correlation for a purpose. In order to have cordiality and harmony in our relationship, we have to have trust with each other, compatibility, understanding, positive attitude, appreciation of others’ viewpoints et also that the relationship gets solidified and sanctified no extraneous force can influence that relationship. The extraneous factors could be in the form of bad-mouthing, misunderstanding due to some unfortunate incident, etc.

RELATION BEYOND BLOOD RELATION IS POSSIBLE BY THE GRACE OF GOD

It is beyond doubt that human blood holds no narrow sectarian divisions. The human blood holds the key for knitting a bond between the communities. Humans are the best creations of our God. Here blood relation or otherwise hardly matters. The following instance holds good.

A Hindu and a Muslim husband had kidney ailments and required immediate transplants. Respective wives agreed to donate their kidneys for their husbands. But there was the problem of blood group compatibility. The problem could only be resolved if each woman donated her kidney to the other’s husband. This was only the only possible way to save the lives of respective husbands.

After hectic consultations with doctors and husbands, it was decided to transplant the kidneys of each others’ donors. Thus the successful exchange of kidneys to both the patients (belonging to Hindu and Muslim) saved the lives of both the men. This proves that there is no difference created by our Creator. The differences are created by humans only – our own creation. Only the human mind holds the key. We all humans are linked with each other with a common thread with our Almighty God as the final arbiter and not based on any sectarian standpoint.

WHAT WE TEACH OUR CHILDREN AT HOME THEY WILL REFLECT THOSE TRAITS OUTSIDE

A few days back, I was witness to two incidents wherein I came to know how much the parents could influence their children positively or negatively. A revelation or manifestation,  how their wards display their general behavior outside their homes. It has been observed that our children imbibe those qualities which we teach them. Yesterday,

A student of 8th class was hit by another student on the forehead due to which blood started oozing from the wound. Necessary medicare was provided instantly. Both the parents were called to the school along with their respective wards. While deciding on the quantum of punishment to be awarded, as a deterrence, the head of the institute asked the student who was hit on the forehead a question; ‘Should we expel the student from the class for hitting you’? The boy respectfully replied, ‘No sir, I do not want the student to be expelled from the school since he will not be able to appear for the ongoing unit tests’ and continued, ‘this will also put a stop to his studies’. All of us were surprised after hearing the reply from the student. His parents too did not want the student to be rusticated. They wanted the concerned student to be forgiven and allowed to rectify his behavior and nothing else. The parents of the unruly student were influenced immensely. They repented for not giving right value system to their ward and promised to do so in future.

In the second case in point, it so happened that a student was caught red-handed taking money from other student’s bag. The concerned teacher asked the mother of the child if she had given her the money which was found in his pocket. The mother flatly refused having given the money! That is the example others too should set. Later on, the child confessed to having taken the money from other student’s bag and he promised not to repeat this in future. If only the mother had told the teacher that she had given money to her son in order to save him then it would have set a bad example. The boy would have been reckless in his demeanor because of protection by the parents. Even the father did not hide his discomfiture and wanted to refine his son. A relationship between the parents and offspring is, therefore, based on mutual trust and the parents should make concerted efforts to noticeably improve the behavior of their children.  

From the two incidents, it is evident that what we teach our children at home is reflected outside. If we teach them the traits of tolerance, patience, persistence and above all forgiveness, they will follow those traits and behave accordingly. 

PAST SHOULD NOT HAUNT OUR PRESENT RELATIONSHIP

There are times when we come to know some past event, which has the recipe of adversely affecting the relationship, just try to forget that past event. Or make it a habit to clear the air between the two parties so that that ‘event’ may not tarnish the relationship so assiduously nurtured and established. It should always be remembered that doubts and skepticism are the enemies of relationship.

EFFECT OF HIDING ANYTHING FROM OUR PARTNER

Never ever hide anything from your partner because if the reality comes to the fore after sometimes, it may come in the way of establishing cordially in the relationship. A chasm may be created by this thing even though seemingly so innocuous.

WARMNESS IN THE RELATIONSHIP

Lip sympathy will not help a relationship to flourish. A healthy relationship could be established only when there is sincerity of purpose in everything we are undertaking.

IN RELATIONSHIP DIFFERENCES ARE SURE TO BE THERE

It should always be remembered that in the relationship, there will not be rosy days always. Some differences may also creep up on silly pretexts, do not allow those differences to simmer on but let those differences be solved peacefully on the principle of giving and take.

DIFFERENCES SHOULD BE SETTLED AMICABLY

There are times when we come to know about things from others about your partner, then, the same thing should be discussed with your partner and confidence established for a healthy living.

It should also be kept in mind that relationship is not a one-sided traffic, both sides have to wear the brunt of the situation in which they are placed. It is not that one partner may put up everything and the other one is not caring. The relationship can flourish when both partners are enthused to live life with complete understanding and comes to each others’ succor/assistance whenever there is a need.

SMALL THINGS SHOULD NOT BE STRETCHED UNNECESSARILY

Sometimes we let ourselves swayed by small things which could otherwise be forgotten thereby spoiling the peace and tranquility of the household.

NO TRIBUTION IN THE RELATIONSHIP

Never ever pay back in the same coin. The relationship will run smoothly when you let go sometimes. It should always be remembered that peaceful co-existence is the key to the success of any relationship. The alacrity with which a difference is settled peacefully cannot be settled in anger or through emotional perturbation.

If and when some important matters which has got implications on the entire family, should be discussed and the final decision has taken so that no party feels let down by the final decision reached.

NO IMPOSITION OF OPINION

Never impose your opinion on your partner. It will boomerang ultimately. Both the partners should grow together holistically.

Surrender control, let the natural process come to play – total control may take the relationship stiffing/suffocating.

Let the opinion be exchanged in a congenial atmosphere – the opinions of other partners should be respected.

The sincerity of purpose should always be there in whatever is being transacted which has bearing on another partner.

There are times when controlling emotions and highly reactive situations have to be done, if the situation goes off the tangent, due to one pretext or other, it is bad for the healthy relationship. There should be a limit to this. This far and no further should always be there. One of the big spoilers of relationship is emotional perturbation. Never ever let it go off-tangent.

LOVE is a binding force in any relationship, let the fragrance of LOVE flourish in the entire household. It is a panacea for any relationship to be successful.

Learn to be tolerant and have the principle of let-go always. These two are essential for any successful relationship.

We should always see the life as a unit and not in a compartmentalized segment.

Develop the relationship slowly but surely – brick by brick and cementing it with the potion of LOVE, TRUST, APATHY, FAITH, BELIEF, TOLERANCE, LET GO ETC.

ADDICTS SEEK PLEASURE IN INTOXICANT WHEN THEIR RELATION DO NOT CLICK

There are occasions when we do not get our relationship in order, we seek recompense in drugs and other intoxicants to forget our state of the relationship. These, instead of making the relationship click more roadblocks are created in the relationship.

THE  EDIFICE OF RELATIONSHIP ARE CREATED BY MUTUAL TRUST

It should never be forgotten that relationship amongst blood relations, in the society or in the international sphere could be developed through our understanding by the instinctive connect without any discrimination of any kind. It could be the relationship as readers of others’ write-ups or exchanging ideas  spreading wellness amongst all.

ON BLESSINGS AND CURSES

 

ON BLESSINGS AND CURSES

BOONS/BLESSINGS

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The situation in which we are placed

By somebody’s evil design or through the quirk of luck

Could be alleviated by the bounteous graces of our Lord

And partly by our own parent’s blessings

Due to whom we’re here on this planet

And also by our venerable Gurus/teachers

Who gives us the knowledge to discriminate

Between what is good and what is not so good.

We earn blessings after we meet somebody’s need

Without any mention of it to any

With which that person tides over the situation

In which willy-nilly he is placed

In this God’s blessings are always there aplenty.

And the grace of God puts us in the advantageous position

And brings about windfall gains

Changing the blighted state of affairs

Into the bright state of affairs

Boon provides us with an opportunity

To come out of a piquant situation unscathed

When all opposition that we experience

Gets melted by the positive innate energy

Provided by the boons of all we get

Boons have the potential to multiply

Whereby we come to know how to live a purposeful life.

BLESSINGS ARE THE FORERUNNER OF GOOD TIDINGS IN OUR LIVES

Blessings to others encourage us individually to be courageous in handling emergencies or challenges although mere boons will not help, we ourselves have to act to succeed. As far as possible, we should earn blessings through our earnest and right karma. These blessings can help us tide over any situation we p;ut our hands on. I have escaped many a time from the jaws of death because of blessings I have earned from my elders and others with whom I came across. Blessings or boons help us face any contingencies since God’s graces to are enmeshed in them.

ROLE OF BLESSINGS IS REALLY IMMENSE

The role of blessings can do wonders is amplified by the battle between Kauravas and Pandavas. Although the Kauravas had all the renowned warriors including Bhishmpatama, who besides being a great warrior was blessed with not to have death till he himself wanted, Guru Dronachariya, Guru Kirpahariya etc and others are known to be known for their war tactics and expertise. On the other hand, Pandavas though were having Lord Krishna yet he did not actively involve in the war but his blessings were with Pandavas thus ultimately won.

REASON FOR GIVING CURSES AND BLESSINGS

It is a fact that we get cursed and blessed according to our deeds and misdeeds. Therefore, we should be cautious while transacting our actions. We should not do anything which may earn somebody’s wrath. Breaking of somebody’s heart by our omissions and commission can spell doom for us since it will be attacked with ur thought processes. Thoughts of curses and blesses materialize from our emotions and its effect or otherwise depending on the foundation of truth or untruth thereof.

OUR CURSES EMANATE FROM OUR INNER SELF

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While we unreasonably insinuate, intimidate or overawe/ terrorize somebody without rhyme or reason an upsurge of emotion comes out of the inner recesses of our heart. It is an involuntary impulse which has the imprint of earnestness and sincerity.

Why to give reason anybody to curse us? Hence, while transacting our day to day activities, we should take care that we do not execute anything which may earn us their wrath and ill-will. One should be aware of his actions whether they are helpful or making others feel vulnerable? We can’t say that each and every curse or blessing affects us. But there are some among them who may show their result in the future. Then the curses and blessings also affect the person concerned who gives blessings or curses. A person who is giving these should be clear in his/her mind, no rancor or ill-will, no jealousy or greed, in other words, no negative feeling. If we tend to displease any person unreasonably then we are in for his/her retribution in the form of a curse. It depends on such individual – maybe he/she pardon us yet the tag of the misdemeanor will always be there in our conscious mind.

In the Bible, curses are not the consequence of passion or revenge but these are the prediction.

While we are unnecessary victimized without rhyme or reason then we feel perturbed and become helpless and out of vengeance an inner voice comes out involuntarily and that is a curse.

EXAMPLES OF CURSES

For instance, in epic Mahabharata, when Gandhari, the wife of King Dhritarashtra the mother of Duryodhana came to know that her sons have died on the battlefield she could not control herself; she uttered furiously, “You Krishna, the young king of Dwaraka, you who I worshipped as Vishnu avatars of the supreme godhead are not you ashamed of your doings” and continued that he should have averted the war if he wanted. She further expressed in utter disgust. “If my Bhakti is true and if I have been true to my husband then, you may die in 36 years from today, may your Dwaraka be flooded and may every one of your Yadava clan perish by killing each other. May the Yadavas be killed, be killed.” This curse came true to perfection.

Then the curse to Ashwathama by Lord Krishna, who deceptively and mistakenly killed all the five sleeping sons of Pandavas thinking them to be five Pandavas. For this deceptive killings, Lord Krishna cursed him that he will carry the burden of all people’s sins and will roam about in Kaliyoga with this burden of sin.

Essentially, there are umpteenth examples of sages or rishis handing out curses on anybody who interrupted their penance or meditation. Rishi Durbasa was one such example who hurdled curses on anyone who came his way and his curses came true. But it is known that his curses had always some purpose.

CURSES TOO COULD PROVE COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE


God is very kind enough to bestow upon us the gifts of nature in the form of air, water and light and that too without any payment. Then the natural beauties such as imposing mountains, water bodies (ponds, lakes, rivulets etc), forest covers, Then we are also gifted with our senses to enjoy all the five senses including the six sense i.e. intuition or insight.

AdvThe roll of blessings can do wonders is amplified by the battle between Kauravas and Pandavas. Although the Kauravas had all the renowned warriors including Bhishma who was having the power to survive, Guru Kirt Verma and others and Pandavas though were having Lord Krishna yet he did not actively involve in battle but his blessings were with Pandavas thus ultimately they won.

CURSES TOO COULD PROVE COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE

We are aware that the energy keeps on transferring from one form to another. It has been seen that energy flows from a stronger body to a weaker body. The intensity of the curse depends on the recipient.

No one can harm another by curses. Blessings also are only a psychological feeling of goodness. If your mind feels good you feel good, and if your mind feels bad you feel bad. Nobody can impact your life either by curses or blessings. If someone tells you are wicked or bad, your are upset. If someone praises you, you feel nice and happy. If you are not really bothered, how will anything affect you?

THANKS FOR “THE BLOGGER RECOGNITION AWARD”

 

1. My gratitude to Mr. Didi Sir, foblogger-recognitionr “THE BLOGGER RECOGNITION AWARD” vide

https://didisvgp.wordpress.com/2018/07/20/honoured-by-given-the-blogger-recognition-award/My Link:
http://harbansinnerthoughts.com

2. Write a post to show your award.

I am hugely thankful to you for nominating my name for Blogger Recognition Award. This award is a sign of recognition which my write-ups must have attained in the eyes of Didi sir – a prolific writer in his own right. Coming from him is surely a great thing in itself.

The following are the contributions of Mr. DIDI’s blog which in fact have changed many a lives and playing a stellar role to spread the message of how to remain positive despite hurdles in life through his write-ups in the form of poetry and prose:-

  1. Spread the all encompassing message of Sant Kprpal Singh and also that of KIRPAL SAGAR.
  2. How best to spread the spirituality to the general masses.
  3. To understand the life and end.
  4. The ease with which the message of wellness is spread through poems with a huge message – the ease with which even a novice could understand the intricacies of life.
  5. Inspirational comments on other bloggers write-ups.
  6. Clarification of doubts in the minds of those who do not know much about mysticism of God.

I have gone through your write-ups including poetry which I consider as ‘must read’ and incorporate the sagacity contained in that. Really, it is an ocean of knowledge on spirituality and other topics which are relevant to live life purposefully and for a cause. This wisdom is the rich treasure of legacy left by Sant Kirpal Singh and other pious souls who contributed immensely to the cause of spreading goodness, wellness and everything which are essential for enhancing the humanism.

To be nominated by you is a greatness in itself. I obviously cherish this as a boon from  DIDI sir.

I take a simple vegetarian diet, which contains milk products, vegetables, dal/pulses including chapaties made out of wheat flour etc.

3. Give a brief story of how your blog started.

I started writing this blog 28th May 2011. The first poem that I had penned down was “ANGER” and then it all started. Before this, I had no experience of blogging at all. Writing though was my passion. I used to write poetry and short stories for radio.
WORDPRESS offered me a platform from where I learned much by appraising the blogs of others and giving them the opportunity to go through my own. Then readers’ comments enriched my outlook and also bestowed me the necessary motivation for forwarding movement.

My topics are based on my personal interactions with others and are part of my experiences which I had in my life either during my service stint firstly in Governmental and now in the private sector. I come across different people with different caliber which provides an opportunity to write on. I am of the firm conviction that remaining busy is an art and can add to our knowledge which is penned down in blogs. Till now, I have written around 580 write-ups on the variety of subjects along with poetry. My blogs contain topics on spirituality, topics on parenting, topics on discipline, spirituality etc.
On perusal of write-ups of different authors of repute, I gain know-how which I utilize in my day to day life too. If I say that I am still a student, there is no exaggeration.

4. Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.

My Advice to Beginners:

(a) Courage to write on the topics affecting our youth, for this experiences gained in school, college and university and how best they can gain their knowledge in these formal institutions. By so doing, our budding writers can get a feeling life in these formal institutions and suggest measures to improve life in these institutions because after getting the necessary education the youth has to adopt different vocations in their lives.

(b) If the topics selected are based on our daily personal experiences or our interactions with others on the topics impinging on the philosophy of life, socio-economic conditions, the topic on imbibing discipline etc. the blogs would attract more reader.

(c) Take the assistance of some Dharma Guru who could mold them spiritually and then pen down those experiences in their write-ups.

(d) The words and phrases used should be easy to understand and should contain some ethical and moral lessons.

My Nominees are as under (5):

(Participation is, of course, a voluntary matter – when joining have much fun, dear bloggers):

1. https://shapeshiftpt.wordpress.com/
2. https://santoshnc.wordpress.com/
3. https://reveuse014.wordpress.com/
4. https://meenas17.com/
5. https://akhilaramanujam.wordpress.com/
6. https://krishnapriyagopi.wordpress.com/
7. https://drmolaplume.com/
8. https://iskarius.com/
9. https://emotionspassion.wordpress.com/
10. https://ezzy2017.com/
11. https://mysuccessisyoursuccess.wordpress.com/
12. https://sunshinysasite.wordpress.com/
13. https://slpmartin.wordpress.com/
14. https://kipwalkin.wordpress.com/
15. https://darkpink.wordpress.com/

My questionnaires are as follows:-

1. How do the boons of our well-wishers help us to live a purposeful life?
2. Do the curses adversely affect our forward movement?
3. Is there life after death?
4. Difference between soul and spirit.
5. Is not it, we get what we sow?

All the above are optional.

Thank you, my dear blogger friends, for your presence and attention!

HARBANS